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How do you motivate yourself to do something (important) you are absolutely totally completely unwilling to do?
Start doing it? No seriously, I'm about as bad a procrastinator + ADD case as you can get, and I've learned the only way to get myself doing something is to just start the damn thing. It helps if it's due in the morning and the consequences of not doing it are pretty high, but that's not sure fire. Another thing that gets me motivated is by tricking myself into being interested in it by finding something random that looks shiny. Like if it's a coding task, I try to use a brand new library or optimize my code to death, and if it's studying I read all the history tidbits (which is random when you consider this was for math and physics tests) and I once got through a paper by writing it using a structure that matched the topic of the paper. The only other thing that works for me is working in a group, 'cause then other people are doing it too so you get into it.
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Most of being socially adept just amounts to being nice and considerate...
And not too intense. As a veteran of quite a few geek scenes, the key to not scaring people is to not come off as one of those stereotypical panting otuku that even mangas make fun of. Even I find them off putting, and I'm about as hardcore geeky as you can get.