Be yourself.

I mean, I don't really think there's any other answer. Girls aren't that different from guys. And if you're in a large group of girls and you feel nervous, it's normal. Just start to get to know them more and it'll be more comfortable. You don't have to be a certain way when you're around girls or even treat them specially or anything. (This is for just hanging with some female friends, not for a girlfriend. She'd probably want you to treat her specially. Lol.Or not. Depends.)

1. Be yourself.
2. Have good manners.
3. Be nice. Everyone hates a jerk.
4. Pay attention to another person's reaction. If they don't like something you did then don't do it again.
5. Don't do anything you wouldn't do around your own friends.

Girls aren't from Mars. We have interests, just like you do. Connect with a girl like you would a guy: find common interests and chat about that. Also, don't overreact. When a girl does something don't interpret it as a signal. Really, if you just want to talk with girls then treat them like you would any new person you want to become friends with, guy or girl. And if you're nervous in situations you're unfamiliar with then bring a friend. Nothing helps inspire confidence more than that.

Try it out in the field. As a girlie myself I can guarentee that it works.

And how do I rein in the touch-feely part of me?

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There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

cold showers

lots of cold showers

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"Officially, this machine doesn't exist, you didn't get it from me,
and I don't know you. Make sure it doesn't leave the building."

Here's a piece of advice: never badmouth your exgirlfriends, that shows you have really bad taste and definitely that you're a jerk. I dumped a guy mainly for this after a three hour date in which he spoke about this about at least half an hour.

Also if you want to hit on a girl, don't try to overthrow her with expensive gifts, but a single flower shows that you care. And always ask for her opinion during a conversation, this shows that you really value her as a person, not just for her looks.

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I love vampires.

Control yourself. Don't touch someone even if you really want to because I know a lot of people who are sensitive about personal space and hate being touched unless they initiate the contact. If you're just trying to connect with the girl then keep your hands to yourself.

Really, just grit your teeth and smile. And take a cold shower when you get home.

I get that; I'm sensitive about personal space myself. Thing is, when I feel elated, I feel like pulling someone into a bear hug

And I noticed something today - girls don't don't notce me (not that I blame them). So, as long as I keep my paranoia in check, and try not to make a fool of myself, I should be fine. Maybe.

I sometimes do feel that it would be better if I had more close friends. Heck, it would be better if I had any close friends that weren't miles away, with STD phone charges

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There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

Confidence. That's really all you need. All those other ones like "be yourself" are only good if you're trying to get a girlfriend. I get laid all the time because I have a little bit of confidence. One of my friends, who weighs about 240 lbs (about 105 kg?) of mostly fat, gets hot girls all the time. I don't use the term hot lightly either. He looks like a bulldog, but he thinks he looks good and he tells himself that every morning in the mirror -_-
If you have no confidence, hang around outgoing and confident people. It worked for me and I was a shy, quiet, virgin up to my senior year in high school. Now I hardly try and girls flock. I'm not saying I attract models, but most are pretty good looking... especially when I'm drunk

i agree so much, this is perfect advice.


Are you touchy feely with your male friends? If so keep doing that. If you don't why not? Do you think women automatically want your hands on them?
You said people don't notice you, make eye contact with people and maybe offer a small smile.



I'm assuming that your friend has more things going for him... if not well that's how society raises girls so i'm not surprised. And how nice for you

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I know that they don't like ti - that's why I asked about reining it in, not wether I should do it or not. I respect their personal space, but I hope you understand that to me, sometimes mere words cannot express all my emotions.

And I don't mind them noticing me. I don't blame them. There are better guys around. That's the sad fact of life

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There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

Define better.


Actually, nevermind, I can see why they'd think that.

Or why you'd think they'd think that.

I don't get the second part of your post.


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There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

Ah, so you're judging by society's standards rather than the standards of individuals.

Which is good if you want to be popular.

Actually, as far as I am concerned, society standards are crap. If I cared about that, I would be living a very different and far more miserable life right now
The only standards I car about are mine. but I can also appreciate the fact that most females - even males - around me have been brought up according to the society's standards, and stick to them.

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There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

So...

You accept that you are below society's standards, but you would like to know how to act around women given what you listed out.

You also refer to yourself as half-crazy...In which case you should not be walking the streets.

What sort of advice would you like? All I see in this is a pity exercise Oo