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There is a thread about being obligated to parents and whether you will pass them a glass of water when they get old. But this differs. I think 😐
Intro. The topic is somehow inspired by a conversation between father and son in XXY movie. A reminder: F- Do you like me? S- Yes, I'd give everything to reach your level. And do you like me? F- No, you suck.
So what kind of people are your parents and do you consider them as a pattern?

As obvious I am critical about my parents. I don't want to live, act and think as they do.
Father.
-Has no friends and stood cold to his coworkers. Is cold even to relatives. Especially to mother's relatives.
-Has no idea of sexual education. Well, he considers intimacy to be a pivot in marriage, but I should learn my role as a woman at about... I dunno... 30.
-Thinks he has a higher mental level comparing to mother.
+Had a lot of various hobbies. Including different kinds of sports. Is still skiing and playing tennis at his 70.
+Is tidy and likes order. Sometimes too much, but I already took that from him. I appreciate.
Mother.
-As for education thinks I should finish all tasks as fast as possible not caring much about quality. A mark at record book is what counts.
-"Thought about England" during the conception of me (I have some sort of theory about relation between parent's feelings towards each other and appearance of their children)
+Wishes me a better life. Financially. Hm, that's not a good appropriate +. I can't bring up anything(

Not to mention they act strictly as for my education (if I am sitting at home it doesn't mean I would be studying the whole time). I even need to sneak out to visit some new exhibition at the museum.
Father claims that I am stupid/closeminded and have no interest in... er...interesting things. Today I tried to make them watch Lord Of The Flies'63 movie. He quickly turned down that boring performance about kids. Fuck.

lol. Another striptease on internet, huh. I really don't have any close person to talk about smth 'global'. My closest friend... well, when she decided to find out her IQ she just stared at that test n then with an "... ... o...kay... " closed the window. I know there are types of people with irrational thinking, but I'm sure this isn't that case.

Alright! We haven't had a dark thread like this in a while! 😀

Well, my parents haven't really been doing anything else but point me in the right direction and help me every step of the way, so I'll still help them even when they're old and can't do most things by themselves.

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Kinda reminds me of a thread I made~

As a pattern? You mean whether or not I'd like to be like them?
Well, if so then - hell no.

My mother is a cruel person, who cares for nothing but education.
She likes to make my life miserable.
Her outbreaks and crazy fits are horrible...
For her, buying stuff compensates for abuse. 😐
Has little to no contact with relatives. Social life- mostly at work.
I wouldn't say she's stupid, but she lacks a lot of knowledge, and would never admit to be wrong.
She tend to be closed minded on many things.

My father is a nicer and way more calm as a person.
Problem- is very passive and won't admit that his wife needs mental help-_-
Doesn't usually do anything when my mother bursts.
Is very smart... Read tons of books when was young and is fun to talk to.
Also, his geography knowledge is unmatchable, only by profs. lol
Social life- none.

Shame they both seem to be against divorce.

As to why I tell all this to you?
I have few friends I can confide such things to in RL, so I use the anonymity of the Internet to take some of those feelings out~
Also, burdening people I know with this...
They start worrying.=/

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I'd kill myself if I turned out like my parents.

Both of them are alcoholics (mother is a sober one nowadays after a near death-situation a few years back). They're both vastly unsatisfied with their lives.
Mother: Thinks having children destroyed her glorious life. gets depressed easily. Can't communicate with us kids without hurting us. No tact, so sense of empathy (I had a depression in 7:th grade, felt like shit... and her reply was: "You're destroying the family. Snap out of it") and can never understand criticism towards herself. She can't reflect upon her own behaviour. Behaves like a kid, obstinate and so on... My sis finally got fed up over her a few weeks ago and has broken contact with her. I had to nurse her, make sure she paid the bills, go to the hospital when her alcoholism affected her nervous system and so on. I had to be a mother of my own mother at the age of 17-21 (after my siblings had moved out). Mother seems to blame the fact she married dad and had us kids for her not having the adventurous life she'd dreamt of. Now she wants us to live it instead and is always saying how disappointed she is about my sister wanting a stable life and a family.

Father: Lives for work. I can barely remember when he was actually involved in the family. Thinks giving us money can get him our love. Used to go into a rage or depression when drunk, saying he'd kill himself. Tried to be violent but was quite pwned by us kids so he got out of it. Puts my mother down all the time (is probably a contributing reason why she's so weak). Won't admit his alcoholism. gets into silly fights with the neighbours, more or less having made enemies of all of them. He's great at work and considered a perfect employee. But since he hates his boss (and probably his work too) and are stressed like hell, having hit rock bottom, he takes his frustrations of his failed life out on the family when he comes home. Is completely controlled by his mother, who never liked my mother and always likes to put her down since she "stole her son".

