Are You A Hand-Holder?
16 years ago
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I enjoy the little gestures.
Holding hands are one of them. ♥
16 years ago
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Lol, this thread is interesting in revealing what people's preferences are... I love the fine print that separates arm-grabbing from hand-holding! 😀
Yes to the sweaty palms - that's one of the things that makes hand-holding undesirable for me. And it's not the other person's fault, or anything; I'm the one who usually has sweaty palms. >_> A small part of me feels awkward about it... I mean, you don't want your partner to think, "Ewww," right?
Haha I've probably disgusted many of you now. Good thing I don't look for romantic alliances online! 🤨
16 years ago
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The one thing I ever remember making hand-holding undesirable for me was one guy whose fingers were REALLY plump. It just felt 'wrong', and I couldn't take it. I know it's a shallow thing to say, but it was just a big turn-off. I can't help it.
If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.
From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."
16 years ago
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I'm a hand-holder. I just makes me feel warm inside.
16 years ago
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I don't mind it, but really.. it's awkward to release when your hand is about to get sweaty xDDDDD;;
16 years ago
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@chueisha, I must ask you to explain your icon. 😀
@Liria, I totally get that. It's funny how our aesthetics get hung up on certain things... For me, it's not the plump part that bothers me, but the short part - I like long fingers, and I don't think I've EVER dated anyone with short/stubby fingers. Again it feels shallow to say this, but it's the truth... (Please don't mind, short-fingered people on this forum! It's just the way if you don't like sweaty hands, you definitely wouldn't date me. <_< Lol.)
Edit: A question for you, Liria...
There are also times when one of us wants to hold hands and the other doesn't. =)
How do you resolve it when that happens? 🙂
16 years ago
Posts: 250
if i had a girlfriend i rather not hold hands.. instead i rather her grab onto my arm (if anything). I wouldn't wanna do really awkward things in public, arm linking just seems more natural than holding hands. The guy and girl are both more relaxed.
16 years ago
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I don't mind.
16 years ago
Posts: 117
holding hands seems kind of... awkward to me. when standing and talking its fine, but they want to be close while walking, grabbing onto the arm is much easier.
i think many people appreciate the gesture that holding hands represents, especially when you just start dating a person.
and on a side note, i cant stand sweaty hands. not mine or anyone elses.
Doing nothing is very hard to do. You never know when you're done.
16 years ago
Posts: 385
Nah, but that's cause I'm not really a touchy-feely guy to begin with. I don't mind it more than other touchy gestures though, and I don't pull away or anything when a girl holds my hand.
Member16 years ago
Posts: 461
I like holding hands and grabbing onto the arm, though sweaty hands bother me if we're holding hands for more than a short period of time.
If the other person wants to do it, I'll try my best. ^-^
16 years ago
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Quote from tartufo
Edit: A question for you, Liria...
There are also times when one of us wants to hold hands and the other doesn't. =)
How do you resolve it when that happens? 🙂
Sometimes he offers his arm and I take that instead. (He likes offering his arm because he feels like more of a gentleman then.) And sometimes we just shrug it off/shudder/etc. and say "I don't wanna right now." and the other wrinkles his/her nose and good-naturedly says "huff Fine." Between us, we know it's not something to take personally. It might be our mood, the temperature, or any number of other things that aren't worth the argument. We'll usually make up for it later, when whatever it was has changed/calmed down/gone away, whatever.
If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.
From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."
16 years ago
Posts: 1005
It seems like I'm not the only one who perfers holding onto the arm while walking vs. holding hands.
But I like holding hands if we're standing still. And if the other person really wanted to walk like that, I wouldn't care...
The only public display of affection that really bothers me is if the couple becomes, well, disruptive. Have some tact 😮
16 years ago
Posts: 1230
Not really, but there's always a place and time for everything. I guess it depends on the situation. And I find that hand holding is much more exciting early in the relationship.
Clingy couples in public irritate me. What's worse than hand holding is when couples put their hands the back pockets of their significant other, or when they're rubbing each other incessantly. 🤨
16 years ago
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Quote from tartufo
I just don't like having my freedom of movement controlled. Does that make any sense? It doesn't make any sense, does it... Or maybe there's some deep psychological meaning. 😛
I don't mind hand-holding at all even while walking. I don't find it restricting in any way. There's no reason why you can't be the one in control in a hand-holding situation.~
Unless the other person has some kind of death grip.
