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16 years ago
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I have a few more questions 😛
Not sure if these have been asked though...-If a girl is currently dating or interested in another guy, does this situation motivate you to pursue her more or to just give up? Some girls still go for it when guys are dating other girls, is it the same for guys?
Do guys like girls with more, or with less sexual experience then them? same applies for relationship experience.
-Do guys really have a fetish for like example: maid, nurse, school girl costumes? I know they do, but around what age are guys really into that stuff?
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Depends if I know the guy. If I don't, it'd still discourage me alot but if I thought that she really was THE ONE (which I have sadly yet to feel) then I'd still go for it. If the guy was my friend or something then hell no, wouldn't even think of going for her. That's just shady imo.
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I don't think there's any standard male view on this - it varies from person to person. That said, personally I'd perfer one with lot's of experience if I was just in the relationship for fun but if I was really serious about the girl I would slightly prefer her to be less experienced. Knowing that the person I love has been with alot of other guys would make me feel slightly awkward. But it's not that big of a deal, it's not something I check for to see if someone is for me.
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Some do. I think it's a much bigger thing in Japan. I personally think that a girl who dresses well everyday is much more attractive than any costume.
As for your earlier 2 questions:
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Here's the way I see it. Half the guys who say they want a serious relationship are lying and they just want some pussy. The other half (I put myself here) are serious but find it hard to find a girl they want to commit to. In the mean time, we aren't gonna make ourselves hermits so we'll go in less serious relationships with girls that we might not see ourselves with in the future. Who knows, maybe one of those girls will turn out to be a keeper afterall.
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Can't answer this one since I've never really seen this in real life. Most of my friends aren't dumb enough to check out other girls right in front of their gf. Those that do are the ones in really open relationships where their gf will point out a hot girl before they do 🤣
Alright question of my own now. Ladies, what's the single most important thing in a guy. Be specific too, don't just say personality, say what type of personality, or what specific physical feature.
16 years ago
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Quote from LunaMay
I have a few more questions 😛
Not sure if these have been asked though...-If a girl is currently dating or interested in another guy, does this situation motivate you to pursue her more or to just give up? Some girls still go for it when guys are dating other girls, is it the same for guys?
Do guys like girls with more, or with less sexual experience then them? same applies for relationship experience.
-Do guys really have a fetish for like example: maid, nurse, school girl costumes? I know they do, but around what age are guys really into that stuff?
- Those are two situations... If she is interested in another guy, but there is nothing yet (just one sided interest) then I would try to have a conversation to see if there is any hope... if there isn't then I would probably back away.
Now if she already has a boyfriend, then I would probably give up, but that depends on the fact of how happy she is with her actual boyfriend ^_^...
- hmmm, sexual experience = how many you have done? ... I will be honest, I DON'T WANT TO KNOW
Same about Relationships, IS BAD to start a relationship talking about your previous girlfriend/boyfriend
- You know we do? some guys have that kind of fetish, but to say we "all" do is pushing a lie too far... every guy has a fetish, but not many have anything to do with those 3.
Most have to do with Appearance and others with personality
What do I mean exactly? Ethnicity, Height, Boobs, Strong Character, Meek Character and so on >_>
Is 1AM here and I am kind of wasted... so sorry if it doesn't make any sense...
16 years ago
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Yay! You always answer my questions Pirate! Thank you! 🙂
It's because they are interesting questions.
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Yeah I wanted to see an age range because I would find it weird if someone close to my age had such a fetish. I use to always associate fetishes with grown older men, don't know why though. But everyone has them I guess.
It's easy to do that because typically guys aging from teenagers to young adults are less specific about what they find "sexy". Hormones and whatnot. They may have a fetish, but it doesn't stand out because they find everything more sexy than other people do.
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16 years ago
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- Depends if I know the guy. If I don't, it'd still discourage me alot but if I thought that she really was THE ONE (which I have sadly yet to feel) then I'd still go for it. If the guy was my friend or something then hell no, wouldn't even think of going for her. That's just shady imo.
That's why I respect guys a whole lot more than girls because at least they follow the 'male code' (don't know if it exists though). Girls are just bitchy they back stab more than they don't.[/quote]
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Same about Relationships, IS BAD to start a relationship talking about your previous girlfriend/boyfriend
Aw. Don't you hate when girls do that. I know a lot that do, I don't unless the guy actually asks me. But I would never ask that's pretty much a step into a disastrous relationship.[quote]
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Alright question of my own now. Ladies, what's the single most important thing in a guy. Be specific too, don't just say personality, say what type of personality, or what specific physical feature.
