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Now apart from this can someone tell me why do girls have to be so stuck up and superficial or is it going to get better as i grow older. no offence to anyone reading this. 😀 lol nowadays its hard to find a simple girl that isnt interested whats in the guys pocket, or what he drives.

(ps. im 19) Almost 20
I know i sound like a loser but i want to hear a serious answer. since ive been reading good responses here i thought i could get it.
Can someone answer me this. or perhaps im just a little to mature for my age.

Unfortunately the older you become the worse this situation gets....
I see it like this: when you are young 19, 20 , in the majority of cases you don't have anything of your own, except for some money that you probably earn doing part-time...
To my mind at this age it is more advantageous for a guy to show his potential of earning money on his own in the future, that is get into a good uni, get good marks (in my opinion it's not lame at all, as many people can say). You show your reliable and serious side. Girls who expect rings with XXX carat diamond from the 20 years old guy are eithr not very smart in, or they are waiting for a prince on the white horse... So let them wait... This expectations will fade with the time....
But with the age girls would look into your pocket more and more frequently, because they assume that, when you getting close to 30 you already should have something earned and bought...
So in the first case girls are looking for potential, in the second for material wealth... And it's not necessary because they are spoiled, they care about their future... it's not true that you can survive in the forest eating squirrels with the one you love...

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It must really depend on the groups you hang out with, because my friends & I, and my family, have never ever been like that. 😐

For me, the "having a job, not living at home, etc." is more about whether the guy is being responsible for himself & independent or still depending on his parents to take care of him, and not wanting to take over a support/provider/caretaker role. I don't care if a guy is rich or not, but if he can't support himself, that's a red flag to me that he may just be looking for someone to leech off of, and it ain't gonna be me! 🤣

I say this as someone a lot older than 19, though; I wouldn't look down on someone that age still living at home and needing help from parents. 😃

yep thats true..... plus its hard to have a steady job when your a full time student... talk about a nightmare... hehe...

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So in the first case girls are looking for potential, in the second for material wealth... And it's not necessary because they are spoiled, they care about their future... it's not true that you can survive in the forest eating squirrels with the one you love...

haha... thats funny.... squirrels..
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Personally I don't understand the young women being with men old enough to be their dad thing. Yet, it's because I don't understand their desperation for money probably because I've been living a stable and comfortable life since I was born (you can blame my parents and my luck lol). I, with a shotacon tendency you can say, also don't understand how the old daddies can be attractive. But people are after different things in their lives. Perhaps I am just the type who value personal pleasure more than anything else (money, etc.). I am the type who doesn't even want guys to pay when going out on dates. So how rich they are is probably not very relevant to me since I won't depend on them.

I think how hot he is is the most important thing I look for in a boyfriend (of course it's the whole package not just looks). I don't care how much money he has or what he drives as long as he's somewhat independent (meaning not dependent on me). If he's as young as 19, it's reasonable not to have a steady job. A lot of girls at that age don't even have steady jobs themselves how can they demand guys to? What I abusolutely don't want is a guy who's too low maintenance, has too different values and lifestyle from mine (those are important while many ignore them that's why they can't find suitable people for them). I've known guys who don't want girls who are dependent on them too.

@gozitaz
I like your avatar. Tsuna is such a cute and hot shota. I'd take him anytime, well, as long as it's legal. 😛

When should you have sex with someone you're dating? When you are ready to. And if the person has an issue with you not want to get physically involved yet, well now, that tells you something doesn't it? If they can't respect a decision you've made that you find extremely important then I can't really say they respect you.

But... one thing I always did wonder about the whole sex and relationships is... why people allow it complicate relationships so much. And the fact that when they do have sex, there are the few that afterwards they're saying, "I love this person." You do not fall in love with someone because you slept with them. Seriously. Though, maybe you could call me an emotionally detached person or something because I don't consider sex a step nor a commiment in a relationship. I don't feel as though it defines where we are at or where we are going. It's simply just sex. And I'm not sure where I'm going with this again....

Anyways, I would like some advice to a situtation. I have a buddy, who's pretty much a little brother. And sadly because I think of him as one I'm a tad protective and I feel as though when I see something wrong or bad for him I always try to give him some advice. So here's the situation:
He's been dating this girl for three years. He moved in with her for awhile in the beginning of their relationship and then they got a new place. Nice three bedroom townhouse which he pays all the bills for. He has two dogs that she hates. That she wants him to get rid of. She wants to move to a different area when where they leave now is only a few minutes away from his work and hers. She's constantly trying to change him. And will do anything to try and get her way - such as leaving and going to stay with her mom for a few days. Well, recently, because he won't get rid of the dogs and said that he didn't want to move because it's a perfect location for them both she decides to get up and get a new apartment in the area she wanted to move, that doesn't allow pets, and with rent she can't afford herself. Now this is my issue. She damn well did all that just so she could manipulate him into giving her what she wants. So as of now they're "taking a break" and she's saying things to appease him in order to make him think she may have changed. Sadly, the truth is, she isn't going to change (especially since it somehow miraculously happened over such a short period of time) and the one thing I don't want to see is him putting himself into a situation where he's the one making all the sacrifices and end up unhappy again. Now what I wonder is, should I just keep my mouth shut and not give any advice and let him just learn from the experience. Or should I speak my opinions in hope of giving him a different view?
I think the worst of it is that a lot of people don't realize is just becuase you love someone doesn't mean they're right or good for you.

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As a friend, you should give him advice he needs even if he won't listen.

@Atlanta: Putting a time limit on when to have sex is not the right way to do things. it should be when BOTH people in the relationship love and care for each other not a spur of the moment "your so hot" kind of sex. That is not to say that is what you would be having if you did it early love can grow slowly or quickly it depends on the person.

I think it would be a good idea to ask him about it. he may have a specific boundary when it comes to sex as well. believe it or not there are some guys who want to wait for marriage.

I myself have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now and we have not had sex. and we probably wont until we are married or until she is at least out of college. I know what her boundaries are and she knows mine so talking is definitely a good idea.

@gozitaz: Yea a lot of women can be superficial but keep looking there are some that are not, or at least less than all the others lol. if you keep looking and get to know other women they may com out to be less superficial than you may have thought them to be

@jinx_you: It is a good idea to let him know what you think. especially since he is curently "taking a break" this means he is having doubts as well so it is very likely that he will listen to your opinions with out the bias of "you're talking about my girlfriend" plus if you 2 are close he would most likely appreciate your opinion especially since he may have been thinking the same thing and is just waiting for another's opinion

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