I mean, ARE there any? The closest josei smut manga with a consensual male lead I've come across is Game - Suit no Sukima. Although I could be wrong since I'ce read it a long time ago.

They're pretty rare in smut manga in my experience, probably because mangakas are trying to integrate the smut quickly and horny men are still more socially acceptable than horny women. I think that Yamato in Suki tte Ii na yo. is good beyond the alley kiss in chapter 1 or 2 - the progression of their physical relationship is portrayed in detail and he respects what she wants. Midnight Secretary may also qualify, but it's been a long time since I read it, so I can't say for sure (reading the comments now, it looks like there may be other unhealthy aspects to the relationship...).

If you're also referring to non-smut manga, there are a ton of respectful MLs in shoujo and josei (which makes sense since many stories are extremely chaste). ReRe Hello and 3D Kanojo are some examples with a fair amount of kissing and eventual sex.