Hey!

Looking for a story where the female protagonist is a pretty tough person. She just can't be shy and cute like other women and frankly can't stand women who use that trait to get other men. She has a tough time finding love because she's very independent and men are intimidated by her. But then the right guy comes along and she softens up. Unfortunately, she still needs to learn to trust him and let him take care of her.

Know anything like that?
THANKS =)

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"The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on"
- Robert Bloch

You would enjoy Kaichou wa Maid-sama! if your looking for a shoujo.

I'll edit this post if more come to mind, I know I've read more but my completed list is seriously behind.

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Is this me in a nutshell?
Pretty much.

kimi wa petto

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Oresama Teacher
Junai Tokkou Taichou!

these ones are shounen
Toradora!
Yanki-kun to Megane-chan
Pretty Face
Onidere
The Legend of Maian
Mahou Tsukai Kurohime
Immortal Regis
Girls of the Wild's

'Freezing or similar manga of the author?

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Takami from Venus Capriccio is very tomboyish, cool and likeable (though she's basically really nice and does like cute stuff, including people ). Everything else about the manga matches your request, so I think you should like it.