So yeah, I don't like my parents much... They're quite sad people. I've had enough of taking care of my parents. They're on their own when they grow old.

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I really like my mother:
± Although she is 40 she looks like my sister, good points are becouse it is funny to hear from people "really!!! is this your mother/son?! I can't belive it, you're joking, right?", but the negative thing is sometimes she really likes to act as my sister

• I can talk with her about everything, she is very helpfull in many ways
• she never annoys me

my father:

• he gives me a lot of money(YES! I LOVE MONEY!)
• he knows everything if it comes to school(e.g. he knows the whole periodic table even today, with all the latin names and everything)
• i can easily change his opinion on something

• he likes to show off

My parents are awesome O_O I doubt it's a pattern since I don't think I'm half as good as they are.

Mother is seriously smart. Like freaky. Top of the class all her life. She took the board exam two days after giving birth to me and still passed (claims she could have topped it if she weren't a bit dizzy with pain).

Father is really great too. Gets along with everyone. He even has old ladies from the market giving him free food. 🤣 My aunt told me girls used to chase him.

(I went with him once, and it was something like:
"why aren't we paying?" O_O
"oh, they like me")

They're good parents too... not very hands-on though. Never told me to do anything and pretty much gave me whatever I want. Good thing I'm not spoiled (I think). Only house rules are to not get pregnant before graduating and never do drugs.

I don't want to be like my parents, but I'm worried I will be.

Mom

• Lets me do what I like, for the most part
• Fun to talk to, as long as we both agree
• Cares about me genuinely

• Somewhat closed-minded
• Has to have things her way
• I don't trust her

Dad

• Lets me do what I want (even more than my mom)
• Has a lot of knowledge about a lot of random things
• Cares about me too

• Lost in his fantasy world
• Only does things he likes, and belittles things he doesn't
• Doesn't listen, and never considers that he might be wrong about anything
• Sometimes yells

I don't know how they've contributed to the person I am. I'm not that good about judging myself.
Though I try to do my best to not imitate the things that I find bad in them, and catch myself if I do it.

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Mom:
+Takes care of groceries, laundry, cooking, cleaning, gardening no matter how much she whines about it (since no one else actually cares about it)
....Can't think of any more positive things atm 😐

-Asks alot, but never listens for the answer
-Can't take jokes, especially not when she's involved
-Can't admit mistakes
-Doesn't really listen to advices, needs to be promptly ordered to avoid horrible results.
-Always whines about things that won't change
-Never listens before making her final decision
-Can't trust her with anything
-Bad memory, admits it but never admits that she's forgotten anything
-Often says things wrong that leads to misunderstandings, but of course can't admit it and gets angry
-Gets angry and shuts herself in whenever someone points out that she's wrong.
-She actually thinks people wants to listen to her whining about things she wont even try to fix.
-Always whines about my dad being anti-social to her, despite being married to him for over 23 years without him changing one bit.
-Thinks she's all special and the world revolves around her.
-Schoolteacher all her life
-Not good with computers, but she's an old school teacher after all...
-Doesn't really care about me, despite bugging me all the time. She just wants someone to talk to.
-Loves talking to people, and collecting rumors and connections about people. And loves sharing them to everyone no matter how much they care or if it's something that shouldn't be spread.
-Always whines about me being dirty, even if I just got out of the shower
-Seems to be lacking even the simpler knowledge about sex and things related.. wtf? 😐
Spoiler = minor biology lesson perhaps suited for high school grade..

We once somehow got into a conversation about female circumcision in Africa, and then to male circumcision to which she said something like "It's not like it's sensitive or that it scuffs and hurts or such". Well, it was weird enough for me to go "...wth...?" -Still doesn't know me, or remembers what I eat and like/dislike etc.. Only lived together for almost 21 years, maybe I'm expecting too much.. 😐
-Old.. ~58 this year, I'm 21 this year
-ALWAYS brings up that you should care about your elders, with an obvious message that she wants me to take care of her when she gets old. >:-( (Hell no)

Dad:
+Doesn't really care what you do, usually just calm and quiet
+lots of fun and odd projects all the time
+done lots of things in his life, army, pilot, computers, cinema, metalworker.. At least he says so at least. But can be advantageous.
+More fitting personality and tastes to me and my brother
+Knows alot of people everywhere 🤢

