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Wow, I actually read all 30 pages of this thread. Normally I would never, ever read a 30 page-long thread.

So... I was about to add myself to the already swelling ranks of virgins who've posted in this thread, but then I thought back to a rather... interesting experience in the second grade or third grade. You know, since we're all telling our stories. Admittedly I'm very curious what people's reactions to this will be.

Long story short, I lost it to another boy, a kid named Steven, or Steve. I don't remember much about him (or much of anything from my elementary school years), but I remember that Steve was definitely a problem child, the kind inclined to break the rules, steal things, etc. Somehow I came to be friends with him, and one day he told me to ditch class and meet him in the bathroom at a certain time. I reluctantly agreed.

I can't for the life of me remember what he said to talk me into it. I had no idea what sex was at that time, of course; I had no idea what we were doing at all. We just kind went into a stall, took our clothes off, and took turns going at one another. I still wasn't exactly sure what we'd done when we were finished. I didn't have the impression of us having done anything illicit; I was worried about getting in trouble for ditching class to go hang out in the bathroom.

I eventually ended up growing to hate this guy, along with most everyone else, but that didn't have anything to do with the fact that we'd had impromptu sex; he was just kind of an ass (no pun intended), and had a penchant for borrowing things and not giving them back.

Should I be traumatized about this? Steven probably told me not to tell anyone, but I doubt I would have anyway. I'm not particularly bothered or ashamed by it. I'd actually forgotten about it until I looked at this thread and started reading posts. By the time I got old enough to realize what it was I'd done, it was already long over with; when I moved and switched elementary schools, I never saw the kid again. I never told my mom because I knew she'd freak the hell out, and it's not something I'd be inclined to just tell people for obvious reasons. Looking back on it now, I'm just like, "Wow... that really happened... huh."

I can thing of several things that happened in elementary school that haunt me and might explain some of the issues I've had since then up to today, but this peculiar incident isn't among them. I don't think it's affected my sexuality in any way either. My mind and body have offered me plenty of evidence over the years to the firm conclusion that I like girls. While I might think a guy looks good, can appreciate the aesthetics of the male form, and constantly trade jokes with my friends about gay sex or something to that effect, I've never felt sexually attracted to a man, and the idea itself just doesn't appeal to me.

As for why, this incident aside, I'm still a virgin, I'd chalk it up to poor luck and crippling shyness. It isn't a race thing either; most of the other black guys I know have no problems whatsoever hooking up with girls, white or black. I go out to parties, drink, dance, and carouse. I consider myself reasonably good looking, and a fairly good improv dancer to boot (I've gotten compliments, been asked if I've taken lessons, and been invited back to people's apartments just for that). I don't know how many girls have ground their asses against my pelvic bone in what passes for dancing these days (not that I mind).

But when it comes time to actually talk to a girl, I get a few lines past the initial greeting and when I try to maintain the conversation, my mind goes blank. It doesn't matter if the girl I'm talking to is a Nobel laureate in the making or a complete ditz. The only situation where I'm relaxed and can talk normally and fluently with a girl is when I'm talking about something technical or nonsocial (like the lecture the professor just gave), when the girl in question is clearly unavailable (a friend's girlfriend), or if I just don't find the girl physically attractive in the least. I can't spit game, in other words. Not to save my life. So I've had opportunities, but I'm always to shy to follow up, continue pursuit, or close the deal. (Also, if I did get a girl, I'm not exactly sure where I should take her - up the stairs of whatever house we're at? Into the next room? Should I walk her back to my dorm? Hers?)

I go to parties to drink for free, dance around, have fun, and socialize with boy and girl alike, so as much as I'd like to get laid, not getting any after a night of partying doesn't mean I've wasted my time. I never go out with the sole intention of scoring, and if I did I would probably fail miserably. I do worry about it sometimes, wondering if being a virgin at 18 means something's wrong with me, or that I'm unattractive. And then I worry about worrying, wondering if my priorities are screwed up. Most of my male friends are either virgins like me, or varying extremes of the archetypal cynical player interested in banging as many women as humanly possible, with most of the former aspiring to become the latter (with varying degrees of potential for success). I don't like the idea of becoming the latter or of using people in general, but I certainly don't want to stay as the former, and I don't see the only alternative I can think of (an actual relationship with love and stuff) working for me in the foreseeable future. It's too difficult for me to genuinely open up to people; while I don't front or put up any false personas, I'm not inclined towards true intimacy with anyone, guy or girl (unless I happen to be posting on a forum behind the anonymous mask of an forum avatar). All of my friendships are arms-length relationships, based mainly around common interests.

