In most of the yaoi manga Ive read, there always seems to be SOMEONE who is hesitating or a uke who is in COMPLETE PAIN. 0_0. ( Well, I've read some good ones like that) and obviously it's going to be like that, they're just making it realistic, but I'd prefer if both of them are wanting to do it equally and the uke isn't a complete cry baby. One like what Im describing is Himegoto Asobi, so I'm guessing the uke won't be girly, but if you can find one where the uke doesn't act like a wuss and I`m not SCARRED, then good :3
Ya know, pleasure for both and not a bunch of resistance.

Well, you could try the nympho uke category. ^^
Erotic M and Kareshi Glamorous are great.