-Never finishes anything he started
-Doesn't really listen to advices, needs to be promptly ordered to avoid horrible results.
-Haphazard with his projects
-Makes things up when he don't know
-Can't admit that he's wrong, or simply doesn't know.
-Wants to be the best and can't admit defeat
-Starting to question his smartness sometimes...
-No quality, just gets things done and leaves it that way.
-Not really social
-Never really says what he thinks
-Don't really mix well with technology anymore, and can't really admit it or accept help. Always wants to do things his way despite them sometimes being 10x worse than it should be.
-Old.. ~56 this year, I'm 21 this year, as said previously

I'd better stop, could probably fill the whole page otherwise... 😐

I'm getting quite fed up with my parents, and planning to get away asap... 😐

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My parents are great people and it seems I got a lot of similarities from my dad aside from physical similarities.

Dad
+Smart - had a lot of awards in high school and college. Knowledgeable on government, business and economics but sucks when it comes to technology.
+Lazy but still gets the job done
+Likes to play games
+Child at Heart
+Knows a lot of people, especially the important ones
+Trusts me enough to let me do what I want or stay up late
+Protective of the family
+Jokes around with me and my siblings like a friend or brother
+Great Cook

-Takes things at own pace. Gets irritated when people rush him but also gets irritated when people are slow.
-Lazy gets other people(usually me) to do little things like go down stairs to turn off the lights, change the channel or search for the remote.
-Though it's his money, still spends a lot on his hobby(Anime & Movie figurines, Tamiya Battleship plamos, WWII figurines, Pet dogs and fish and Vintage watches)

Mom
+Hardworking. Though only a high school graduate, managed to start her own business(she's the one who brings home the bacon 🤣 )
+Religious but doesn't force it on us
+Is not too strict on education. As long as we can graduate, she's happy(same with dad)
+Only spends money for us and rarely does so for herself unless she really wants it.
+Trusts us enough to let us do what we want
+Multi-Lingual(Taiwanese, Cantonese, Mandarin, Tagalog, Bisaya, Chabacano, English and Basic Spanish)
+She's already going 50 but people think she's still in her 20's. I hate this part cause people mistake us as a couple sometimes and I'm the older looking one!
+Her naivety is easy to manipulate 😁
+Has amazing business sense

-Superstitious(this one she forces on us)
-Nagging("Pick up your clothes", "Take a Bath", "Got to bed") that sort of thing
-Naive
-Believes most of the things the chinese news say. (I disprove them to her when needed)
-Bad Engrish
-Doesn't have a lot of friends aside from her customers and employees

This is gonna be a fun thread to read.

As for me, my parents... I don't really want to be like them. From what little I see of my aunts and uncles, I wanna be more like them.

Father

• He acts like a little kid. Impatient, thinks he's always right, etc.
• Big temper. Gets angry pretty easily.
• Out of the loop. He never really knows what's going on in my life. I'm not sure but I think that's pretty important to be a good father.
• Talks too much. I ask him a simple question and he goes on a lecture, telling me really obvious things that I would have had to have known in order to ASK the question in the first place.
• Overall, he's not exactly a great role model. Doesn't give me too much guidance with my life.
• He never tries to change. We suggest stuff to him but he gets angry or just ignores us.
• Lazy... Freakishly lazy.
• Doesn't trust me.

• Errm... supports me financially?
• Gave me my Y chromosome.

Mother

• Talks too much. She really repeats the same exact things over and over and over again. VERY ANNOYING.
• Worries too much. I go out to do almost anything and she worries too much. Then she gets all tired, stressed, unhappy, etc., and complains that we're making her worry.
• Goes mad on "STUDY,STUDY,STUDY!!!!!" rants and constantly barrages me with stuff about education.
• Doesn't trust me.

• She had a pretty amazing childhood. She has great stories.
• Multi-lingual. (Cantonese, Mandarin, Engrish)
• Erm.. stereotypical mother stuff? Like helping me when I'm sick and things like that?

I'll probably still help them when they're old... just not be like them.

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GAH! My plot doesn't bend that way!

Dad:

• Cool.
• Smart.
• Knows a lot of stuff.
• Competitive.
• Social.
• Fun.
• A rhetoric genius.
• Unique.
• At ease.

• Rude.
• Relentless.

Mom:

• Okay when not stressed.
• A good cook.

• A busybody.
• Overprotective.
• Overreacting.
• Nagging.
• Very self-conscious in the annoying way.
  (Such as her son must not wear this and that.
  What would the neighbours think?)