Do you believe in love at first sight?

(If so, are you simply falling for their looks or is there more?)

I think this has been asked pages back.

It depends on your definition of love. I believe in lust at first sight. Many people think lust is love so it's love to them.

I believe in lust at first sight. Romantic love generally requires that you know something about the person's personality before you can come to such a decision. Vision can potentially give you an insight, but it can also lead you astray. (As in "don't judge a book by its cover".) What people show outwardly or in public doesn't necessarily have anything to do with who they are. Until you know them, you're only in love with an ideal, not the real thing, and those 2 don't necessarily mesh.

So, no.

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"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

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Last edited by Raeryn at 2:21 pm, Aug 21 2015

So how would a woman feel if you went on a couple great dates with a man, then he never contacts you again?

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Been there, done that. Nothing's gonna surprise me anymore. I'd just ignore him and move on.

Feel kind of insulted while wondering why he didn't contact me...
If we have mutual friends, I'd probably ask them. (though I doubt he'd dare if so lol).

Move on. If he's not even man enough to say he's not interested, then screw him.

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If I had a fantasy self, it'd be a tentacle monster.

Well, I would at least attempt to call him a couple of times (instead of presuming he should call me) and see if there was some reason for him not calling back. At that point, it's too early to presume that he has to tell me everything about what's going on in his life, so there could have been something come up that he wouldn't have had the foresight or inclination to tell me about.

If he doesn't return my calls, then there's not much I can do without seeming like a stalker. At that point, I let him know what I'm thinking (that I thought they were great dates, but based on his unresponsiveness, it appears to be a one-sided feeling), tell him thanks for the fun I had, and move on. (As in: his loss.)

If at some point he calls back with a reasonable explanation (note: not an excuse), then it will depend on my current situation as to whether or not to give him another chance, but I'd probably be inclined to do so.

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If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

How much time are we talking about? Around a month or so?

I don't wait around for people to contact me-I'd at least try contacting him. If he doesn't respond, with then whatever; a guy who would leave even a casual relationship without saying a word is the sort of guy I'm not interested in (unless he had an honestly good excuse, like being hospitalized or trapped in a foreign country).

what do you do when a girlfriend gets mad at you, and saying youre sorry isnt cutting it?

Figure out the problem and change the behavior in question. If you wait for it to blow over, then it'll likely happen again. (It's possible it got to the point that "sorry isn't cutting it" because you've said sorry about it in the past and didn't change the behavior.)

If you can't change the behavior, then you need to discuss it and figure out whether or not its something that's worth breaking up for.

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If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

Talking it out can help. If you don't even know what she is angry about, then you can't really fix the problem. And you aren't always the one at fault either (it takes two to tango, yes?) As Liria said, don't wait for it to blow over-That just makes the relationship worse.

thanks for the answers. More details: i am apparently insensitive, it is something that came up before, but i didnt change She is telling me that she wants to forgive me, but i need to do something to prove myself... but she won't tell me what that is (hint: this isnt something that your mind needs to go in the gutter for...) i realize my mistake, i explained why i did it, i promised not to do it again (although i understand i broke this promise already... ) Can anyone figure out what it is im supposed to do? it should be something obvious because she told me to ask someone else, because they would know... but all my friends are absent in my time of crisis. This happened earlier today btw.

The best general advice is "action, not words", but as vague as that was, we can't really offer anything more.

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If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

I'm going to sound like a jerk but being insensitive could mean anything from not feeling bad when you hear someone's puppy is sick to not paying enough attention to your girl in front of all your friends. Hooray for vagueness!

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