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Ehh this is a more general question, but is there such thing as a "normal" steady progression of a relationship? From getting into a relationship to kissing to going through all the bases, etc? To be more specific, a relationship between college students.

Yes its possible.

Ack, I should have been more specific. What is that normal progression? I mean, time-wise. Like, having sex for the first time, at how many months should that happen at? At what point in the relationship should each of the other bases be crossed? What is too early? Is there such thing as too early?

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Ehh this is a more general question, but is there such thing as a "normal" steady progression of a relationship? From getting into a relationship to kissing to going through all the bases, etc? To be more specific, a relationship between college students.

Yes its possible.

Ack, I should have been more specific. What is that normal progression? I mean, time-wise. Like, having sex for the first time, at how many months should that happen at? At what point in the relationship should each of the other bases be crossed? What is too early? Is there such thing as too early?

Why would there be?
There aren't any inborn guide lines for a relationship.
All the bogus around it completely made by societal
defaults (AKA herd behavior) and the fear of embarrassing yourself.
All you need to remember is that the relationship is your thing.
It is you and your partner(s) who make the rules.
Not your parents, not your friends, not your nation, not your religion,
absolutely nothing like that. It is only about the people in the relationship.
Otherwise you are not doing it for yourself at all and that alone is living a lie.
There is no space for anyone to butt in, because it is only and only
about the two people (usually two) who are in the specific relationship.
Just ask yourself if you are ready.
Learn to know your partner and trust your partner.
Just take your time. Don't be pressured into anything.

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[quote=daisukidesuyo]Ehh this is a more general question, but is there such thing as a "normal" steady progression of a relationship? From getting into a relationship to kissing to going through all the bases, etc? To be more specific, a relationship between college students.

Yes its possible.

Ack, I should have been more specific. What is that normal progression? I mean, time-wise. Like, having sex for the first time, at how many months should that happen at? At what point in the relationship should each of the other bases be crossed? What is too early? Is there such thing as too early?

Why would there be?
There aren't any inborn guide lines for a relationship.
All the bogus around it completely made by societal
defaults (AKA herd behavior) and the fear of embarrassing yourself.
All you need to remember is that the relationship is your thing.
It is you and your partner(s) who make the rules.
Not your parents, not your friends, not your nation, not your religion,
absolutely nothing like that. It is only about the people in the relationship.
Otherwise you are not doing it for yourself at all and that alone is living a lie.
There is no space for anyone to butt in, because it is only and only
about the two people (usually two) who are in the specific relationship.
Just ask yourself if you are ready.
Learn to know your partner and trust your partner.
Just take your time. Don't be pressured into anything.[/quote]

Just like what Mamsmilk said; there are no guides for this. However the real challenge usually starts when both parties fully accepts each other for who they are and have agreed that they both are willing to go up the next level. This usually takes a couple of years, not months. A relationship should not be rushed, it should progress at a comfortable speed where both sides can slowly come together nicely.

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[quote=Tenji][quote=daisukidesuyo]Ehh this is a more general question, but is there such thing as a "normal" steady progression of a relationship? From getting into a relationship to kissing to going through all the bases, etc? To be more specific, a relationship between college students.

Yes its possible.

Ack, I should have been more specific. What is that normal progression? I mean, time-wise. Like, having sex for the first time, at how many months should that happen at? At what point in the relationship should each of the other bases be crossed? What is too early? Is there such thing as too early?

Why would there be?
There aren't any inborn guide lines for a relationship.
All the bogus around it completely made by societal
defaults (AKA herd behavior) and the fear of embarrassing yourself.
All you need to remember is that the relationship is your thing.
It is you and your partner(s) who make the rules.
Not your parents, not your friends, not your nation, not your religion,
absolutely nothing like that. It is only about the people in the relationship.
Otherwise you are not doing it for yourself at all and that alone is living a lie.
There is no space for anyone to butt in, because it is only and only
about the two people (usually two) who are in the specific relationship.
Just ask yourself if you are ready.
Learn to know your partner and trust your partner.
Just take your time. Don't be pressured into anything.[/quote]

Just like what Mamsmilk said; there are no guides for this. However the real challenge usually starts when both parties fully accepts each other for who they are and have agreed that they both are willing to go up the next level. This usually takes a couple of years, not months. A relationship should not be rushed, it should progress at a comfortable speed where both sides can slowly come together nicely. [/quote]
Thank you, mams & Tenji. You two make some really good points. It's just that I'm looking at the progression of my relationship with my boyfriend(of 4 months) and we got into things pretty quickly, though it doesn't feel rushed or pressured. Lately, we've been getting really really comfortable with each other sexually, and I was wondering (realistically) how long until we would actually do that final step....

