Quote from xShatteredSoulx
In addition, as well grow up, they let us in on more and we begin to see the cracks in our relatives relationships with each other and how petty their feuds can be. I think this can be shattering if you've grown up thinking everyone in your family loves each other and rarely argues. I'm currently experience the latter, to be honest.
If this ever happened to me, it was when I was so small that I can't remember.
My mom didn't try to sugar-coat things for me; she didn't give me more information than I needed to know (i.e. didn't vent to me about family problems) but didn't try to hide when there were problems, either. It may be simpler/easier in the short run to pretend like everything's peachy & gloss things over (and not have to make awkward explanations...), but in the long run I think it's better for kids to know the general situation all along than to suddenly find out.
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