ok ok, here's my problem, well there's a guy which i love for 7 years already, wow! seven years and i kept trying so hard to make him fall for me and things turn out great there are already many people told me that they think he also loves me because he often look and stares at me HOWEVER! a while ago i just found out that another rumor was spread out now they think that he likes my bestfriend!

They said everytime they call her name infront of him he smiles and blush and he's avoiding my best friend for a month! they said the reason why he's avoiding her because he's shy but he told me the truth which is the reason why he's avoiding her is because last year, he often got involve of her situations because everyone know that my best friend likes him and start spreading rumors that they were dating out, this and that, and got called upstairs in the faculty and get scolded with my bestfriend but i think it was just made up!

Im thinking of avoiding the guy which i liked for 7 years because i will be hurt if i stick to him AGAIN, it really really hurt when i found out that he like my bestfriend i dont know if it's true because i just found out earlier when we were practicing on my classmate's house and also they said that they caught my crush staring at my best friend

HELP! i dont want my relation with my bestfriend get ruined and i also dont want to get hurt because of my crush HELP HELP!! D:

and sorry for the wrong grammars and unrelated-to-anime question

________________


"Im a little girl who once had a hole in her heart"

If its been 7 years and no actual relationship even though you've been trying your heart out. Hes not good enough for you.

Incredibly.... i just got over an 8 year old unrequited love. And the question that came to my mind near the end of the whole affair which caused me enough heartache to last a lifetime was... "was it worth it?"... and the answer that came from within was surprisingly...."probably not"

The situation you are in... i am sure its very different from mine.. but.. you still need to ask yourself.. is this guy really worth losing your best friend over ? or you could ask the same for your best friend... is she truly your best friend.. ? Because you know... not every best friend is the "best" friend... and neither is every love really the "one".


Ok.. i am just blabbering. Best of luck anyways. May your decision be one without regrets!

if it took you 7 years just hanging out with him, nothings going to happen. Only way you can get him now is to flash skin(not to be rude) but alot of guys are simpel minded,

But, if you like him that much" just tell him(i love you or I like you more then friends) or els you'll walk for another 7 years thinking "what i something happen", and you'll feel depressed,

If you're best friend leaves you, for telling the crush of your life that you like him, then she's not your best friend and she didn't know you either that well.. don't be a chicken and stand up for yourself.
I know also how it feels to like someone & having all those feels but at one day you have to show them that, or els you leave them in the dark.


Good luck.

________________
http://fablestories.blog.com/
Check out my work 😀

I am not exactly sure, but let's see if I got it right. You and your best friend like this boy who likes your best friend. If I got it right, then read on. If not, then I am sorry.

I think best way would be to talk to your best friend face to face. Ask her clearly whether she likes this guy or not. two possible outcomes:

1. If she does not, that's the best possible situation. You can go confess to the boy without any qualms. The boy may or may not like you in this case. However, you will never know unless you try, right?

2. If she does, then you're gonna have problems. Now, this will be your problem to sort out since I dunno how your friendship works. But, if it were my best friend and I, I don't think we would ever sacrifice our friendship for a guy. Especially, one whom I didn't know very well, which seems to be your case. I haven't ever faced this situation yet, but I think both of us would give up on the guy if this ever happens. At least until one of us moves on. The one who doesn't move on would clearly have greater feelings for him.

And I don't think that you should avoid him exactly in case the worst happens. Say hi to him and stuff. This will be really hard, I know. So I hope your best friend will be there to ease the pain.

________________

In high school I had a huge crush on a close friend or years, so one day I just told him that I liked him. He didn't like me back sadly, and for a while it was awkward, but eventually (faster than I could have imagined) we got over it. The relief of having told him and knowing that he didn't feel the same allowed me to move on, and now we are still good friends. To give some perspective, I had a crush on this guy when I was around 13-18, and I told him I liked him at 18 before we went to university. Now we are 25, living half a world away from each other and we still talk often. I'm so glad I told him, even though I was rejected, because now I don't have a big "what if?" hanging over me. Tell him, no matter what happens it is better than always wondering "what if?". Live life with no regrets!

