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Yea, lots of ppl were pretty young when "it" happened. Me, well I never have done anything like that. Pretty much the straight laced,old fashioned person that believes in dating normally and having a platonic relationship. Sex after is all is only sex. In the end it is only a physical act. You do it and its over just that. I am still a virgin so I can;t say exactly that what I know is true or not. Its just that when I think of a relationship I think of something more fulfilling.

Well may be I am an idealist

"Life is full of lies and half truths, for the reality of life is not colored by shades of black and white but rather a mix of many hues of gray"

I never really got the "sex is just physical" thing. I mean, emotions are just chemical reactions in our brain right? I think sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. Not the MOST important part and maybe not even necessary but to dismiss it as somehow unimportant just because it's "physical" seems wrong.

But what do I know, I'm part of the adult virgin club 😛

I somewhat agree with the both of you. I do think sex is just a physical act you really don't need any emotions to have sex, unless being horny counts as one. You go in, do it, it's over and the cycle repeats itself--not much is needed there from what it seems. But well I wouldn't really say it's unimportant since it does make some relationships stronger. Ah but I too, am part of the adult virgin club so what would I know. 🙂

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We're the unspoiled, idealistic minds that sex ends up crushing under it's masochistic heels.

Or we're the ones that aren't scarred by painful relationships because we are great at emotional detachment.

Pick your poison.

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Or we're the ones that aren't scarred by painful relationships because we are great at emotional detachment.

I'm not good with the whole emotional crap in relationships. If it's over it's pretty much over no point in turning back. I tend to move on faster than the guy, there may be something wrong with that, but I honestly don't care. (As much anyway.). 😛

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Sex with emotional attachment is so much more .... fulfilling.... than just the physical act. I grant that there are people for whom they don't understand that concept, and don't find it any sort of loss that they don't have it since the physical act itself is so pleasurable. I think for most people, the emotional attachment kicks it up a notch - but it's not something that's really understandable unless you're there.

That's the whole point of the 'romance' genre (beyond manga, like Harlequin Romance novels) - for people who crave that emotional attachment.

I know more women than men crave it, but I do know men who crave that as well; physically sex isn't appealing, but sex with emotional attachment is necessary.

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

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Hahaha, I'm a good girl, I haven't done anything except foreplay stuff so far, and I'm 17 in 8 days lol

I guess I'm just not ready mentally for something like that cause aside from not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend if I decide to perhaps turn the other way? I wouldn't be bothered haha) I just don't want to regret it =0

just go both ways its best for every1 =/

Thats true, but I'm not actually sexually attracted to other females, I've only ever dated boys. But if I did fall in love with another girl, I wouldn't berate myself for it or anything like that =0 Like who you like I say 😀

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Hahaha, I'm a good girl, I haven't done anything except foreplay stuff so far, and I'm 17 in 8 days lol

I guess I'm just not ready mentally for something like that cause aside from not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend if I decide to perhaps turn the other way? I wouldn't be bothered haha) I just don't want to regret it =0

just go both ways its best for every1 =/

Thats true, but I'm not actually sexually attracted to other females, I've only ever dated boys. But if I did fall in love with another girl, I wouldn't berate myself for it or anything like that =0 Like who you like I say 😀

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Yeah I wouldn't mind going out with a girl if I feel some attraction towards her. You can always feel attraction/love towards the same gender. Of course not everybody feels that way >_>

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[quote=XxRoxiexX]Hahaha, I'm a good girl, I haven't done anything except foreplay stuff so far, and I'm 17 in 8 days lol

I guess I'm just not ready mentally for something like that cause aside from not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend if I decide to perhaps turn the other way? I wouldn't be bothered haha) I just don't want to regret it =0

just go both ways its best for every1 =/

Thats true, but I'm not actually sexually attracted to other females, I've only ever dated boys. But if I did fall in love with another girl, I wouldn't berate myself for it or anything like that =0 Like who you like I say 😀

She speaks the truth 🤣
Yeah I wouldn't mind going out with a girl if I feel some attraction towards her. You can always feel attraction/love towards the same gender. Of course not everybody feels that way >_>[/quote]
Haha thank you 😀

Ahhh its so true, if only there where more people in the world that though like us and that weren't so close-minded sigh

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[quote=doomsdayxxx][quote=XxRoxiexX]Hahaha, I'm a good girl, I haven't done anything except foreplay stuff so far, and I'm 17 in 8 days lol

I guess I'm just not ready mentally for something like that cause aside from not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend if I decide to perhaps turn the other way? I wouldn't be bothered haha) I just don't want to regret it =0

just go both ways its best for every1 =/

Thats true, but I'm not actually sexually attracted to other females, I've only ever dated boys. But if I did fall in love with another girl, I wouldn't berate myself for it or anything like that =0 Like who you like I say 😀

She speaks the truth 🤣
Yeah I wouldn't mind going out with a girl if I feel some attraction towards her. You can always feel attraction/love towards the same gender. Of course not everybody feels that way >_>[/quote]
Haha thank you 😀

Ahhh its so true, if only there where more people in the world that though like us and that weren't so close-minded sigh[/quote]
Girls seem to be more openminded about these things in general though. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do this and I consider myself more open to this than most (I have a gay friend, I'm into fashion, I support gay marriage). I can just imagine the kind of reaction if any of my (guy) friends said this 🤣

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Ahhh its so true, if only there where more people in the world that though like us and that weren't so close-minded sigh

Yeah people are really close minded, and most of them are just in denial. But it's ok we can just make our own club Roxie! high-five

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Girls seem to be more openminded about these things in general though. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do this and I consider myself more open to this than most (I have a gay friend, I'm into fashion, I support gay marriage). I can just imagine the kind of reaction if any of my (guy) friends said this 🤣

Never understood why guys are more close minded about these kinds of things. I always thought that guys would be more open minded because I see bonds between guys as stronger than that of girls, but maybe that's just me because I hang out with more guys than girls. I'm guessing guys just set a line between what is friendship and what could lead to more.