Well I'm picky with guys. A man's character/personality is built of many different qualities that makes him who he is, I could never pick just one type of personality it would be unfair to do so. The first thing I look for is a guy with a sense of humor I find that very attractive. But to me what's really attractive is a guy whose just simple and who says what he means and means what he says. A guy I can simply talk to and know I'm not wasting my time by listening to him. Basically just a guy who can be real with himself and therefore, real with me.
As for physical feature I don't count as much, I have dated guys in the past based on appearance and the experience I gained was that they are complete jerks. Yeah I like cute guys, but that's not the first thing I would look for in a guy.
One good quality alone does not make someone attractive to someone else. That's why I like looking for other qualities in guys.
I'm pretty sure Chaos is going to say something to contradict what I've said though. 🙄
16 years ago
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Is 1AM here and I am kind of wasted... so sorry if it doesn't make any sense...
Haha you're actually pretty lucid for being wasted. I couldn't tell at all.
16 years ago
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Alright question of my own now. Ladies, what's the single most important thing in a guy. Be specific too, don't just say personality, say what type of personality, or what specific physical feature.
I don't think there can be one single most important thing, it's always going to be a combination of things and how they balance each other out. Just as a quick example, if you say something like "honesty", the guy also needs some tact & kindness or the he's not going be very nice to be around! 🤣 I could give you a long list of what's important to me, but I really can't choose just one quality as The Most Important.
Physical features are even harder to pin down for me, because the more I like someone's personality, the more I like their looks. Again, I could make a list of my "ideal" physical features on a guy, but there's no guarantee that a guy I fall for will have any of them, let alone ALL of them.
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16 years ago
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Is 1AM here and I am kind of wasted... so sorry if it doesn't make any sense...
Haha you're actually pretty lucid for being wasted. I couldn't tell at all.
No kidding,
And I just noticed you just asked for one thing sorry shade. 🤣
16 years ago
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Is 1AM here and I am kind of wasted... so sorry if it doesn't make any sense...
Haha you're actually pretty lucid for being wasted. I couldn't tell at all.
No kidding,
And I just noticed you just asked for one thing sorry shade. 🤣
It's alright, I'd probably do the same thing too if I was trying to answer a question like that 🤣
I definitely agree, there isn't just one thing that attracts me to a person.If I had to choose one myself, I'd say that a girl who doesn't take herself too seriously but is self-confident at the same time is very very attractive. Maybe because I know so few girls like this. Most girls I know are usually a little too self-conscious and they need alot of attention. It was kinda cute at first I guess, but it wore out FAST. Can't stand it now, although I still find myself counseling them all the time sigh
16 years ago
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I definitely agree, there isn't just one thing that attracts me to a person.If I had to choose one myself, I'd say that a girl who doesn't take herself too seriously but is self-confident at the same time is very very attractive. Maybe because I know so few girls like this. Most girls I know are usually a little too self-conscious and they need alot of attention. It was kinda cute at first I guess, but it wore out FAST. Can't stand it now, although I still find myself counseling them all the time sigh
Same here if there was thing I'd hate to find in a guy is insecurity. I dated a guy once who always thought I would run off on him for some reason, which was weird cause I'm honestly not that type of girl. And as much as I like a guy giving me his attention there's just so much I can take when he'd call every damn hour to see where I was. Clinginess is rather irritating at times. It's okay at first but you know after a few days, maybe weeks (if you're patient) it's rather tiring at best.
And lol at the last part counseling, seriously? You sir, are a brave man.
16 years ago
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Is 1AM here and I am kind of wasted... so sorry if it doesn't make any sense...
Haha you're actually pretty lucid for being wasted. I couldn't tell at all.
Actually it took me more than 15 mins to post that... why? because I kept messing up my writing and my line of thought...
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- Depends if I know the guy. If I don't, it'd still discourage me alot but if I thought that she really was THE ONE (which I have sadly yet to feel) then I'd still go for it. If the guy was my friend or something then hell no, wouldn't even think of going for her. That's just shady imo.
That's why I respect guys a whole lot more than girls because at least they follow the 'male code' (don't know if it exists though). Girls are just bitchy they back stab more than they don't.
