No, my mom maybe some cuz of childbirth. Dad hardly suffered to give me life. However, I would still take care of them should they need it. I do owe them some for raising me and taking care of me till I am 18 or more. I know my mom really cares about me despite us having our arguments. My dad...well i think he does care but sometimes he is such a fag...I don't even mean just about dumb rules and stuff, just his personality pisses me off. Still, if I really need to take care of them later and I have the means to I probably would.

Not really let me ask my 4 other siblings if they feel that way.

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Don't really care either way.

I know I will take care of them and do everything in my power to help them out for two reasons:

1.) My grandma (the one who is like a second mom to you, you know? Really kind and loving who would kill herself for your sake) got diagnosed with Alzeheimer's desease when I was 8; by the time I was nine, she'd look at me and say (kindly) "Of course I love you... Just... What's your name again?"; when my mom got married she moved away from her hometown, so my parents and I live very far from my grandparents and see them four times a year at most; my uncle, who was the one who was "supposed" to take care of grandma, since they lived close to each other, completely shut her off his life: he wouldn't even take his kids to visit her for her birthday! Despite my mom's frequent visits and going to doctors' and stuff, the situation deteriorated very fast; by the time I was 11, mom had hired a lady to take care of grandma, and they'd moved in with us; even if the situation was starting to become unbearable, my mom would do everything in her power to keep grandma home (oh, and by now, grandma no longer talked, let alone recognized anyone); when I turned 15, we sadly had to put her in a senior home (it destroyed my mom, but there was no other choice), where my grandma spent her last years (she died last year) not even walking nor eating anymore.

Obviously, after witnessing this situation, I KNOW that when (and if) something will ever happen to my mom, I will definitely help her out any way I can, instead of ignoring her like my uncle did (although my mom has already told me that if she ever were diagnosed with Alzheimer's, she'd kill herself when she was still conscious).

2.) My mom has diabetes (since I was born, actually. My pancreas would work instead of hers), and, ever since this whole thing with grandma happened, her condition got much worse (I don't know how many of you people are familiar with diabetes, but let's just say that my mom has very frequent "crises", and if you don't give her sugar right away, she could end up in a coma and die), so it's like my sister and I already are taking care of her, anyway. Do you know how many times it happened that my sister and I would come home from school to find the house empty and a call from the hospital saying my mom had collapsed? Used to scare us to death, but we're used to it by now.

But, yeah, I'd never dream of not taking care of my mom, even if she's strict, nagging, and addicted to tennis. I love her.



Then I shouldn't have been born either, right? Various cases of diabetes, Alzheimer's disease, cases of Down syndrome, not to mention - sadly - way too many cases of nervous breakdowns and psychic illnesses (from both sides of the family, actually... seems I can't escape it, huh?).

But hey, I'm here, I'm alive and well, and I'm happy to be here. What's wrong with hope?

Wow, your mom sounds like she really has diabetes bad. I've been hospitalized three times since I've been diabetic, but I'm getting better as the years go by.

It's not so much that I owe them for life. Lots of people have kids and then dump them or abuse them. A few of my really good friends are completely unwanted by their drug-addicted parents and ended up dumped at random relatives' houses. Why should children be indebted to parents like that? What I owe my parents for is 19 years of loving care, clothes, food, a house, a listening ear (when I wanted it and when I didn't), and money for college. And they definitally take care of me. And it's not like I "owe" them, just that anyone should love someone who sacrifices so much for them.

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Well, when I was younger, my mom wouldn't really do very many check ups. She's lucky she does a lot of sport, so she can pretty much eat all she wants without risking a iperglicemic crisis. However, she does risk very many ipoglicemic crises, because she doesn't really check how much insulin she injects (compared to what she's eating or how much work out she's done).

Also, what really gets her is that she's a very anxious person, and thinking things over and over anxiously is like hours and hours of workout... so she's more prone to crises when she's stressed out, you know? Which is just about always. But, yeah, things get bad mostly when she's stressed (when grandma got sick, when she died, or when my sister moved away), but she's slowly trying to get better.

Sorry for my post, I know it's OT, but I wanted to explain it all clearly. Also, sorry for boring everybody else silly with all this technical stuff.

My parents are pretty sweet, so I guess I could take of them. I'm hoping my other siblings (One of the 8....) would take care of them instead though. XD

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From nature's viewpoint , taking care of your parents is totally wrong.
If the main purpose in having children is the survival of one's genes, then the birth and whole upbringing was in vain, when the children end up taking care of their parents and lack the time to have and raise children themselves (because thus their genes die with them).
So it's at least questionable if the real responsibility towards your parents lies in neglecting your own life and taking care of them and not in the opposite.
But since I prefer a happy world rather than an efficient one, I'll most likely care for my parents, too.

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Should we really be comparing ourselves to animals?

No.
It's biology and nothing more.
"the gift of life"? ... Look at my sig...
"If I were never born, I would not know of it."...
If you have parents that are actually good and supportive people, not thanking them would be just immoral...
But for the gift of life? Life isn't really such a gift anyway.

People should earn the respect and gratitude of thier childern.

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We don't even need to, natural selection applies to humans as well. What I was implying was that those taking care of their parents are more likely to become the losers of natural selection. Since the trait might prevent itself from being passed on, it's kind of self-destructing.
Ignorance and nothing more.

It might be a question of morality but it has biological consequences already explained. And if you don't consider them, you might regret your choice later. I just wanted you to instead of just saying you will do that which is morally right, to think about the dilemma behind it: either be a proud loser (with morals, aginst nature) or a sad winner (with nature, against morals). Of course not every elderly person requires constant care, but you're at least handicapped.

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~Sorry for bumping an old thread, but it was interesting reading through the different posts here. ^-^

I love my parents and all but no. They decided to have me not the other way around, I remind my mother that every time she brings out the "I gave life to you" crap. I wouldn't really say I was brought up in a loving family though. My family consists of all boys, I'm the only girl so they were way stricter with me, especially my mom. I think I hated my mom (at times) more often than I said I love her. I had to oblige by their really strict rules for 16 years and I was still a problem child. I spent one year with my grandparents and it was life changing, they did more for me in a year than my parents did for me my whole life. Truly saddening. I don't blame them though, they just don't know how to show love or any emotions for that fact.

So no I don't owe them for bringing me up in a household that was more crappy than not. I will support them when they're older and crap but I feel no obligation. Though they themselves have stated they won't need my help since they have 4 other boys that can do the job better than I ever can. They do deserve my support? I think not, but I will do so anyway if needed.

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Of course I do. Because without them, I wouldn't be posting here right now. They give me everything I wanted with their love.

It makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.....

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Manga I'm loving ATM: Heart no Kuni no Alice

I'm extremely thankful my parents had me.
Especially since they weren't exactly trying again after losing my older brother. I was an oopsident. And they were terrific parents even though I didn't have them that long.

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