i just want to ask when people say something...for example something funny, offensive or sweet and then add "just kidding or "just joking" in the end...could it be that theres some truth in in it?? i want to know other peoples opinions...especially guys!! 🤢

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Interesting question.
I guess it depends on how serious the previous conversation was. And the initial reaction from the other person.
let's say for example you have a friend who in a conversation suddenly reveals a deep secret he/she kept. For example a confession of love, shocking childhood experience, extreme opinion on something, etc.
After observing the stunned and shocked expression of the other person for a moment suddenly adding 'just kidding', may very well be a defensive move to protect the self from judgment or emotional harm.
If the conversation was on a bit less of a serious subject, it may well have been a joke.
If the previous comment or revelation was meant to greatly shock or cause embarresment for the other person, it most likely was a joke.

It's really hard to just catagorise it though, since it differs slightly person to person.
The key is watching body language. If there really was truth to the comment and the 'just kidding' part was used defensively, their body language and attitude will be slightly different than before. Eyes might shift a bit more and avoid eye contact, the person will pull back a bit to create a greater gap between the two, things like that.

At least that's what I think, I'm not a psychologist though.

Do but despise reason and science,
The highest of all human gifts -
Then you have surrendered to the Devil
And must surely perish. - J.W. von Goethe

Well, it had to be in their mind to begin with,
so yes, there is truth in it, be it just indignation
towards the fear of the target hearing the comment
and saying it out of sheer jadedness
or actually saying the truth as it is, but feeling slight
fear or even remorse.
For the rest I wouldn't know, since I am never kidding.

In general, you have to know the person saying it really well to determine if the 'just kidding' is really just that.

There are a few friends whose personalities I know well enough to know that they'd NEVER say/think something along the lines of what was said, so when they say 'just kidding', it is exactly that. In the cases where that friend might possibly think along those lines, they fall into the category below.

For everyone else, 'just kidding' could possibly be just that, but more often than not, it is a way to cover up something that was said which the speaker immediately regretted or was embarrassed by afterward (for a potential variety of reasons). In those cases, there's always at least a grain (if not a metric ton) of what they believe to be the truth in what was said before the 'just kidding' was added. In these cases, if you don't know the person really well, you need to know how to read body language really well to distinguish, and that still won't be a perfect indicator.

And The Guy and I have pretty much said the same thing in slightly different ways. =)

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

never imagined there could actually be the english version, in RL, for the most feared jap expression "...nante ne?" (possibly with the gruesome addition of "teehee"->tongue out)

Anyway, ppl that say so, mostly after dramatic or very personal speeches, usually have said a truth: afterwards they tend to undramatize the fact with this little phrase.
Seems to me like ppl that try to confess something to someone to ease their minds, then find it as being a mistake (be it considering afterwards the person they have in front, or the sense of embarassment overwhelming them, ecc)

If someone told me that (serious/deep phrase+ "jj"), i'd feel like they decided afterwards that im not so trustworthy/reliable, thus the addition "jj" to make it sound lighter.

I REALLY hope you can understand what i mean, its a really contorted post, meaningwise XD

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That's known as a "coin".

Oh, thanks. Too much D&D.

ooohhh...
i have to keep that in mind...
but another question...
what if someone who is always joking suddenly says something serious and what if that person didnt add a just joking in the end...could it be that, that person was serious...im a person who is constanly joking and when i say something serious i dont mean it ...so what about the more normal people out there...please say something!! im trying to understand a person here!!

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I hate you all, and I wish you would die.

Just kidding.

That sounds serious, but I really am kidding, of course. That is because of the nature of this thread though! It depends on the mood. I would call myself oblivious if someone said something important/serious/odd (regardless of the "just kidding" at the end) and I ignored it. They're obviously testing your reaction.

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I hate you all, and I wish you would die.

Just kidding.

wow...i really thought that you were serious...its really hard talking to people in the internet...
😐

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Yeah, sad it's hard talking to people IRL too, especially if I can sound serious through text. There's only a few times where someone said "just kidding" and they were really kidding. My sister fooled me all the time, before she brought the JK in. Otherwise, people aren't kidding at all...

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when a guy says something sweet and adds "jk.." he definitely means it. like "mewnbrite" said... its a reaction test.
as for things like "i hope u all die" im not sure why they say that.

The thing is, we don't know this guy, you haven't told us anything about him, and we don't know what he said. Maybe he was serious or maybe he wasn't. You're essentially asking us to take a wild guess.

well not really a wild guess...and not really just one guy...im asking for the real opinion of a group of people based on their observation...he guy thing is just something from my experience...

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What if someone who is always joking suddenly says something serious and what if that person didn't add a just joking in the end...could it be that, that person was serious...i'm a person who is constantly joking and when i say something serious i don't mean it (well at times i think i do) ...so what about the more normal people out there...please say something!! im trying to understand a person here!!

The same things apply - yes, it could be that person is serious, or it could be that the person is just trying to get outrageous reactions from others, particularly if said in front of a group. Generally the smaller the group, the more likely they are to be serious if something is bothering them or needs to be said, and then they're looking to judge what initial reactions from friends might be, and will cover it up if they don't get the reaction they were hoping for. The only way to tell whether or not it's looking for an outrageous reaction or a sincere one is to know that person really well.

Also, the longer you talk to people over the internet (and get some feel for their sense of humor), the easier it is to decipher what they're saying without body language. It is an acquired skill and takes time to develop, though.

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

never been in a situation for it was use.. guess i was just never such a person to be told... ironic that i found the situation before the whole group does... been the person to give advice but never in question sigh"... WHY doesn't anyone trust me? cause i'm a little sadistic,twisted and have some issue on black mail? pff cheap friendship

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It definately depends on who is joking. For example, I say horrible, cruel things with no foundation at all to my friends and they know that I'm kidding completely, but at the same time I have a friend who will say things only half jokingly and on some level be totally serious (which makes him pretty mean I guess haha). The annoying thing is that people who don't know our personalities think that he is joking 100% and I'm not joking at all. Go figure... 🙄

It also depends on the situation but as long as you know who you're talking to well enough it shouldn't be super difficut to tell if there is truth in their "jokes."