Quote from Casey D. Geek
To clear up the analogy, it's just that - an analogy. I am not shallow enough to consider things like paygrade an assessment of success. If I was, the second point would've been moot. I factor in various thing to assess the success of someone, the main points of which are how happy they are, and how intelligent they are.
My standards do not need to be lowered - the only things I ask for are intelligence, backbone, and telepathy(empathy will work too). Good looks are a plus, but I don't care about that much.
Yeah, I get that. That's why I put "successful" in quotations, because I understand that it was part of an analogy and was metaphorically representing an amalgam of factors.
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Again, I know people like me have found perfect partners, but I honestly do not believe I will. Maybe because of high standars, which I doubt, maybe because of issues, but mainly because I don't think I can. I'm not lucky enough
Not lucky enough?! Oh come on. You can't say that isn't a problem with esteem.
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Edit - oh, and while India is in question, let me tell you that is most big cities, Indians are as bad as Americans. While I have been lucky enough to not have falllen into the wrong crowd, I am not unaware of what goes on.
lol, we have pretty crappy reputation for someone to automatically assume I'd agree with a comment like "as bad as Americans".
I'm curious though, "as bad as Americans" in what way? I have Indian friends/coworkers who complain about a lot of things in large Indian cities, but the complaints mostly center around the power grid, real estate, their wages, and traffic. Especially traffic. Especially Mumbai. I haven't hit 30 yrs, and I already feel like I'm going to get a heart attack from the traffic there. The cab drivers there are daredevils, and it's a wonder they don't run over a guy every month.
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And about love; recent studies have shown that it really is a drug; it apparently has roughly the same effect as cocaine, and you really can become addicted to it.
It'd be nice if somewhere in the not too distant future I could find love, but that's really outside anyone's control; if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. It's just that so far, it doesn't seem like it'll be happening anytime soon, but never say never.
Are you going through a similar experience as Casey? If it means anything, I have a friend who had a tough time finding a long-term relationship until the current relationship. The person she is with now didn't initially give her "chemistry". I told her that "chemistry" was probably what was preventing her from finding that good long-term relationship that she wanted.
It might depend on your definition of "love", but those recent studies you bring up sound like they are referring to "lust", where you are enslaved by biochemistry. I don't know about you guys, but it seems... almost... primitive to me. Is that all "love" is about? Biochemistry? What's the hubbub?
I know you claim to be apathetic about it ("if it happens, it happens"), but I think it would really be a shame if you were really searching for that "spark/chemistry" and never found it. You did claim to seem "cold" to some others, so perhaps you can sympathize with others who lack that certain charisma. You sound cute from what you've written before, and you'd be doing a great disservice to a lot of your fellow chemical-lacking guys by taking yourself out of the chemical equation.
Of course, there's no rush to worry about long-term relationships, since you and Casey are both fairly young.
Last edited by N0x_ at 11:49 pm, May 8 2011