they wouldn´t accept our realtionship. They are "friends" not friends, but you still need them

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nope, don't have a gf, but i'm also not searching for a gf. ( I would say, not found the right one? )

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You're just being delusional.
What kind of person could possibly
stop being friends with someone if s/he
is dating someone why the person in question
would not date.

this is what you call society.
There may be schools were it doesn´t matter.
But there are schools were it does

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I'm also part of the society, and I wouldn't care even
if you dated a goldfish. As long as you actually haven't tested,
you cannot say what the outcome is.

i only have a lot of stalkers XD

but i have already decided i will keep my heart aand body pure for lelouch^^

no just kidding... im not in a relationship yet but i do have a crush on someone^^

Like the majority of people here i'm single as well, but it is nice to be able to be independent and not have to worry about the "responsibilities" of a relationship.

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" 9 years and 163 days later, 2% of my body cells are still in love with her"

Firstly, yeah, I have a Girlfriend and in 4 days we will complete 2 years of realtionship

About sakura's "case"
I think both mamsmilk and you are wrong in a way(mamsmilk I wish everyone in the world was like you)

It's not easy as mamsmilk say, but it's not impossible as you say...

I know because I already had an situation like yours, tough I was younger at the time and I think being younger made it easier, since social circles were less estabilished
Long version in spoilers, for the ones who don't want to read crap just avoid


I liked a girl who looked...normal and knew she liked me, once I told about this to my "friends"(not the part about me liking her) and they said, "how pitiful, she's so ugly. In the end of the year After some time with this going, me ignoring her, she trying to talk to me. She said she like me and that I was acting different from how I was before, I hurted her a lot, she cryied and left the school. After that I decided I wouldn't look doen on others because of looks nor likings.
I told my friends about that(four at the time) 2 just "ignored" and the other 2 agreed with me, and today are still my best friends.

Now I think, what would I be today if I never had told them about how I felt?
I would still have the same "friends" , still "like" the same girls, I would still be the shit I was then

I know it really isn't easy to be open about it, but I just HIGHLY recommend him to tell them, by doing this he will only be separating, the persons who can bring him joy and the ones who are just holding his happiness back....

Well telling them or not, I really wish the bst to you since I can relate to this

woah, never expected such a high-quality post in the internet
but yeah, somethings humans do are stupid, but we can learn from them and do things better next time, if we get a second chance.

anyway, i almost cried after i read your post o.o

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it would be good if all society like yours,
but unfortunately i have to agree with sakura,
in my school society, there is a bunch of hypocrite.
and people divided as famous, nerd, invisible, sociable, bullier, and those who get bullied.
You will not want to get caught befriend with those who caught excluded or different "groups" with you. let alone going out with one of them.
society is horrible. especially when you dont know what is right and what is wrong.
you should know where when to act blind, high and mighty, also bow down.
its tough being an adolescent nowadays...

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I'm forever alone.

That whole "group" thing makes me realize how glad I am that I'm in college now.

Anyways, well, maybe they won't actually mind? If they are worth hanging out with, then they should actually at least act like a friend to you and respect your decisions. The whole part about "schools where it does matter/schools where it doesn't": that isn't based off the school. That's based off the maturity of the people in it. And if people actually do care about your business, then they need to grow up and you don't need to care about them. And also, having the support of your friends increases the chances that you guys will last.

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I agree, I had a secret relationship when I was in high school just because I was the unpopular kid and the guy was popular. We knew it would cause more harm than good to be open about it. After a while though it got too much, it hurt me too much to see him being set up by his mates, even when he assured me it was just for the sake of apperances. It got too stressful for him as well, to always be divided between being part of the gang and not hurting my feelings. So I broke it off, high school is not a place you want to be without a crowd. Luckily in the Uk we leave high school at 16, and from then on life was great. No cares about groups and such in college or uni, in fact the ones who stood out were the ones everyone wanted to be friends with. Me and the guy still hook up from time to time, we're good friends. The thing stopping us now is the fact my brother is his best friend and my brother is majorly overprotective of me. (FYI the guy is my age). If we made it official it would never work because we would feel like we were trapped, obliged to make it work because it had cost him a friend. I don't want that, I doubt he does either.

My point is that, sometimes, society wins over love and some relationships are forced underground. I hope you guys last Shadow, but it's hard to stick it out. Don't let yourself get hurt, sometimes you have to know when to draw the line and say enough. Good luck!

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The poll results are a little unexpected lol
Suddenly, I don't feel so lonely anymore.
Sure one day I want to have one

thanks to all of you, but just to say, please don´t make my relationship a case. We have already accepted the fact that our friends shouldn´t know about our realtionship, but i think that this makes our bond stronger.


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