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Question- Is there such a thing as being too sweet? Or would you question somebody for being too sweet?

ANYone who seems overly sweet, guy or girl, I'd question.

First possibility - they're faking it, and are really very calculating. Not the kind of person I want to be around.

Second possibility - they really ARE that sweet, in which case they're likely to allow themselves to be a doormat, won't stand up for themselves (or others), won't be honest if it means hurting someone's feelings, will give total jerks unlimited chances, etc. - also not the kind of person I want to be around. 🤢

Basically very sweet at heart, as long as there's a little "spice" as well (an occasional sarcastic remark, for example, or getting justifiably irritated about something) - THAT I have no problem with. 😃

Of course it's hard to tell until you get to know someone better, because most people try to be on their best behavior when first meeting someone. I wouldn't really be suspicious of people who are "too nice" unless it's sustained after you get to know them.

All very good points, I agree whole-heartedly. If they offer nothing but sweet remarks, it seems fake or totally one sided as personality goes. You need to have a little spunk too.

alright i admired people who try hard enough they will earn it...
but for a girl? how should a person know that this thing won't work or if a guy try hard enough it will go somewhere.

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[b]Question[/b]- Is there such a thing as being [i]too[/i] sweet? Or would you question somebody for being too sweet?

ANYone who seems overly sweet, guy or girl, I'd question.

First possibility - they're faking it, and are really very calculating. Not the kind of person I want to be around.

Second possibility - they really ARE that sweet, in which case they're likely to allow themselves to be a doormat, won't stand up for themselves (or others), won't be honest if it means hurting someone's feelings, will give total jerks unlimited chances, etc. - also not the kind of person I want to be around. 🤢

Basically very sweet at heart, as long as there's a little "spice" as well (an occasional sarcastic remark, for example, or getting justifiably irritated about something) - THAT I have no problem with. 😃

Of course it's hard to tell until you get to know someone better, because most people try to be on their best behavior when first meeting someone. I wouldn't really be suspicious of people who are "too nice" unless it's sustained after you get to know them.

All very good points, I agree whole-heartedly. If they offer nothing but sweet remarks, it seems fake or totally one sided as personality goes. You need to have a little spunk too.

Yep, Tofuqueen is as wise as her years subtly and gracefully indicate. She has a good gauge on how to tell sincerity.

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Question- Is there such a thing as being too sweet? Or would you question somebody for being too sweet?

ANYone who seems overly sweet, guy or girl, I'd question.

First possibility - they're faking it, and are really very calculating. Not the kind of person I want to be around.

Second possibility - they really ARE that sweet, in which case they're likely to allow themselves to be a doormat, won't stand up for themselves (or others), won't be honest if it means hurting someone's feelings, will give total jerks unlimited chances, etc. - also not the kind of person I want to be around. 🤢

Basically very sweet at heart, as long as there's a little "spice" as well (an occasional sarcastic remark, for example, or getting justifiably irritated about something) - THAT I have no problem with. 😃

Of course it's hard to tell until you get to know someone better, because most people try to be on their best behavior when first meeting someone. I wouldn't really be suspicious of people who are "too nice" unless it's sustained after you get to know them.

This was definitely what I was referring too!^-^
And I agree with it all as well~ The second possibility you stated is what I actually wanted a response about, because it's hard to imagine people like that, and I would prefer to stay clear from them.

Sweet and a bit spicy, heh I like that. 🙂

Thank you for giving such an in depth reply!^-^

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Sweet and a bit spicy, heh I like that. 🙂

and you probably also like someone who is extremely trustworthy but also sometimes a bad guy and someone who is very funny but can also be serious and someone who is attractive but would never cheat and someone who is smart but not that much smarter than you....women 🙄

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Sweet and a bit spicy, heh I like that. 🙂

and you probably also like someone who is extremely trustworthy but also sometimes a bad guy and someone who is very funny but can also be serious and someone who is attractive but would never cheat and someone who is smart but not that much smarter than you....women 🙄

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I would just post that smiley in response to what you said, but that would be spam, so let me explain.

I laughed out loud when I read your comment. It is funny, but in all fairness, everyone desires certain things in a partner, but it is not like all women want this exact thing and won't settle for anything else.

I think there's nothing wrong with being "overly sweet." And for the people that think someone that is only because they have alterative motives... it's called, paranoia. 😛
I'm an "overly sweet" person, so I'm told. But don't think you can walk all over me because that sure as hell ain't happening because I can still be a bitch - in an "overly sweet" manner though. 🤣

Question:
This question may have been asked once before... or I might have asked it... anyways..
How important is a physical relationship with your partner? Say you're not "getting enough" would you break up with that person or find it someone where else? Or do you care about the person enough emotionally to not feel... lacking in the physical? Or vice versa.