It's always nice to know there are guys that are open minded about these sorts of things though. 🙂

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Never understood why guys are more close minded about these kinds of things. I always thought that guys would be more open minded because I see bonds between guys as stronger than that of girls, but maybe that's just me because I hang out with more guys than girls. I'm guessing guys just set a line between what is friendship and what could lead to more.

It's always nice to know there are guys that are open minded about these sorts of things though. 🙂

Can't exactly comment on whether bonds between men are stronger than between women ( though there seem to far less "backstabbing" in men friendships ) but I must say this baffles me, too ( I'm a guy, btw, straight ).

Guess, partially true probably, it could be because, to put it blunt, for women, at "worst", it's using fingers or their mouth ( and this is rather limited to licking, etc. ). Anything more serious requires some object that's not a part of either's body. I'd venture to say that for men it's more intimate or "biological" or whatever the right word is.
Other than that, there seem to be more bi women than men ( seems like your brains are more "flexible" 😀 here ) and in general, even if male friendship seems "closer" ( I'd call it more honest and straightforward but at the same time often limited and not very deep in certain areas ) it's not as intimate as the friendship between women. The way I see it, society seems to be more accepting of closer relationships ( not lovers or anything, rather, more bodily contact is allowed and considered natural ) between women. Guess this leads to less clear lines between friendship and "more" which makes it easier or less of a shock to cross the boundary. Well, for example, it's not really that big a deal for 2 women to kiss ( on the lips but we aren't talking hot and heavy, ofc ) but for 2 men it's unheard of.

One last thought on the friendship differences. I'd say that men bond over mostly physical, "surface" things. You aren't really going to get proper moral support from your male friends if you're a guy yourself. Let's say that serious talking about most things "psychical" isn't going to happen between 2 men. Women are far more supportive of their own gender and if they're truly friends they'll do everything they can to help. Men, their solution for most everything like this is: "hey, let's go out and drink or find some girls, you'll feel better then". Well, not like we're ever taught what to do in such situation. In general, we lack experience here, badly.

I'm open minded and so on but I can't really see myself with another man 🤢
I'd say that male body's aesthetics and male x male sex being the way it is is the main problem for me. Other than not being aroused by male body, that is.

tl;dr: We're shallow.

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[quote=XxRoxiexX][quote=doomsdayxxx][quote=XxRoxiexX]Hahaha, I'm a good girl, I haven't done anything except foreplay stuff so far, and I'm 17 in 8 days lol

I guess I'm just not ready mentally for something like that cause aside from not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend if I decide to perhaps turn the other way? I wouldn't be bothered haha) I just don't want to regret it =0

just go both ways its best for every1 =/

Thats true, but I'm not actually sexually attracted to other females, I've only ever dated boys. But if I did fall in love with another girl, I wouldn't berate myself for it or anything like that =0 Like who you like I say 😀

She speaks the truth 🤣
Yeah I wouldn't mind going out with a girl if I feel some attraction towards her. You can always feel attraction/love towards the same gender. Of course not everybody feels that way >_>[/quote] Thats very true, I think its mainly just because of how the Western culture accepts and has more lesbianism in it than homoeroticism, and its just come to affect peoples train of thinking as well =0 Personally if a man has an attraction to another man or a woman has an attraction to another woman, its not something people have a right to complain about =0 Haha I have male friends that are fine with people being gay xD
Haha thank you 😀

Ahhh its so true, if only there where more people in the world that though like us and that weren't so close-minded sigh[/quote]
Girls seem to be more openminded about these things in general though. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do this and I consider myself more open to this than most (I have a gay friend, I'm into fashion, I support gay marriage). I can just imagine the kind of reaction if any of my (guy) friends said this 🤣 [/quote]Thats very true, I think its mainly just because of how the Western culture accepts and has more lesbianism in it than homoeroticism, and its just come to affect peoples train of thinking as well =0 Personally if a man has an attraction to another man or a woman has an attraction to another woman, its not something people have a right to complain about =0 Haha I have male friends that are fine with people being gay xD

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Ahhh its so true, if only there where more people in the world that though like us and that weren't so close-minded sigh

Yeah people are really close minded, and most of them are just in denial. But it's ok we can just make our own club Roxie! high-five

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Girls seem to be more openminded about these things in general though. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do this and I consider myself more open to this than most (I have a gay friend, I'm into fashion, I support gay marriage). I can just imagine the kind of reaction if any of my (guy) friends said this 🤣

Never understood why guys are more close minded about these kinds of things. I always thought that guys would be more open minded because I see bonds between guys as stronger than that of girls, but maybe that's just me because I hang out with more guys than girls. I'm guessing guys just set a line between what is friendship and what could lead to more.

It's always nice to know there are guys that are open minded about these sorts of things though. 🙂

Denial is a bad thing haha xD Yes we should start our own club! 😀

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This recent discussion is off topic.
Make a thread about people's sex-life. (or lack of one)

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My first time was when I was 16. I don't regret it to the point of wanting to take it completely out of my mind, but it wasn't something "special" either. Let's just face it, girls always dream of a special moment, something cute and stuff (I used to think like that too) but that rarely happens. It's sad, but it's true T__T

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