A single rose seems more romantic and meaningful to me, but on the other hand, a bouquet obviously makes a huge impression and does look very lovely... What are people's thoughts?

And please don't say, "Roses aren't for me." This poll is for those who would like to give/receive roses... I know, I'm so mushy. But this is a mushy time of the year!

It might be weird to divide this poll according to gender, but I was just curious about what both men and women think, and whether their choices differ.

I'm a woman, but I definitely prefer the single rose. The only time I'd prefer a bouquet would be on my wedding night, if the petals were scattered all over our bed! Otherwise, it's so sad to see a whole bouquet wilt... It seems like the feelings in them are wilting, too. A single rose can be pressed in a book and kept forever.

Then again, I know that many of my female friends prefer bouquets, because they're so gone-with-the-wind-ish and really showcase their lover's overflowing emotions! Well, hopefully he isn't trying to apologize for something; I've seen guys do that with bouquets, but never with single roses, so it does make me wonder.

As an aside... If you're a guy, would you mind receiving flowers? I'd actually asked my partner this a long time ago, and he'd said, "Heck, if you ask guys, most of the time they'd be thrilled a girl was interested in them. Flower, schmower, it doesn't matter what it is, what'll make him happy is that she loves him." So, I guess... giving flowers is okay? I mean, it shows that she cares. And that'll make a guy happy, right? (As will the candle-lit dinner with his favorite food--even if it's just a homemade burger and chips. Romance is all about weird juxtapositions!)

Please answer my questions, I'm very curious.

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Single one.

For Valentine's day, I'd give neither. Showing your love with gifts on one specific day is bullshit and not romantic. It's all about surprising them throughout the course of the relationship with a single rose twelve times, not giving them a dozen on the day they expect it the most.

I agree with you, Jooles, about surprising one's lover on non-occasion days--but I also believe in giving something on those days. It's only when you never do anything spontaneous for your lover at other times, that giving a gift on special occasions looks like a neglectful or throwaway gesture. But if it's part of a natural giving feeling, then it's just another sweet moment, no? Just another cherry on top!

And it's at a time that's socially accepted, too; my lover might feel left out if all his friends are getting something on a particular day, but he isn't. So I prefer to surprise him in our day-to-day life, and give him something when he expects to receive it. Sweetness all around! Nothing to lose.

My idea of romance is very simple, and is simply this: "Never withhold affection when you can give it." And if society is giving you an excuse to give it in the form of a celebrated day, then why not give it on that day as well?

I also find the story of Saint Valentine deeply moving, personally, and I'd like to give something to my lover on that day, not as part of some sort of marketing gimmick or cultural herd-instinct, but because it's a day that marks one of the greatest loves of all time, and one of the greatest sacrifices in the name of love. It's sort of like saying to my partner, "Yes, I do love you that much. I'd do the same for you."

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I have no idea which one I'd prefer.

Maybe a bouquet would be nice if it came with a vase to put them in

Single rose.

I wouldn't know where to keep that bouquet. o.o

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It definitely looks like the single roses are winning! Whether for practical or romantic reasons, but they are.

Any bouquet-lovers out there? Please offer your ideas!

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Either way is fine.

But I guess for me, I'd like (and give) a bouquet.
I think it's because in my family it's customary to give a whole bouquet,
never a single rose.
My father always brings my mother a big bouquet.
It's very sweet and kinda says "I love you this much"

For someone I love, I just don't think a single rose would cut it.

In general, single flowers have always signified some
sort of accomplishment and had little to do with romance in my life.

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It's always socially accepted [if you're ALREADY INVOLVED with the girl and not some sap trying to woo someone] to show your love. It's, however, not a term I would use for the 14th. On Valentine's day, it's practically demanded of you from society and significant other. So regardless of my feelings toward her, the lingering feeling of social pressure does not only go against my headstrong nature, but will undeniably lessen the emotional attachment behind the gift/action you take. So while I'm not familiar with why we first started celebrating Vday, it has sadly become nothing more than a social and commercial construct. I use the term "sadly" lightly - as long as schmucks keep using Vday as their one day for romance, I will continue to set myself apart as beyond awesome.

But to each his own. Ultimately, my opinion is pretty moot as I don't do relationships, so I'm all about Desperation and Rebound-day. (That would be the 13th and 15th, respectively.

Jooles, your answer is awesome. Desperation-day and Rebound-day! I never thought of them like that!

I suppose that for those who are single, Valentine's Day offers an excellent opportunity (read: excuse) for a shy person to actually approach someone in a romantic fashion and not be seen as an utter freak for doing so, or not causing discomfort at the uncharacteristic gesture. I also know for a fact that many single people are in a more romantic (or, as you might put it, "desperate") mood at this time, so they are more likely to accept overtures at a time when they acutely feel the pinch of being single and alone. Or they might just be more willing to look at someone else in a romantic light, because of the general ambiance of the day, and may not be as put off by a romantic gesture, even if it's from a "sap". I personally don't think of suitors as saps, though. I think it's sweet. I do remember feeling more lonely on Valentine's Day, when I was single. That's just how people are. At that time, unless it was from someone absolutely horrid, I would've quite liked a Valentine's gift. Nothing sappy about it.

Being a girl, I'm kind of surprised that guys apparently feel so pressured to do something on Valentine's Day. Apparently, in Japan, it's become a girl-centric giving-fest, so the girls feel obliged... I don't get either of those things. For me, it's just as simple as conveying my feelings. I do that anyway, on a regular basis, but I definitely won't miss out on doing so on a day when my special someone wants to feel special. It has nothing to do with society, and everything to do with my boo.

I can't imagine being headstrong or non-conformist as a reason for not doing something for my significant other; gift-giving is supposed to be about the other person, not just about oneself.

Obviously, if I thought that a gift at a particular time might upset my partner, then I wouldn't give it. Because it's about them.

One famous real-life example from my social circle was a guy who suddenly wanted to give a break-up gift to his ex-girlfriend of one month ago, "to remember him by". The very idea was so freakish to me that I couldn't comprehend it; apparently, he wanted to leave her with "good memories," but I can only imagine that she'd be upset and freaked out by these apparently stalker-like tendencies in a guy she wasn't supposed to have anything to do with, anymore. Definitely not a good idea for him to have given her that gift, I think.

So you're totally right about suitability! But generally speaking, I can't normally imagine Valentine's Day gifts being unsuitable. Like I said, as long as it's not from someone absolutely horrid...

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A single rose would do just fine. It'd be depressing to see a whole bouquet of roses dying after a few weeks. :[

And one rose is simple. It would still send the message through. :3

Single rose.

I'd prefer to give it than receive it though. But I still haven't had the chance to give a flower to the guy I like >__< hmpft.

you stole my answer from the last valentines thread I answered here

I'm not a big fan of the yearly ultimatum either, but if I were to give something it would be more creative than the "I'm sorry flower".

If I were to receive a rose, I think I wouldn't accept it, or maybe do some trick and give it back trying not to be rude or maybe doing that

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i prefer a single rose! it seems so rOmAnTiC BUT i chose the bouquet for FUN SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I WISH i CAN get one for VaLeNtInE's dAy

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