banner_jpg
Username/Email: Password:
Forums

do u believe in love at first sight?

Poll
do u believe in love at first sight?
ya
no
maybe
You must login to vote.

Pages (11) [ 1 2 3 4 Last ] Next
You must be registered to post!
From User
Message Body
user avatar
Member

6:48 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 435


believe in love at first sight? i was listening to kylies love atfirstsight so i was curious n i couldnt sleep
anyway yes i believe smile

________________
never fr0wn cause you never know whos in love with your sm smile e
Your mind is like a parachute it works best when its open
user avatar
Member

6:58 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 356


At first sight, you only see what they look like, so I would think it'd be lust, rather than love.

user avatar
Member

6:58 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 1199


I believe in the old fashioned feeling that when you see the right girl, you would give anything to bone her.

To answer the question - I believe there is only lust at forst sight, and th love comes later.....or it doesn't and the lust just fades away.

________________
Life is tough......but it's tougher if you're stupid.
User Posted Image
user avatar
Crazy Cat Lady
Member

7:19 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 1850


I believe in lust/infatuation/attraction at first sight, which may (in rare cases) become real love later on. It's impossible to truly love someone until you take the time to get to know them.

________________
"[English] not only borrows words from other languages; it has on occasion chased other languages down dark alley-ways, clubbed them unconscious and rifled their pockets for new vocabulary."
-James Nicoll, can.general, March 21, 1992
user avatar
Member

7:33 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 42


Personally, i don't think love at first sight exists.How can someone fall in love with another person on the first meeting? You guys are right that's merely called lust or maybe a slight attraction. The word love is just too much to use for a first meeting.


________________
Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
Member

7:36 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 10


I've wondered before whether that "love-at-first-sight" feeling has some biological basis.

Or more specifically, some evolutionary mechanism. A mechanism that helps with natural selection.

I've wondered if that "love-at-first-sight" feeling is actually your body's primative way of telling you that the person you're looking at is a prime candidate for a mate. A potential mate with a set of genetic info that complements your own very well. In other words, mating with that person would produce superior offspring.

Just like how other living creatures have pheromones, perhaps we also have a way of unconsciously evaluating the genes people carry. And when we unconsciously identify someone with a set of genes that compliments our own (making for ideal offspring), we get that "love-at-first-sight" feeling.

That's my hypothesis anyway. I can't really think of a reliable way to scientifically test it.

user avatar
Member

7:47 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 356


Well, you're mostly right with that. Animals tend to try to attract healthy looking partners so they can create strong off-springs. This was traditionally true as well for human beings. By instinct, we are supposed to find someone with an ideal form to be attractive.

There are features like symmetry, such as the ears (to make the ears appear more identical, people started wearing earrings), a male's muscles, female's breasts(?), etc. To some extent, we still feel these attraction, although a lot of people try to rely more on rationality rather than instincts nowadays.

But, love is (usually) defined as a deep caring for the well-being of someone, while lust is sexual desire, which is mostly driven by our instinct to keep the human race alive by reproduction. Of course, different people use different definitions of love, so meh.

Anyway, your hypothesis is pretty much correct, with a lot of scientific proof to support it.

Post #89520
user avatar
Inquisitor
Member

7:49 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 612


you know what they say.....those who don't believe in ghosts are the ones who've never seen them.....love at first sight might be possible, but it has never happened to me.....i kinda work on a mutual interest, which happens 'cause of my mutual interest in white guys.......i'd rather get to know the person, then develop a deeper relationship than fall in love "at first sight" and spend the rest of my life gawking and gazing at that person from afar....

________________
The Deviant
Post #89584
user avatar
Member

8:28 pm, Nov 8 2007
Posts: 1145


Interesting question.. I'm not saying it's not possible because I think anything is.. but I will say, I think "love at first sight" and "soul mates" go hand in hand. I don't exactly believe in soul mates, but I do believe in soul lovers.. though I think that's something that occurs over time.. so yea, I guess you could say I believe in it.. or at least think it's a possibility.

________________
If it weren't for the gutter, my mind would be homeless.
user avatar
 Site Admin

12:59 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 6221


first sight is just infatuation or lust...true love comes from knowing the person better

Member

1:15 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 29


Hmm, I would say it isn't lust, in my belief lust virtually never results in love. However the entire phenomena of love at first sight I would say is very related to hindsight bias. In that couples when asked how they met may remember feeling attracted at their first meeting. They then later relate this initial attraction to the love they felt later, and hense call it 'love' at first sight.

Sorry if that bursts any romantic bubbles smile wink grin

Post #89662
user avatar
The Gorilla King
Member

1:37 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 1117


as everybody above already said, there's only lust at first sight ^^

________________
User Posted Image
Post #89667
user avatar
Member

2:06 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 176


I'm going to say maybe on this one.

Post #89685
user avatar
Resident Odd
Member

3:32 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 665


No, I don't believe in first sight love. The person I once fell in love with, I thought was trying to kill me when we first met.

________________
http://eofusion.googlepages.com
http://360.yahoo.com/axisofoddity
http://axisofoddity.googlepages.com/
Post #89691
user avatar
Mome Basher
Member

3:45 am, Nov 9 2007
Posts: 3380


I will never be foolish enough to say it, and to believe in it.
It makes me feel like slapping myself for the things I said back then >_>

It's lust at first sight, not love...never. no

________________
User Posted Image
Everyday I'm tumblin'
Pages (11) [ 1 2 3 4 Last ] Next
You must be registered to post!