okay everyone i need some help finding this manga. below is what i remember reading.

-was named after his father and is the favorite son.
-is disfigured (though manga does not depict him as disfigured)
-manga first depicts him as small child wrapped in a cloak with large eyes/ small pupils.
-mother hates him and calls him the devil
-is the third son?
-is of nobility/ or a prince
-turns out he was a she/ maybe transexual
-enemy king is a coward and enemy queen is the one waging war

scenes
-father dies because he did not retreat from battle (because MC told him a king does not retreat)
-was in prison w/ mother and a brother, found his way out and met with enemy king/ became friends/ but did not know eachother's identity
-a noble girl took fancy to MC and when MC asked why she liked him she said it was because he was different. MC did not like that answer... forgot what he did after...