XD Good choice. Sometimes being less categorical can evade this kind of stuff, but it also makes life lackluster.

Guess I'm disgusting because there's nothing wrong with it.

It's not "wrong". I just don't think it's really effective. The relationships between all the parties involved are never the same, and with time it's very rare that everyone is truly "okay" with it. Heck, you often get jealous siblings, and even jealous friends, let alone partners.

Exclusivity in a romantic relationship is often one of its strong point, at least to me.

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Wow so many people saying "no" O_O.
I believe this question formulation is not correct though. Let's be honest most women and men (in developed countries) don't want to be part of a polygamy. This question mainly refer to what we are seeing in most nowadays light novels / isekai harem. Since these 2D characters are usually ok (author power) with it... Many people will say it's "fantasy" but I disagree, its "phantasm".

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Have you ever considered biwoman? I notice a lot of people also have the preconception that the man is in charge, not two girls and a boytoy. Or even two men and one woman.

I will admit I've seen plenty of open relationships that work well, and one of my friends was in a polygamous relationship. She has one guy for romance and the other for sex, I don't even know how she balanced it but everyone was happy (if you're wondering what ended it, one became an unemployed alcoholic).

I'll generally use the following logic: if nobody gets hurt or affected, then I don't care what other people do. I don't believe anyone is affected by some triple/quadruple so my answer is therefore obvious. I'm absolutely not interested by such a relationship though.

As for why it's forbidden, it's mostly because polyGAMY, which means a man with multiple spouses. The reverse situation is polyandry, and is much much rarer. Polygamy typically exists in countries where women don't have the same rights as men and therefore was seen as a treat to gender equality. Since polyandry was such a rare case, it was assumed to be non-existent therefore allowing relationships with multiple partners would mostly concern polygamy. However, the poll title should be revised imo.

By the way, polygamy/andry is not illegal in most countries however the marriage system does not allow for a third person. You are nonetheless free to have a relationship with a third person (excluding laws about cheating) but you will find yourself handicapped in multiple situations: marriage (which can help with taxes), having a child, etc.

I have no idea how a relationship like that would work honestly but I've mostly seen a relationship where A and B are in love with C who loves them both, rather than the three people loving each other equally. Maybe I'm wrong though, I don't know much about this and it's not every day you encounter such a relationship.

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I don't want to be involved in polygamy and I don't agree with it, but I think the concept of polygamy itself is not wrong, depends on the circumstances, the consent of the first wife, and the reason behind it.

Polygamy is not only about consent. It's also about the person, if he can treat his wives fairly (in material and non-material aspects). However, I know there are people nowadays who did polygamy only because they wanted young wives, or that they wanted to show their superior masculinity.. I don't think people like this can actually treat/love his wives fairly.

(Though of course, I speak about polygamy in Islam from a non-moslem perspective as I live in a moslem-majority country, and I might be wrong.)

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Personally I have no problem with an open relationship where both members of the couple are free to pursue outside sexual relationships and fine with their partner doing so. What bothers me about polygamy (I thought that related only to one men + multiple women but it looks like that may be polygyny and the opposite is polyandry?) is that it generally appears in a cultural context and when it’s a cultural norm or ideal for one gender to be allowed multiple spouses and the other gender to be one of many spouses, that’s gender discrimination. It also too often seems to involve underage girls. For instance, this nutty Christian community in Canada: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bountiful,_British_Columbia

I have absolutely no interest in pursuing a relationship like that but if all parties are willing participants, I see no issue with it. It's when it is forced, coerced, or involving child brides that it becomes an issue and I can't support that.

I'm ok with it, but only a handful people can do it successfully. By successfully I mean everyone in the relationship is happy and thriving.

It's kind of like owning a monkey. People think how awesome it is, forgetting it's a ton of work and commitment. Even then when you follow through properly it could still rip your face off.


Mormons? What a shock! 🙄

You are disgusting and there's nothing wrong with that. 😃

if they are all equally love and are married to eachother i think that its called polyamory

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I'm not a fan of polygamy, polygyny, polyandry or anything in-between. Trying to manage multiple romantic/sexual relationships is too much of a hassle if you ask me. Managing one monogamous relationship keeps it simple. Sure, if all parties consented to it, I can't stop them from doing so (nor would I want to). I'm still going to consider it a bad idea from the get go. This applies not only to one man with many wives, but one woman with many husbands, one man with many husbands, one woman with many wives, one man with many husbands and wives and one woman with many wives and husbands as well. Granted, I don't mind it being explored in fictional contexts like the harem genre for example. But I'd rather keep that within the realm of fantasy than try to seriously apply the idea of having a harem in real life.

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