We both believe in waiting for a long while(one year+) and have set up some guidelines and rules for that first time, but sometimes we both feel we might actually do it a lot sooner than expected....

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and I was wondering (realistically) how long until we would actually do that final step

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geanime54 go here...

http://www.mangaupdates.com/showtopic.php?tid=2455&hl=size
http://www.mangaupdates.com/showtopic.php?tid=15737&hl=size
http://www.mangaupdates.com/showtopic.php?tid=10905&hl=size
http://www.mangaupdates.com/showtopic.php?tid=2093&hl=size

Hell, there's even a nip thread...
http://www.mangaupdates.com/showtopic.php?tid=17921&hl=size

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I have a question for guys and girls...talking about the sizes that people always seem to compare, for each gender, respectively. This probably has been asked before in this topic, seeing how long it is...but anyways.

Regardless of what your size is, are you happy with it? Or do you wish it was bigger, or maybe even smaller?

I.E. I am a girl, an American C cup, and I'm fine with it.

I'm a guy and I wish I was bigger. I'm packing 6 1/2" and while I know that is about average, it has to be taken into consideration that as somebody that is 6'2" and 260lbs, my average sized penis looks small in comparison to the rest of my body.

[/quote]I'm a guy and I wish I was bigger. I'm packing 6 1/2" and while I know that is about average, it has to be taken into consideration that as somebody that is 6'2" and 260lbs, my average sized penis looks small in comparison to the rest of my body.[/quote]

Dude I know how you feel. I only have about six inches to use but you know what? I make up for it with youthful vigor and controlled pumping(for her pleasure 😎 )

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I have a question for guys and girls...talking about the sizes that people always seem to compare, for each gender, respectively. This probably has been asked before in this topic, seeing how long it is...but anyways.

Regardless of what your size is, are you happy with it? Or do you wish it was bigger, or maybe even smaller?

I.E. I am a girl, an American C cup, and I'm fine with it.

Well, I'm happy with my size (cup D) but I have problems with my flabby tummy. I always envy other women who have a flat tummy, even if they have smaller breasts. I think I'm just blindly comforming to what the society think is 'beautiful', i.e., having an hourglass body shape.

I should be grateful to be one of those average women. Having fat in the tummy makes me live longer [in case there's an emergency!] and keeps the body warm. 🙂

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I'm a guy and I wish I was bigger. I'm packing 6 1/2" and while I know that is about average, it has to be taken into consideration that as somebody that is 6'2" and 260lbs, my average sized penis looks small in comparison to the rest of my body.

Actually, that is a good size to be at. However, its not the length that actually matters, but the girth (circumference) that I have discovered that is the most important. Look at it this way, you could have a 12" pencil stick and what good would it if she can't even feel it?

Me, I'm shy of 6" but I have a fairly wide girth and many women have told me I have been much more pleasurable than my longer peers.

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Girls, how do you feel about guys with long hair? Yay or nay.

Well, I once asked out a guy with long hair, it was a bit problematic as I have long hair too and it gets in the way and makes it hard to breathe sometimes. Physically, it totally depends on the guy's looks - if it suits him or not. I find it attractive but practically a hurdle at times.

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A question for the girls

Would you be willing to set up/hook up the guy that you liked with your friend/girlfriend if that guy(who you like) asked you to help him in that matter?

Hmm...I think women are quite possessive creatures. Some women dont like it even if they are in a relationship themselves. I say never ask a girl to set you up if you have had a bit of history together- or you are aware she liked you at some point of time- even if she has a guy now. For me, looking at some friend I like, I wont mind as long as I have never been with the guy. If I have, I would be very distressed. I might or might not depending on my feelings. Its in-built.

