Sorry for the sudden question this topic actually dont appear much in here but i dont know where to ask or talk to because all of my friends are currently sleeping and i forgot my password on my yahoo account it'll be a pain if i registered again. OK, here's my problem, im a 13 year old girl and a proud Filipino i have a best friend she's been my best friend for a month she's currently being avoided by her past bestfriends she actually dont know that she was being avoided it's because of her ugly personality (i can tell what's ugly on her personality) i just found out that her bestfriends already cried a river for her because of the way she threat them she's actually quite bossy and love to sneak her head out on other people's business and she also loves to talk in a unproper way im also sick of her attitude im only bearing on it she treats her friend like toys when she had enough of her another friend because she got mad when her friend avoids her she would just throw away their relationship and search for another friend she actually did the same many times on me but i keep coming back to her because i pity her every time she looks lonely she's also quite kind she's an expert when it comes to solving love, family problems and when you tell her secrets she wont tell anyone but she loves to tease you in front of your crush (that happened to me a lot of times so my crush is currently avoiding me now because he found out that i like him ;'( ) now that i had enough i wanted to avoid her and join the group that her past best friends made because they wanted to start a distance from her now on i asked for a permission to join already a while ago then she messaged me on facebook saying that she missed me and she loved me i was quite touched now i dont know what to do because im actually pitying her if i imagine what would she look like if i leave her alone like that without saying a word i also want to prove her that i can live without her so im cutting out bonds with her for what she did to me i know it's not right but not im confused right now i dont know what to do 😕 please help me ASAP! 🙁

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it feels like you and your "schoolmate" know very little about friends and "best friends"

also you seem very hyper
you are a proud filipino
wtf is that
do filipinos allways start conversations by telling everyone that they are proud to have been born in that particular country or hapen to have those parents?
or is that more rightwing extremists?

Like Tao said before, I don't get what being Filipino has anything to do with this topic.

Now if this "best friend" of yours makes you feel like shit then she is not your friend, let alone your best friend. But, I am in no position to judge anyone. The best way to solve the problem would be to sit down and have a proper chat with her - not on facebook, but face to face. Tell her how you feel and listen to how she feels in return. Take care to listen to her problems properly in return. Now if her attitude doesn't improve after that, it would be best to distance yourself gradually. For example - don't encourage pointless conversations, texts, late night calls. However, don't break the bonds completely. That never leads to any good. People don't have to be your enemies if they aren't your friends. You can continue to have a casual relationship with her where you just nod hello whenever you meet her.

I hope this helps 😀

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Hmmmmm??

I think that you two should still be friends (if you really pity her)(also, don‘t join the ‘other’ friends when they just wanna discriminate her[such a strong word I suppose]),
but not best friends, and don‘t hang around with her anymore, (especially after what happened to you and your crush),
But, please don‘t shun her, just don‘t be open with her anymore as you had been..
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Eh, I've been in similar situations, sort of. Let me tell you, sitting a person down and explaining what's wrong with their personality isn't easy, especially for the person on the receiving end. I've had these conversations myself. But that doesn't mean you should talk to her about why you're having problems. You really should in fact. But if you do talk to her remember:

-Have the talk while you're still friends, nothings more painful than having your friend say she doesn't want to be friends anymore and then explain why she doesn't want to be friends with you.
-Talk to her one on one not in front of other people.

Please, please use commas, full stops and paragraphs, I got a headache reading your post.

I used to have a similar "friend" and I can honestly say that cutting all ties with her was one of the best decisions in my life. After years of being manipulated and made fun of behind my back I told her I had enough and I didn't want to see her again. She tried to come back but I didn't give in and I don't regret it.

But if you don't want to get rid of her, maybe you should try talking to her. For example, next time she teases you in front of your crush, tell her that you don't like it and that's not how friends behave. Just don't leave her for this other group of friends without telling her what's the matter. It's very frustrating when someone is angry at you and you don't know why.

Ah, I forgot to mention,
That kind of friend, pretty much just messaged you because they need something from you
(only thing I can think of atm is;
The ‘other friends’ are ganging up on her and no one got her back, so, she needs you)

And when she‘s done, you‘ll be, once again, a ‘disposable friend’,
Am I being too harsh now,

But I still suggest what I said in the earlier post..

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i used to have similar situations but if i were you i would let my friend be, according to what you have said she will replace you if you avoid her so you have no more problems of what would she look like if you let her be so try to open up on others and search for a better friend there are many people out there 🙂

hope i helped sorry for my grammar mistakes

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I think you should tell her how it is. Explain to her what is wrong with her attitude and what needs to stop. If she is not willing to fix her behavior then there is a problem. I'm not saying she needs to entirely change but friendship requires compromise and people can't have everything they want. If she wants to keep her friends she is going to have to realize, eventually, that she will never have a true friend if she is not even willing to listen to what you or anyone else has to say.