As for your best friend, firstly, it is his choice who he likes so your best friend should respect that. Once me and my best friend shared a crush, she liked him first so I backed off and let her ask him out. He said yes, they dated for 3 years, we're all still friendly now. I don't really mind because she is my best friend and is worth more than any guy, and it was his choice to make anyway. You can't force someone to like you, so it doesn't really matter whether your best friend likes him or not. He is the one who chooses, and whatever his decision is it should be accepted by both of you. If your best friend truly values you she would understand that and not hold any grudges should he choose you, and you should do likewise if he chooses her.

I know it feels painful right now, but trust me when I say that these things can be overcome. The people who truly care for you have a way of being in your life no matter what, and everyone else is just a temporary part of it. Many friends come and go, those that are precious will always stand by you whatever happens, so don't worry so much. Tell your friend that you want to ask him out and tell the boy you like him. Good luck.

________________
The pen is mightier than the sword...and considerably easier to write with.

This school dramas. Oh god i can't stop laughing.

Hey! I also think that you should tell him how you feel. Being in love for so long and not knowing whether there could be something between you two or not is harder than being rejected. That is my experience.
I have also liked a boy for a very long time and didn't say anything. It took a very long time to get over him because I was always hopeful. Recently I had a crush on a friend of mine and told him about it. He is not interested but I'm very glad that I told him and don't have to feel this insecurity anymore. I also don't have any regrets which are the worst thing in my opinion^^ Because otherwise you'll always think: "Maybe we could have become a couple if I had done this and that,..."

Regarding your best friend:
I would ask her if she really likes him and if she doesn't, ask her to stop messing with him because it also hurts you. If both of you like him, then you have to talk about how you are going to deal with that. You could both confess and either both of you get rejected ( in which case you can both curse him ) or one of you gets lucky. But in either case you are not stuck in the situation you have been for so long.

Well, I wish you best of luck and courage to move forward

^ What they said. Regardless of the outcome, if you really like him that much for that long then you owe it to yourself to tell him. Even if he rejects you, it'll give you the closure you need to move on. As for the other girl, like someone saud, if she really is your best friend then she would understand.

In high school, I told this female friend of mine that I liked her. We were still very naive back then so I just blurted it out and she didn't know what to do. I also asked several times after that but she didn't give me a clear answer. I got hung up for years. Believe me, it wasn't fun. Thinking back on it, given her family situation and the fact that she stayed single until now, I think she probably have some sort of distrust on men and relationships. But I still can't help but blame her for not giving me a straight answer. And myself ofcourse for not demanding one from her.

You didn't have one? I feel sorry for you

________________

Wow. Very helpful, really. Just because you can't relate to this doesn't give you the right to make fun of her situation.

Voice yourself out, unclear situation isn't comfortable.

>Know him for 7 years.
>Listening to rumors.
>Definitely school drama.
>Don't want to get hurt cause of "muh feels"
Either really hearbreaking story of long lasting relationship, friendship and betrayal *epic music*. Or a bunch fat girls talking about "Have a courage, he don't care how you look, love is all about heart!". I'm sure I have all rights to do what I want.^^
Asking for help on the internet is like asking to bully yourself. :3

Uhhhh, maybe you should just give up,
It‘s been 7 years of fruitless effort (in making him fall for you)..

Another more years won‘t change anything,
It‘ll just hurt more..

He‘s..... Not just It...

________________
Tournament Round 1
Round 2

Well, it certainly is sad that you can't share a tiny bit of your feelings on the internet without some people harassing or laughing about you. But just because you think asking on the net for help equals asking to get bullied does not mean that you must give in to it


Haha nothing like that was said by anyone here xD And seriously, of course look matters. A certain amount at least. Are you yourself fat, fancy fat girls or why are you using that phrasing?^^

P.S.: Maybe you just really need some air

move on ... 7 years is entirely too long. No man is worth that.

________________
WEBTOONS ヽ( ★ω★)ノ