Embarrassing mistake! Relationship advice?
14 years ago
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Okay, so I was showing my friend some pictures of lolcats I had saved on my computer. As I was clicking through them, this one showed up: http://konachan.com/post/show/106693/animal_ears-brown_hair-cleavage-japanese_clothes-k In a panic, I gave the most lame-o excuse I could think of, "I downloaded a batch of fan images from this site, and I hadn't sorted through them yet." Aargh, I'm so embarrassed I could die! I saved the picture a long time ago, but honestly I don't like that kind of thing. But now how do I face my friend again? We're working on a video game together.

14 years ago
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I'm a bit afraid of clicking on the link since from what you say it seems that the picture is NSFW, maybe you could just describe what's in it?
But I think that if you really aren't into whatever is in the picture and you had it just by mistake or something, just tell your friend the truth. The awkwardness of the situation will become worse if you stay silent about this, I think it would be the best to explain everything, even if it's embarrassing.
14 years ago
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Urgh, well it was a scantilly-clad girl in a kimono with a sword. But very risque, and very suggestive. Was my lame excuse good enough, though, do you think? I don't want to make matters worse by bringing it up again, and making it seem even more suspicious.

14 years ago
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Well, you could say that you are really embarrassed, but you feel you have to explain this, because you know your friend could think something weird about you and it's not true. But, you know, the picture is not really that bad, I've seen worse things on my friend's computer and I don't really think she's a pervert or anything 😀 So don't be too embarrassed 🙂

14 years ago
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14 years ago
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Fixed the link. The period at the end was causing the problem. To be more descriptive, after the picture popped up, I immediately closed it, saying "Sorry, I still need to clean it up." After that, I showed her a couple more lolcat pictures, and she said she had to go. I stopped her as she left and said, "Oh hey, about that picture. See, I downloaded a batch of fan pictures for this anime I was watching and hadn't gotten rid of the bad ones yet. I didn't want you to see that. Well, I didn't want to see it either, nervous laughter." Yeah... I was sooo nevous and flustered. But unfortunately, she's the type to never talk unless spoken to first. We kinda became friends because we were both alone.

14 years ago
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Um, in such case, I suppose you shouldn't start talking about this again, unless you see she's bothered by that.
Again, I don't think the picture is that bad, I expected something much, much worse 🙂 I think it's okay for a guy (you are a guy, right...?) to have pictures like this one. But I understand that you may not want a girl you like to see it.
14 years ago
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Darn, you saw through me. Yeah, I've like her for a few years, but she has a boyfriend now... So, pretending it never happened should be okay for now? I won't be seeing her for another week, though. We've both got work.

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14 years ago
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Don't worry about it, having suggestive pics like that just says your a straight male (which I'm guessing is the message you wanna send). You being flustered bout her seeing it just means you care bout what she thinks of you (most girls are flattered by this so you might have scored some points even if your stuck in the friend zone). NEVER bring that picture up, unless she mentions it. Even if she avoids you and you think that's the reason don't bring it up till she does. But seriously this is nothing to worry about so put it safely out of your mind. And good luck on your video game project.
PS: If she does make a scene out of it then that's the weird part weird. 🤣
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14 years ago
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Quote from lemming456
if she has a boyfriend, she's probably not all that into you
Haha, yeah, I've come to terms with that. sigh Well, I feel a bit better now. I'm just gonna beat myself up if I think too hard about it. Que sera sera.
Thanks for everybody's advice. 😉

14 years ago
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just gonna have to man up and live with it, the girl i first ever loved saw me in my tidy whiteys. wow i felt like i was about to die...we never mentioned it again, and i just had to be a man and accept what happened, and hope she never brought it up lol 🤣
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- Barney Stinson
You should have said "Wow, that's clearly in the wrong folder. It should be in the ecchi folder. Oh well." and then laughed about it.
Also stopping her as she was about to leave was a bad move. And transparent. Should have forgotten it ever happened instead of awkwardly bringing it up again.

14 years ago
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Dude just cause she has a bf doesn't mean she's not totally into you. I know this from experience.
About the picture, don't worry about it. As long as she doesn't bring it up then you shouldn't. If you do, then it could become a strain in your relationship. But if you do ever end up with this girl, surely she will find other ecchi pics on your computer. So if she's gonna find out later, it's better for her to know sooner. Honesty is important too.
She might like you better if you're a little more honest about these things.
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14 years ago
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How could you ever have a good sex life with a girl so prudish that she can't even handle a drawn picture that isn't even a nude one?! Almost every teenage girl that surfs on the web will come across a lot of penises and naked women they weren't looking for. So I doubt she, as a women, has had a shock from seeing such a thing suddenly. Ok, a friends computer, but aren't we all human?
The disturbing fact about the whole thing is that you guys obviously mind.
Anyhow, I'm rooting for you.