Quote from 6655321
thanks for the suggestions but ... i've read all of them
Sorry, I did look to see if you had reading/completed lists before posting. That might help.
If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.
From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."