Quote from Turbophoenix
Quote from the-burden
I was with a loving caring woman for 2 years until she got sick of me not having a job and being more or less broke all the time. I soon realised that no matter how kind I was which honestly even she would agree I was kind and helpful with chores and mostly everything.
It did not matter because I had not enough money to go out and pay for certain things for her.
Don't mistake this woman for a gold digger because she was nothing of the sort but it's just a fact that you need money to keep a relationship strong.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience and everything, but it's not a fact. Maybe some high maintenance women need you to be cashed up for them to stay with you, but those kinds of women don't deserve your attention to begin with.
Actually, I agree with the-burden's point about needing money to keep a
long-term relationship alive, or at least in the beginning(when you're deciding whether this person is worth your time). Wouldn't you like to go out for a nice date every now and then? Wouldn't you like to spend time in a new place together and have some nice memories? Wouldn't you like your SO surprising you with a gift? I'm talking about both sides,whatever gender you are. I'm pretty sure guys would be just as ecstatic if his girlfriend bought him a new game or gym equipment he's been raving about. Relationships are normally quite expensive, even if both people are pulling their weight(which they should).
"Oh I don't want him buying me things," girls can usually say. Try putting up with your boyfriend not buying you a single gift for your whole relationship then. I want to marry someone who will help me maintain a life that is financially stable, no matter how much I love him. "Love" can't be the only thing that makes a relationship go. You have to think about yourself and what kind of future you want. Would you rather be with someone that you love with financial problems or a different person that you also love without those problems?
Anyway, my two cents regarding the OP's question is for long-term relationships. IMO the
most important part of
any relationship is communication. If a relationship has communication problems, then you are bound to fail, unless you both fix it correctly. Proper communication means using proper judgement, patience, honesty(with proper judgement), listening skills, respect, understanding, an open heart, and sometimes humility.
You feel insecure? Talk about it. You want more sex? Talk about it. You don't like how he does something? Talk about it. This is what frustrates me about shoujo: there are always communication problems and they blow up into a huge conflict. If everyone calmly talked about their problems, then they could be solved with the least damage, even if a break up is due to happen. And sometimes, that's not a bad thing...If the other person is not communicating well, be patient and help them open up. If two people really wanted a relationship to last, they should be willing to listen to each other and talk it out and come to a resolution.
TL;DRLearn how to communicate effectively and you have a stronger relationship.
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