Well then. Having read through all of what I just wrote, it all sounds colossally whiny. That wasn't my intention; I'm not pining for pity, just getting it off my chest in the only way I feel comfortable - anonymously. But if anyone feels like shooting some advice my way, fire away.

Even with all that said, I'd probably be a lot more self-conscious about this if I wasn't fairly certain that no one would ever read a post this long.

just outa curiosity is it possible to ditch class in elementary school when the teachers watch you like a hawk?..and was it possible for elementary boys to pop a boner
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i was nervous at first it was big & long & went straight up i had to try it i eased onto it & liked it! i went up & down on it.... i love escalators now! 😀

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just outa curiosity is it possible to ditch class in elementary school when the teachers watch you like a hawk?..and was it possible for elementary boys to pop a boner 😕

As I remember it, both of the elementary schools I went to had, for each individual grade, a big, open, carpeted hall adjoined to four or five classrooms. To ditch class you basically asked the teacher to go to the bathroom, which was also adjacent to the main hall. Wouldn't have worked if we'd been in the same classroom, and we were still risking it by being gone so long.

As, for your second question - yeah, with enough stimulation.

Allow me to reacquaint you with... THE GROUND!

wow...a lot of you were, in my opinion, quite young when you had your virginity lost. I'm sorry if now that you are somewhat older or more mature, regret it; time will help heal the regret. If you on the other hand, feel fine about it, I'm glad 🙂 .
Anyway, I was ready to give it up to my HS sweetheart when I was 17. But at the last moment, I'd heard he'd said some bothersome things and so I decided to give him blue balls instead.
He must have hurt a lot, because after that my name went from Claudia to hoe, and the whole school was divided, my friends and his friends basically (our school was really small). After that I'm glad I didn't give him my virginity. It was rather traumatizing to be bullied in a way...but that's past.
Anyway, so I guess that helped me prepare for the right time, emotionally, and mentally. By that time I gave it, I was 19. He was my college sweetheart. We had been going out for about 4 months. I wasn't in love, but I did like him, and I thought he had been a nice guy. He hadn't given me any sort of pressure, if anything he was actually very supportive. I had already prepared myself for the post sexual reaction (if he would leave or if he would learn to love me too as I would learn to love him) so I gave it up. I wasn't a wonderful candlelit experience, but it was beautiful in its own way. He was very patient.
Ok I need to stop. Final thought: I'm glad I waited till I felt fully ready. I'm still with him and we're both very in love. He has also become my best friend and my strong support. A word of advise, just be sure to be fully ready because having sex will have its consequences, and in today's world, there are so many nasty diseases out there... so use a condom! If he/she loves you he/she will accept you with your insecurities as well as with a condom. There are male and female condoms. Be sure to be well informed ;-) and if you're a lady who's had sex with a man, be sure to always go to your gynecologist every year to have a pap smear! 😉 That's all. 😃

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Sorry but, your are an idiot.

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kuraruka... are you a guy or a girl? o__O;

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kuraruka... are you a guy or a girl? o__O;

Isn't that obvious?

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kuraruka... are you a guy or a girl? o__O;

Isn't that obvious? depends how you look at his/her post.

If you think a guy forced "him" at it during elementary school (note they mention not knowing about sex at all) then it would make sense as to why he mentioned "being attracted to girls" since if "his" first time was with a guy, then it would be obvious why "he" mentions being attracted to chicks afterall. Look at it the other way though, and "she" will be lez/bi/whatever after going at it with a guy.

WHICH IS IT?!

She's a she. o_o I think it was pretty clear to see that. 😮

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I can thing of several things that happened in elementary school that haunt me and might explain some of the issues I've had since then up to today, but this peculiar incident isn't among them. I don't think it's affected my sexuality in any way either. My mind and body have offered me plenty of evidence over the years to the firm conclusion that I like girls. While I might think a guy looks good, can appreciate the aesthetics of the male form, and constantly trade jokes with my friends about gay sex or something to that effect, I've never felt sexually attracted to a man, and the idea itself just doesn't appeal to me.

As for why, this incident aside, I'm still a virgin, I'd chalk it up to poor luck and crippling shyness. It isn't a race thing either; most of the other black guys I know have no problems whatsoever hooking up with girls, white or black. I go out to parties, drink, dance, and carouse. I consider myself reasonably good looking, and a fairly good improv dancer to boot (I've gotten compliments, been asked if I've taken lessons, and been invited back to people's apartments just for that). I don't know how many girls have ground their asses against my pelvic bone in what passes for dancing these days (not that I mind).

I could find more, but I'm not really in the mood.

Oh wow...

It was ambiguous though! 🤣

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