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Question:
This question may have been asked once before... or I might have asked it... anyways..
How important is a physical relationship with your partner? Say you're not "getting enough" would you break up with that person or find it someone where else? Or do you care about the person enough emotionally to not feel... lacking in the physical?

For me, i don't need any physical relationship (sex) with my partner... i love just having her in my arm, kissing her, and speaking with her at night but most people don't think like this and not having enough physical relation is a cause of breaking up or cheating.

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Question:
This question may have been asked once before... or I might have asked it... anyways..
How important is a physical relationship with your partner? Say you're not "getting enough" would you break up with that person or find it someone where else? Or do you care about the person enough emotionally to not feel... lacking in the physical?

Well I feel that is a problem not too hard to correct. So I'd eitehr try to overtly fix the situation or just ask if the person would like to spice things up.

I don't think I have heart to leave because of lacking physical skills. Besides I never really had bad sex, just better than other moments.

Finding that right combination or match can be difficult. I don't think it would cause me to break up with someone, but I can certainly see it causing others to do so.

You asked the question about not getting enough, but the opposite can be true as well. Someone who isn't as sexually demanding being with someone who is could be a problem for both, not just the one who wants more.

My husband is the more needy of the two of us. My sexual appetite just isn't that high. Fortunately, it isn't an issue between the two of us. Sometimes I give in, sometimes he gives in (or takes care of himself). It happens to work for us.

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

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Well after being dormant for many months I have finally decided to post in this topic 😀

My question is 2 folds, one personal and the other a more general question for everyone.

When walking with a girl/boy you like (or just someone of the opposite gender) and all of a sudden someone (friends/ect) comes up and says something really awkward regarding the two of you, such as 'Remember, use a condom!", how would you respond/react? Yes, this actually did happen to me with a female friend of mine and those were the exact words he said. I just ignored him and continued asking her about the history homework 🤣

Now for my personal question:
I have recently befriended the girl I like and I spend some parts of my day talking to her when she's alone b4 classes start and sometimes when she's with her friends. Now if my friend were to say something awkward again I was thinking of reproaching him and also indirectly complimenting her. For example I would say, ", every time I'm talking with a pretty girl, why do you always interrupt and say something stupid?" To the girls, how would you feel in that situation? Would it make it more awkward? Also, what if you didn't know the person likes you?

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Question- Is there such a thing as being too sweet? Or would you question somebody for being too sweet?

Most people I know who tend to be sweet (at first or mostly all the time) are the worst people I've ever come across... mostly Backstabbers or meanies who'd come to you only to get their work done but kick you out when you go out to ask for a favor...

One sweet case is a guy who just can't get any spicy ... he's a total looser...

P.S. ::> And I'm neither sweet or spicy... I'm total Ice... 😐

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When walking with a girl/boy you like (or just someone of the opposite gender) and all of a sudden someone (friends/ect) comes up and says something really awkward regarding the two of you, such as 'Remember, use a condom!", how would you respond/react?

I'd say what I thought the person I like wanted to hear. Like, if I knew they liked mature guys, I'd just say gently "Go on, leave us alone~" and continue our conversation.

If I knew they liked guys with a sense of humor, I'd say...... something funny >.> Yeah I'm not really sure what though XD Hopefully you would be swifter with the wit than me.

If you're not sure what to say, say anything, just make sure it's something that wouldn't offend the girl, or make her feel like you don't respect her.

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Now for my personal question:
I have recently befriended the girl I like and I spend some parts of my day talking to her when she's alone b4 classes start and sometimes when she's with her friends. Now if my friend were to say something awkward again I was thinking of reproaching him and also indirectly complimenting her. For example I would say, ", every time I'm talking with a pretty girl, why do you always interrupt and say something stupid?" To the girls, how would you feel in that situation? Would it make it more awkward? Also, what if you didn't know the person likes you?

I think a girl would feel complimented, just make sure it sounds like an indirect compliment and not an indirect sleazy pickup line XD
Also you might not want to phrase it like that, because it sounds like you're putting your friend down. Maybe just "[Name], why do you always have to interrupt me when I'm talking to pretty girls?"
But make it lighthearted, and don't act mad. I think if she felt she was causing an argument between you too, it might make her feel more awkward than a compliment.

I hope that helps, good luck. ^^

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Earlier in the topic there was discussion about males that were turned down but became good friends. My question is How do you stay a friend with a girl who's dumped you?

I've had this happen twice with two girls I knew for about a year before any romantic interest was mentioned. One I was turned down and it's been awkward ever since three years later. The other time the girl asked me out and I replied no but I was there if she needed help. Now we're great friends if not better than before. I have no idea how the two turned out so differently and how do I stay friends with a girl without her thinking I'm still pursuing her?

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I think you could just act like yourself and treat her like any of your other friends. I don't think they will easily think you are still pursuing them.

How about you pursuing other girls?