I'm about to go to college in about two weeks and there's something on my mind. I chose that college because I had a gf and she was going there too. But now we are broken up for about 4 months now and haven't talked to her since then. She was first love and can't decide if I should meet up with her or not before going to college. I want to at least try to become friend because it would be a waste but I hurt her and felt I don't have the right to do it. Any thought about this?

oh my god you cant be serious...dude no matter how much you love this girl you should always put the possibility of a future breakup into consideration...my advice is choose the best choice available because you're going to be stuck with that college's name for the rest of your life...but you cant guarantee that you'll stay with the girl!

edit: just to clarify things...i was talking about choosing a college just because your gf goes there...theres always the option of applying to another university and starting from the second semester(since im guessing its too late to apply for fall now) im telling you to do this assuming that the college is not the best one you can go to...your education isnt a joke dont make your relationship interfere with this kind of decisions because you'll most definitely regret it

Last edited by sarah-eats-cupcakes at 3:16 pm, Aug 10 2012

If you can you should most definitely reconcile but state just as friends for no misunderstandings. Try to have a good relationship since you are going to be learning at the same school so it would be best to have her as a friend rather than a ex girlfriend, could be potentially awkward at college.

I know becoming friend would be unlikely and I don't mind it much. I guess I wrote this is to push me to reconcile with her.

...Ok...I can't help but comment that it was a little foolish of you to attend a college simply because your gf was going there, too. But what's done is done, ya know? Anyway, for one thing, if you decide that you don't like the college, transferring is always an option, it's just a hassle. As for your ex-girlfriend problem, I think it would be worth it to get in contact with her and try to reestablish a connection. I mean, shoot her a text message or something saying that you wanna try being friends, and she may scoff and bite your head off, but she can't ever complain and say that you never tried. Although, since you hurt her, I don't think you should argue with her or push her into becoming friends with you...just...let her know that you want to. =] and maybe she'll come to you eventually. Also, if you see her in college, don't avoid her or anything! If you make eye contact, smile and/or say hi! Even if she ignores you. Just be friendly! Restore her faith in men! XD Oh. But if you cheated on her, all bridges are gone and you should just stay away from her and ignore everything I said. X]

I didn't cheat on her. I broke up with her and she did say she hated once.