well i guess it's hard to see whats right and whats wrong in these kinda situations >.>

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As Jane Austen wrote, the person you think you're marrying may not be the person you think they are at all. Plus, people change over time...

Not saying it's my opinion. >.>;

Tps2, there are a lot of reasons why you want to marry someone, and love happens to be the most common one now.. Who knows what it'll be in a few centuries..

It's a different culture, ... the girl has already known that she was going to marry that person since she was a child.. They've probably even played with each other, when they were children.. She has already accepted it.. and they'll probably live like acquaintances/friends with each other.. Maybe even love will blossom out of it..

But you keep saying that a relationship can't exist without the magical powers of love.. I find that very naief.. There are plenty of relationships, where love isn't involved..

Though, I myself would want to marry someone I love.. But you have to realize that love is a never-ending process.. You can't just sit back and enjoy the ride.. No, you have to put effort and hard work in to your relationship.. Eventually the 'love feeling' will fade, but instead of that there'll be an even greater/better feeling.. You understand/trust/know each other inside out.. It's like the two of you make a whole, while at the same time you still have your own individuality..

... I'm realizing that this has nothing to do with virginity.. >.> Oh well..

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What you descrived was the girl who have no problem with it, but there are those who are literaly "sold" to older men whom they never met. The first case I have no problem with, but the second does not makes my head. If you stard a relationship without love and let it grow slowly how to know if this love is not actualy accommodation? It is true that the love I speak is nearly extinct and usualy it fades, but what you descrived sounds to me a relation based on friendship not love which last more, but I am naive enough to wait for the magical power of love, since I believe that you do not choose who you love. By the way, once a girl have been ofered me in an arranged marriage, she never saw me before and she was so terrified she was trembling.

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but i think guys just say they want to marry a virgin b/c they want somethin innocent and they want to be the only one who has been with you. they also want to have some experience so they can fuck you good and boost their ego.

thats my take on it.

#1: For some reason most guys like the idea of being the first to "conquer the territory". Pretty crude way of thinking, but it's the truth. Just another way to count the notches.

#2: If you do the horizontal demolition derby with a virgin, you are guaranteed to have equal or greater experience. No guy wants to be shown up by a girl at sex.

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same here! he might have HIV/AIDS or Herpes *ew*

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False. For one, it hurts them, and on top of that, they're inexperienced. Not fun.

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Isn't that a very loose generalization? I don't like being someone's first unless they are in love with me and i with them. Because it's a moment that they will remember for their entire life. I don't want to be that for someone if it's just a passing thing for me.

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I guess I have to give you that one.

I suppose you could call it that, but I'm not talking about your conscious mind. You know, freudian themes, old animalistic instincts, things like that. Deep down, the traits that we still have from our days in caves are pretty much the same from guy to guy.

Another way of looking at it, ignoring the psychology and whatnot: I never meant for what I said to apply to every person. Not every person enjoys being with a virgin, so obviously the 'rule' I said won't apply to every guy. Besides that, there are exceptions to almost every 'rule'. It's a fact of life. Unless it involves math, rules are bound to have exceptions.

Not that it really matters to me. It's not my business if or why other men like to be the first one to be with a girl.

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This is the most boring conversation about sex i've ever read...
why not tlk about the nitty gritty ppl...i mean jeesh u sound like a bunch of bi***es
now man up and start over
or i'll sick Zangief on your kids

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I'm gonna wait till marriage..

i really couldent care less about sex, so yah.

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That what I have been thinking but it probably wont happen... at the least I will wait until im in a serious relationship.

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