To guys- what makes you stick with a girl? I mean, you start dating and trying out whether theres going to be a relationship or not. What in your experience, makes you feel you dont want to look for greener pastures and just be loyal to a girl?

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To guys- what makes you stick with a girl? I mean, you start dating and trying out whether theres going to be a relationship or not. What in your experience, makes you feel you dont want to look for greener pastures and just be loyal to a girl?

This is actually a difficult question because it depends on the guy's age. For example, 0-28 guys just want nothing but sex (for the most part.) Try to establish anything around these ages - forgetaboutit. Around 28-32 guys start to typically settle down, slowly begin to move out of that party stage and try to begin to establish a life. Anything past 32 guys are generally serious about getting involved. You might get lucky and find some younger ones here and there but overall that is the average.

Now, what it comes down to is this: guys want respect. They don't want to settle with a woman who would be looking over his back every 30 seconds or calling him every 2 hours trying to find out where he is at. A guy wants to be relied upon his wife without having to constantly "prove" himself.

For example, if a guy is watching TV and you notice the faucet is leaking, wait until a commercial and just simply say, "Honey, the faucet is leaking. Can you fix it?" Now, secretly, this is a challenge to a man. You have just put him on the spot to fix that leaking faucet. Depending on the guy, he'll either a) begin working on it right away or b) wait until his program is over and begin to fix it. If you don't nag on him, he'll realize you respect him, thus, happy world. But you nag on him....well, can you say California Divorce?

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This is actually a difficult question because it depends on the guy's age. For example, 0-28 guys just want nothing but sex (for the most part.) Try to establish anything around these ages - forgetaboutit. Around 28-32 guys start to typically settle down, slowly begin to move out of that party stage and try to begin to establish a life. Anything past 32 guys are generally serious about getting involved. You might get lucky and find some younger ones here and there but overall that is the average.

**Now, what it comes down to is this: guys want respect. They don't want to settle with a woman who would be looking over his back every 30 seconds or calling him every 2 hours trying to find out where he is at. A guy wants to be relied upon his wife without having to constantly "prove" himself. **

For example, if a guy is watching TV and you notice the faucet is leaking, wait until a commercial and just simply say, "Honey, the faucet is leaking. Can you fix it?" Now, secretly, this is a challenge to a man. You have just put him on the spot to fix that leaking faucet. Depending on the guy, he'll either a) begin working on it right away or b) wait until his program is over and begin to fix it. If you don't nag on him, he'll realize you respect him, thus, happy world. But you nag on him....well, can you say California Divorce?

Thanks for a detailed answer. The mid part does help. But it touches on one part only. Wanting respect from someone- what about everything else? surely, a guy really wants more than respect and perhaps a physical relationship? 😀

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To guys- what makes you stick with a girl? I mean, you start dating and trying out whether theres going to be a relationship or not. What in your experience, makes you feel you dont want to look for greener pastures and just be loyal to a girl?

It depends on what you want. If you want a loyal man, then I have nothing to say to you...just be extremely lucky, that's the best you can do. Man almost never cheat because of relationship problems, so it's not the woman fault. If a man has relationship problems he is more inclined to break up than to cheat because of these problems. With the exception of couple with kids for example, then there is a reason for not breaking up and having a dead relationship instead.
If you want the man to not leave you to marry/date other woman, hardly simple things like what Jake said will be a decisive factor, but they surely can help, since lots of simple things piled up get huge.

The most Important thing I can remember of is "routine"
For example, you start living together, whenever he asks you to get him a cup you go and do it even tough you don't like getting cups(really a bad example..), afterall you are all excited with living together and all so you are always willing. With time this excitement goes down and the relationship gets to the normal again buut, he will keep asking you to get the cup. It might not be something to worry over at first but things like that pile up, also the problem will get bigger if you are in a bad mood for example.
Summarizing, establish since the start what you like and what you don't like. And if you have/find problems tell him fast, don't let it pile up.
Really, letting a man get loose is a good recipe to disaster

Edit: I think you will notice but anyway, this routine thing is not only to people living together, it applies to any couple. Simple things like a sound he make with the mouth or a way to touch that you don't like can be a substitute for the cup example.