I find your statement “a woman could make something out of herself with a built-like aphrodite and little else…looks are the lesser gift once you exit high school if you are a man” as extremely sexist and misogynistic: there are many women who have important jobs (CEOs, politicians, historians, doctors, authors…) and aren’t beautiful or show their age clearly (examples are Fabiola Gianotti who is the head of the CERN of Ginevra, Angela Merkel who is one of most important German politicians and was the leader of Germany, Chiara Frugoni who was one of the greatest historians about European Middle Ages society and continued her job until her death at 82, Octavia E. Butler and Ursula K. Le Guin and Marion Zimmer Bradley whose works are classics of the fantasy and science fiction genres and whose influence in speculative fiction is evident, the Group ‘24 who revolutionized the shoujo genre and created many classic mangas and the shounen-ai/Yaoi and shoujo-ai/Yuri genres and still continues to have a massive impact worldwide, Rumiko Takahashi the “Queen of mangas” and CLAMP who are examples of eclecticism because they treat different genres without problems and whose impact is worldwide, Marjorie Liu and Sana Takeda who are the winners of Hugo award and the Eisner awards and other awards for their series “Monstress”).
And there are as many women who don’t want a relationship with obese men because they find them ugly and don’t want to deal with a partner who can have easily fatal heart attacks, diabetes, problems with mobility and many other illnesses as many women who don’t mind obese men. And in many countries in Africa and Middle East fat women are considered beautiful.
I would like to point out that men who works in the entertainment industry as actors, singers and idols have to worry about their looks and their handsomeness like women do too because they’re essential parts of their jobs.