Indeed, I too agree. This is terrible advice for men. The best way to increase your chance of success from 0% is to try again, not do nothing and stay a 0.

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the man should take the initative. i´m shy to do it. i remember, before we went out i could barely talk when he was nearby
but if i had to confess then on his brithday, on christmas or on valentines day while giving him a present. of course no one should be around. and after that i would run away and stay at home for to days giving him time to think about it.

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How selfish! Men can be shy, too...

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i have never meet a shy guy before. all the guys i know are normal or blunt. some of them make me wonder if they even know the word shame.

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I don't know much about that since I have never been shy myself but I think talking to girls is much easier than confessing your love to someone you like, It's specially hard if you can talk to the person, because more than your love interest you can lose a friend.

About the guys that don't know the word shame, they aren't men, they are kids.

And I am in the same boat, too. Never say that I love my family (maybe as a child), but I do love them. I can't show affection properly for my friends either. And especially not for someone I like. Geez.

Indeed all that you said is true and I won't deny it. I'd just like to add that I prefer to live with regrets than to go through something like that again. It's not that I was rejected (I was but that's not the worst thing about the experience), the girl also made sure to humiliate me thoroughly. To be rejected with a simple no is something that I could have forgot easily.

My advice may be just for wimpy guys but I think it's important that guys understand that things like this could happen. That's why I said that the guy should only confess under some certainties, because if that's the case you should have courage and go for it.

hmm I've only ever really done it when I'm somewhat certain that she likes me too. though I've never really said anything like 'I love you'. Ive done something like kissing a girl then asking her if she likes me.
(that's the boldest thing I've ever done)

I was just glad she didn't slap me.

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Ah, I meant to defend your statement, but then I read this new one and realized I misunderstood you.

I do agree that confessing is a bad idea in most cases. You should at least ask people out before splurting 'I love you'. Who the heck just confesses out of nowhere!?? (I'm presuming everyone posting in this thread is out of kindergarten, if not feel free to confess around).

But wimping is very bad for your health.

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I had assumed we were really talking about asking people out, instead of springing "I love you" on people.

That truly is something you shouldn't do, and it doesn't even work in manga. It certainly doesn't help that in manga, most of the time these people have barely talked beforehand, either.

Hm, it seems when I first entered this topic I hadn't taken to thinking of it as asking people out on a date.

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i would just tell the girl how much i love her, then if its sortet out kiss and have sex ofcourse!

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lol i doubt u would just jump straight to the endgame. that RARELY happens right afterwards.

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no i wouldn't because i ment to a girl that i know and have been with and know personally, not some girl that im stalking, or that doesn't know who the heck i am. So please do a facepalm because i did one to for not explaining myself


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I'm the same way when it comes to confessions.
But it's not because I'm bold.
I just fail at expressing myself with words.
I go in circles thinking about what I want to say.
So I just end up hugging or kissing a guy because I don't know what to say.
I'm glad I don't have to be worried about getting slapped.

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I wouldn't. Just going up to somebody and saying "I love you, can we go out?" is incredibly stupid. Seriously, how often does it work?

If I liked a woman I'd try to become her friend first, then move it beyond that, go out on dates, etc, and then when the mood feels right you just tell her, and hope that you haven't jumped the gun and said it before she feels the same way.

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