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Previous Poll Results:
Question: If the concept of religion didn't exist, would the world be better or worse?
Worse - votes: 737 (22.7%)
Better - votes: 1097 (33.8%)
About the same - votes: 1407 (43.4%)
There were 3241 total votes.
The poll ended: October 3rd 2020
There was lots of solid discussion in the comments for the previous poll. Didn't devolve like I was afraid it would
» VawX on October 3rd, 2020, 2:13am
I never really find anyone that I can see as potential life partner, if she eventually revealed as someone 10 years older than me then so be it mmm...
» Otakuch on October 3rd, 2020, 5:13am
» pandascepter on October 3rd, 2020, 7:19am
welp, i was shocked at first, but now they're a happy family with two kids.
Age doesn't matter, love is love, but if it's under 20, i'll likely call a police. 🤣 🤣
» Shalesia27 on October 3rd, 2020, 9:16am
» kuroipon on October 3rd, 2020, 10:21am
But now in my mid-20's the thought is just gross to me. Even dating someone who is 5 years younger or older seems bad. There would be too much of a mental maturity gap to be healthy.
» HikaruYami on October 4th, 2020, 7:02am
If for whatever reason I'm once again single at 70 in a nursing home, I don't think I'd mind someone who was 80 in relatively good health. Hell, even 40 and 50 doesn't seem too disastrously different. But 30 and 40? Yeah, that feels a bit predatory. I wouldn't date someone 10 years younger than me until I'm at least 50, either.
» pikadango on October 3rd, 2020, 12:14pm
» rokyun_ on October 3rd, 2020, 1:04pm
That said, since its a hot discourse topic on twitter and other sites, not all age gaps are toxic in nature, it really depends on the two people... 🙄 Not saying the possibility doesn't exist, since it definitely does, but not every age gap relationship is inherently unhealthy.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone 10 years older, but maybe 5 or so, but it wouldn't be my first choice, it would have to be someone I really kicked off well with to consider dating them...
» Rouzmary on October 3rd, 2020, 1:59pm
But if it's 20 & 30...or even younger...then that does seem off - the maturity between the two and their, how to better put it, equality, isn't on par. Would feel too much as an adult taking advantage of the kid.
The same...well, different in a way, principle would apply if the age gap was too big, say, around 20 years....that's actually even more creepy than a 20yo dating 30yo 'cuz in this case no matter how mature, the younger one could easily be his/hers child.
So I suppose from 20 and above the 10+ age gap doesn't really matter, so long as it doesn't reach ~20 year gap 'cuz then it'd be like dating your child/parent, in others words - creepy AF
» Jyeims on October 3rd, 2020, 3:31pm
» zarlan on October 3rd, 2020, 3:50pm
Roughly speaking, the lower the ages, the lower the acceptable gap, and the higher the ages, the greater the gap can be.
Puberty, as well as early adolescence, being especially significant.
I've long thought that you could maybe create a line of human age, where the distance between each year, rather than being the same, is more in line with the level of mental/emotional development/maturation.
Then you could talk about what age gap is okay/problematic/unacceptable, in terms of their the distance, on that chart, rather than a number of years.
Any relations with someone who is prepubescent, however, is out of the question, regardless of age (so even if both are the same age, IMO.
…though, to be fair, if they are quite close in age, I wouldn't really condemn either of them, or think one is taking advantage of the other, so I suppose I could still talk about an "tolerable" range, even there.
I don't think that they have the feelings necessary, for romance. (the feelings might possibly develop a bit before puberty, but… not by much, I don't think, even if they do)
Simulated romance, even fooling oneself into thinking that one is engaging in romance, sure, but… (and society does teach kids, that romance is to desired and sought after, after all, even in most children's stories …which I find rather weird, as romance isn't really something that is relevant to young kids. Older kids, as in adolescents, yes, but not younger ones)
» mallika23 on October 3rd, 2020, 6:35pm
I wouldn't like my partner to be 20 years older. But if someone did it, in my view, it still wouldn't be a big problem if they both have already in a legal age to get married.
Legal age is the key for me.
That's why sometimes I feel astonished whenever I found news about children marriage. In such cases, they were forced to get married with someone 20 years older (the "uncles" ) before they reach 18. Sometimes 12, or 13.
» Mizutina on October 4th, 2020, 6:07pm
» zarlan on October 4th, 2020, 10:59pm
You don't think that a huge age gap, means that there is a significant and problematic power imbalance? (as I've said above, less so the higher up in age you go, but still…)
» wotonito on October 4th, 2020, 8:30pm
» kurotaito on October 5th, 2020, 10:56am
This is not to say you can't be happy with a huger age gap, but its to say your kinda stepping on toes to do it.
» KaoriNite on October 7th, 2020, 2:01pm
» hkanz on October 7th, 2020, 2:08pm
I've never dated someone that much older (and definitely not that much younger), and the thought is a turn-off, so I answered no. 'Would you date x' is always clearer cut in theory than in reality though. I once had a few dates with a Stephen Harper stan 🤣
» redlinks on October 8th, 2020, 9:33pm