My dad forced me into the military when I was young. Then he tried to force me to go to tech school and become an Air Conditioning repair man. I can't imagine what my life would be like if I were making 30k a yr crawling into attics and under houses.

To this day he refuses to accept that video game accessories and toys is a good job. Even though I make 3 times more than him!

Also, before A/C tech school he wanted me to go to occupational school to become a welder. I don't know how much a welder makes, but that jobs sounds hard and boring.

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Whatever, it's your decision.

But for what it's worth, I don't think you're going to be living an enviable life.

Such reliance on your parents is...Well, I won't say sickening, but it's disturbing to me.

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LOL though i don't like how i slave work but I do want to help them and all... since they did raise me up and i am their daughter.. plus i will be the same when i have kids lmao.

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i voted no. i was brought to this world by mistake, so i kno my mom had a tough life as a working teenage single mom while her ex is not the best parent on earth, but then i look back on the years i was thrown to my grandmothers care for 5 years, and the fact that most of my childhood i cried "i want mommy!!" into my pellow becuz i was terrified of my grandma's rage when she thought i was a "spoiled, lazy and depressed bad child" (belts, threats, shunning from the family, been through it all).
i might take care of my mom if she wont have other kids in the future, but i wanna escape my gramma asap.

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hahaha. I was kind of scared when I was reading your post. I had no idea how to respond.. But first, my parents are not insane. Really... they are not. "Being a tool" sounds a little harsh, since I don't feel like I'm being used...


eek.. "paying them back", is that a bad thing? That's how I've always looked at things. uh-oh. Maybe... when I'm older, I'd feel differently.


Yes, this post! LOL. It made me laugh. Though, the way you put it makes sense. But it feels kind of wrong if I really don't owe them anything.


O god.. retirement plans. None at all. They've used all their money for me (and my brother)'s immigration and education. So, I'm protecting my life with all I can, so I won't die. Avoid all accidents. haha. I have to survive long enough to at least pay back all the education money they've spend. I don't want them wasting anything on me.

So,.. *touch wood* don't let me die, please!!!

Hm skittles, what is the reason for you deciding to take care of your parents later?

Aw well. Everyone has their own priorities, and if you hold your parents' happiness higher than your own, than all the better to you. I wish to be as selfless too. I'd like to be able to care about someone else more than myself.

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Euh, or just have a life insurance?

No but seriously, I like your dedication to your parents skittles.
I also personally feel the same, although my choices in life where not what they had hopped for. And that me and my father are always bickering over the most trivial matters. I don't think there ever was a single thing I ever agreed on with my father.... that's kind of sad.
And even though as I said I don't get along at with my father I still like him a lot. And I think it's my duty as the oldest child to take care of them when they will need me. (Probably it's all about culture and upbringing)


According to your own logic... you shouldn't be allowed to "breed" either. Since you have all their bad genes. Hope you stick with you convictions till the end.

Don't worry. I have no intention of cursing any child I have. I'll have my genes checked out to see how many undesirable traits I could actually pass on.

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I voted no.

The "gift of life" was forced upon me, so it's not as if I really feel like I owe them anything for that. If they think that I will take care of them later on just because they're my parents and gave birth to me, they're dead wrong. But, I will do what I can because I have grown familiar to them as a family and it's kind of like helping out a friend. Though, as far as my relationship with them goes, sometimes we get along, most of the time we fight. Although my parents and I are practically polar opposites, so interaction actually happens very little. As the poll says, I'd only feel like taking some care of them out of the "goodness of my heart", not obligation.

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vinceasuma eek... oh vince. I'm happy you are having a wonderful life now. Usually people with bad parents lead a terrible life. (my TV shows say so! Also, the newspaper..)

Dark_Sage LOL is it reliance? *checks dictionary* oh.. maybe a little. The important thing is, you're happier without your parents. And I'm happier if I get to help them

moritana =*( you can always... call the police? Or find your neighbours? Or stays in a friend's house?? Grandmama should beat grandchildren!!!!

Lybi yeah... priorities. But it's not selfish if you are your own person... I think that's so brave.

Stealth *serious tone* insurance? I will get it.... but who will be paying it, since I have $0? *chance is gone..* Anyway, oh <3 I'm not alone. Well... kids always argue with parents. I don't, but I know a lot who do, and they'd never say "I still love them". KIDS.

And yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes. It's upbringing and culture. Family values, taught by none other than my parents!

Seitsukire oh.. interesting. "helping out a friend"

I surely don't expect my kids to take care of me in my old age. I *expect* to be independent and take care of myself, just as I am now, and just as my parents are now. If things don't go as I expect (wouldn't be the first time, that's for sure! ) then I hope that my family will help me out as they are able, the same way I will help them out as I am able. However, I do feel that I am responsible for myself; I'm not going to *plan* to rely on others.

As I said before, *I* am the one who chose to bring my children into our messed up world, they had no say in it. Having made that choice, it is my responsibility to do my absolute best to raise them into responsible, mentally and physically healthy, independent adults able to function in our world. It's a responsibility that I take very seriously, and I'm honestly baffled when I hear about the stupid, irresponsible, and damaging things some parents do. (Not that I'm a perfect parent, far from it.) I just don't understand how they can do these things, allow these things to happen, whatever, to their kids.

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I didn't choose to be born. So don't expect me to feel grateful that I was giving birth to. Since I wasn't the one who decided to get marry, and I wasn't the one who didn't think about protection, and I wasn't the one decided to keep it.

I wasn't the one decided to bring me into her screw up life, which she had cried alot of time telling me about how miserable it was back then, and she would continue doing so once awhile when she remembered the past.

I am do grateful that she worries about my wellbeing before her, and she'll probably die protecting me from a bullet if someone shoots at me. And she'll probably will kill someone too if that person has try to harm me since her temper is extremely hot. I am grateful that if she buys something to eat, she'll think of us and buy some home too. She'll lie and says she doesn't really want to eat them, so we should go ahead and eat the food ourselves.

When she gets old, I'll take care of her because of the latter, not because she gives birth to me. That I will never be grateful for.

My parents tried very hard to have me; they said it was a miracle I was born. They were great to me and loved me, and even if I felt like it'd be a pain, I'd take care of them when they got to the point they could no longer take care of themselves.
Or I would have, but my mom died while I was in high school and my dad died 2 years ago when I was 22. When my dad died I was confused and I didn't know what I wanted to do with myself. I had a job, thankfully, but little college education and not enough money to stay in the house I grew up in. I wasn't ready to be independent, and 2 years later, I'm having trouble surviving.
But.
My boyfriend's parents have been wonderful to me; they've done more for me than I would have ever expected and I'm incredibly thankful. I don't mind taking care of them when they're older.

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that's all.

i dont live with my gramma anymore. but i see her on weekends, and now, since she discovered that if im beaten ill defend myself and then go yelling about it, she tris to make me forget my childhood, and some other tricks like living her life through me and "u belong to me cuz were family". i do my best to avoid her, and im not too sure if ill let her be around my kids.

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NO thats a big fat NO

most of the time the childs not planed they where just haveing fun