I am looking for Yaoi or Yuri series that has one lover physically and/or mentally abusing their partner in a non-sexual manner. I don't mind if the series has sex or even rape in it as long as that is not the main abuse. In other words I want abuse that is not erotic in any way. Mental abuse is also fine, as in locking your partner in their room or throwing threats at the other person.
I am sick and tired of abuse being portayed as something sexy and even used to show love. They use excuses like; He was only cruel because he saw me with another man/woman= he was jealous = he loves me. I want serious and realistic abuse. (Sexual abuse is OK if it is written in a non-erotic way and not justified and the victim does not forgive his/her abuser)
I always thought of it as more emotional than sexual, I mean, we don't have him being raped in a erotic fashion. It's the pure look of fear and control. Aside from that, he was just plain mean, like how he didn't tell the main character about his brother's death