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Same about Relationships, IS BAD to start a relationship talking about your previous girlfriend/boyfriend
Aw. Don't you hate when girls do that. I know a lot that do, I don't unless the guy actually asks me. But I would never ask that's pretty much a step into a disastrous relationship.
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Alright question of my own now. Ladies, what's the single most important thing in a guy. Be specific too, don't just say personality, say what type of personality, or what specific physical feature.
Well I'm picky with guys. A man's character/personality is built of many different qualities that makes him who he is, I could never pick just one type of personality it would be unfair to do so. The first thing I look for is a guy with a sense of humor I find that very attractive. But to me what's really attractive is a guy whose just simple and who says what he means and means what he says. A guy I can simply talk to and know I'm not wasting my time by listening to him. Basically just a guy who can be real with himself and therefore, real with me.
As for physical feature I don't count as much, I have dated guys in the past based on appearance and the experience I gained was that they are complete jerks. Yeah I like cute guys, but that's not the first thing I would look for in a guy.
One good quality alone does not make someone attractive to someone else. That's why I like looking for other qualities in guys.
I'm pretty sure Chaos is going to say something to contradict what I've said though. 🙄
Lol? Huh... why would I do that? 😕
Anyway About the Code
Is like the Pirates code in "Pirates of the Caribbean", those are not rules, just guidelines ^_^;
Men don't like to screw each other, but sometimes is worth it 😛
16 years ago
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I'm no good at answering questions like that because I'm bad at sorting through my feelings. Emotional black boxes ftw.
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16 years ago
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Actually it took me more than 15 mins to post that... why? because I kept messing up my writing and my line of thought...
Your last post makes me believe you.
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Lol? Huh... why would I do that? 😕
Like you don't know. The last posts I made you had something to say that always disagreed with me. But it's okay, it's fun that way. 😛
I'm no good at answering questions like that because I'm bad at sorting through my feelings. Emotional black boxes ftw.
Yeah I feel the same way often. And it is a rather difficult question to answer, but there must be at least one specific thing you don't like to find in girls, no?
16 years ago
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I can't come up with an answer more specific than 'bitchiness' or 'a bad personality''. Seriously, I have trouble coming up with anything. This is why I avoid things like relationships. I just don't know what to feel.
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16 years ago
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I definitely agree, there isn't just one thing that attracts me to a person.If I had to choose one myself, I'd say that a girl who doesn't take herself too seriously but is self-confident at the same time is very very attractive. Maybe because I know so few girls like this. Most girls I know are usually a little too self-conscious and they need alot of attention. It was kinda cute at first I guess, but it wore out FAST. Can't stand it now, although I still find myself counseling them all the time sigh
Same here if there was thing I'd hate to find in a guy is insecurity. I dated a guy once who always thought I would run off on him for some reason, which was weird cause I'm honestly not that type of girl. And as much as I like a guy giving me his attention there's just so much I can take when he'd call every damn hour to see where I was. Clinginess is rather irritating at times. It's okay at first but you know after a few days, maybe weeks (if you're patient) it's rather tiring at best.
And lol at the last part counseling, seriously? You sir, are a brave man.
Not brave, just good at listening and having patience. I don't have it nearly as bad as my friend though. He's one of those guys who makes friends with girls really really easily. So easily that they never think of him as more than a friend. Kind of weird actually since he's not really the most sympathetic of people.
And the question was supposed to be what you DO like about the other sex but I guess it's kinda evolved into what you don't like 🤣
On that note, I'd say that fakeness bothers me the most. I actually have alot of girl/friends that are kinda slutty/bitchy to new people/neurotic etc but I don't mind so much as long as they don't try to pretend they're not. It's the ones who act like they're really innocent and then hookup with 5+ guys at a party that really bother me. Then again, that applies to people in general not just girls.
Pirate: I was in the same boat for awhile then suddenly one day I just became alot better with emotions and stuff. I'd give you advice but it'd come off as psychoanalycounseling bullshit and I hate it when people do that to me so I won't. But yeah, you're not alone.
16 years ago
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Pirate: I was in the same boat for awhile then suddenly one day I just became alot better with emotions and stuff. I'd give you advice but it'd come off as psychoanalycounseling bullshit and I hate it when people do that to me so I won't. But yeah, you're not alone.
Feel free. It's interesting reading. If somebody could convince me that I don't have a broken emotional center my jaw would hit the floor.
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