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12:56 pm, Sep 15 2011
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4 I'd say.

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I use to be out going in like kindergarten and 1&2 grades. But now, as much as I like to be noticed, I hate attention and find it very hard to speak to others. Oh, believe me, I have the words. They just won't come out, and I feel actual pain when I consider talking. The pain of spitting out or choking out my words is worse, because it does feel like I'm choking on them as I try to say them. They get stuck. When people notice me, I lose my words. My throat closes, and my mind is blank. It doesn't matter if I'd been having a full-on conversation before, everything stops. I don't particularly enjoy meeting new people, or being in front of familiar ones for that matter, because I don't know how they'll act.
I guess you could say it started when people started to tease me about my looks (read skin color.) I didn't want him to notice me so I kept others from noticing me as well. Now, it's so far ingrained into my daily being, that I can't figure out how to stand out in a good way, and I can't imagine myself being truly good at things-I mostly see it as everyone else being bad or having poor judgement, even though I know I'm good! I've also turned into a pessesemistic, neurotic, obsessive-compulsive, hypochondriatic, perfectionist.

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I find it's less of how old I get, but who I used to hang around and how I view myself. I used to be rather self conscious [Ah, the awkward tween years] but when I got more out going friends, and liked myself better, I became more out going.

Now I'm a bit too out going. -_- Not caring what others think of me and such, and I get asked to tone it down a lot.

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Post #496413 - Reply to (#496104) by sarah-eats-cupcakes
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I think I 've heard of a singer who had something like stage fright when he sang, so he would simply sing with his back to the crowd. Intresting way to handle it.

are you talking about jim morrison?


I actually have no idea, it was just one of those really random bits of information that somehow lodged itself into my brain dead So if that sound right, I'm not inclined to disagree smile

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11:05 pm, Sep 15 2011
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I used to be the most outgoing, social kid around until bullying destroyed that part of my personality. Then I became hypersensitive to everything and everyone, and it was just awful on my self-esteem. I've grown out of that, but I'm not very trusting of people anymore. I'm not necessarily shy, but I don't open up unless someone tries to take the time to get to know me (or we're forced to socialize often, ie, work). I'm okay with communicating with people but not with making friends, but I'm still shy at the beginning. I'd say I'm 4-ish on the shyness scale, but at 8 on the socially inept scale (10 being the most).

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1:17 pm, Sep 28 2011
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2-5(1 when is comes to those moments)
really depends on the person and time of day. I used to be at the 9-10 scale, but got over it


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I'm 7.8/10 on the shyness level when I'm around people I hardly know,

10/10 around those cocky, outgoing, or those really cheerful goofy people (I don't know them as well),

2/10 around friends--as long as it has been fully established that we're friends, not just classmates or acquaintances.

When I was younger, I wasn't particularly shy, I was actually a very happy person. But when we moved to a different country, everything changed. There's this language barrier and made me feel extremely shy when I make mistakes. During middle school, even though I want to have a good discussion with the class, I was afraid of talking because of the way I speak, so I ended up not doing anything at all. And there's also when teachers ask me a question, I'd get frustrated and nervous because I don't want to get laughed at.

That was ages ago but being quiet, anxious when speaking in front of the class, and easily embarrassed became a part of me so... roll eyes

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I would say I'm a 8.5. My problem is just that I'm terrible at making conversation. I don't know what to say and tend to over think things. I'm a 3-4 with my friends and acquaintances though. Shyness fades when you get to know someone and trust them.

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4:00 pm, Sep 28 2011
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If I had answered this even a few months ago, before entering college, I'd say I was about an 8, but after entering college I'm probably around a 4.

I've had to go outside of my 'comfort zone' so much that I don't really care anymore. I'm not chatty or anything though.

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4:11 pm, Sep 28 2011
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Real life I think I'm about 8. On the internet I'm at 4-5.

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1 or 2 depending on who I am around. I'd say as a teenager or younger I was 3 or 4, maybe a 5 for a while every now and then.

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12:44 pm, Sep 30 2011
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What's with all the ratings? o_O;

I often tend to be mistaken as shy because I'm quiet, polite and reserved in public.
The truth is, I'm mostly just suspicious when it comes to anything new, people as well, so it takes me some time before I open the chatter-box.

I don't think I have much or any shame left in me...

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if possible on a scale of 1-10 how shy would you say you are? (10 being the most shy)

First post.

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12:54 am, Oct 2 2011
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not so much shy as just socially inept. I'd say a five on shyness and 9 on ineptitude

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