Talk to her, if she is being stubborn then give her a few days to calm down & think about her options. If she is still uncompromising and rude then you need to tell her that enough is enough. She can't just throw you away whenever she wants and expect you to come running when she is lonely. The fact that you are all 13 is not a good excuse for her behavior. What she is doing still hurts people and herself. You have a life too and you do not need to cater to her attitude. That is not friendship that is just you feeling sorry for her. If I was her I'd feel really pathetic to only have someone speak to me because no one else will and because I complained.

It is best that you speak to her before you start ignoring her though. You don't want to regret anything later. Honestly though if she keeps up that attitude after everything you do then you don't need her and she was never worth the effort. I'm sorry to say it but it's true. Some people are just so stubborn and they refuse to change until it's too late.

I don't mean to sound harsh but these relationships aren't healthy. It gets harder to change as people get older, that's why it's good to fix these problems now between yourselves rather then later (if you guys are still friends) because by then she will be used to treating you like that and might be more unwilling to compromise.

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it feels like you and your "schoolmate" know very little about friends and "best friends"

also you seem very hyper
you are a proud filipino
wtf is that
do filipinos allways start conversations by telling everyone that they are proud to have been born in that particular country or ha ...

Well, I am a Filipino but I don't say that in every conversation. It depends on the person, maybe?
I don't know how she can say that she's a Filipino and then tell negative things.

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Sorry for the sudden question this topic actually dont appear much in here but i dont know where to ask or talk to because all of my friends are currently sleeping and i forgot my password on my yahoo account it'll be a pain if i registered again. OK, here's my problem, im a 13 year old girl and a p ...

You should've used proper punctuations and made paragraphs. Anyway, it seems like you're friend isn't nice. For all we know, maybe she has problems. You should talk to her and tell her that she won't make any friends if she keeps on acting that way. Who knows? Maybe she'll give you a reason why she's like that.

But, if she's one of those people who don't like criticism and get angry. It's time that you look for another friend.

Also, I don't think that it was such a great idea to say that you're Filipino and then say such negative things. It's like you're saying, "Hey, we Filipinos are like this!" Anyway, I'm just saying.

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Lets see... You don't exactly make a good impression yourself, that paragraph was EXTREMELY hard to read, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I'm really no one to say, considering I don't give a damn about your so called "best friend's friends". I don't play the popularity game, never will. Seems pointless to call someone your "best friend" when you'll turn on them in the bat of an eye right? But that's just me. I know people who values social relationships for what it is, not what it's worth and that's their choice.

Ah but back on topic, as I'm sure someone will comment on my prickly way of talking if I don't. I personally knew a friend, that I had no idea everyone else hates, until she transferred away. I don't give a damn. I like her and it's final. If I can't stand her, I'll up and leave. To be honest, I don't see the point of keeping the facade. I've been called some very similar things as your friend, and I can relate to her. Seems like I act the same way as her too. I treat them as what they are, not true friends but closer to an associate you hang out with because there's nothing better to do and you meet everyday. The other party thinks like that, no reason I don't. I separate my friends from my "friends" and act accordingly, and from what I can tell, your "best friend" is doing the same.

That brings me back to my point earlier, what do you define "best friends"? If your friend is anything like me, I'll tell you, she's not gonna appreciate you calling her ugly personality behind her back, and definitely not you "pitying" her. Much less if she trusts you and you don't. She'll feel humiliated if anything. My suggestion is, you guys just go your own ways. Either that, or you two spill everything. She doesn't seem like someone who's expertise is in keeping on top of what her social relationships have been saying behind her back. Anyways, there's really no point. Everyone has their weak points, and their bad side. It all comes down to whether you can stand that side and still like her or not. Or, if you just don't want to get left out on the hate party, and thus becoming their next target. Your friend is smart. She does not stretch out relationships that are clearly not going to work. Friends don't become "toys" the moment she decides she can't stand it.

There's a difference. If you can't stand her, leave her. If you can stand her but don't like her, interact like you would with anyone else, and stay out of her personality and her business. If you like her or if you can forgive her personality, THEN you can start calling yourself her best friend. But really, try to keep the minimal amount of appearances intact, most people don't like to be outright avoided, insulted, discriminated, or worse, bullied. If you can keep up the appearances, and make it clear that you just can't stand her enough to be her friend, I'm sure she'll stay out of your hair and move on.

Let me make this clear, I do not know you, and I do not know your friends. I am speaking only under the impression of your very... let's say, unimpressive to the eye paragraph. Seriously, as someone else said, put in those punctuations!

Ah well, ignore me. I'm kind of biased, and not exactly experienced in this area as I've clearly mentioned. I'm sure someone else can give you more helpful comments without having the same prickly edge.

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