I'm not going to read this entire thread but all I can tell you is to follow the age-old adage: find a woman that loves you for who you are. If she swears she loves you but tries to change you, dump her. Harsh as it is, it'll save you both a lot of stress and tension in the long run.

Second, do not try to be something you're not to impress a girl. Even if she does go for it, you'll only find that you have to keep the act up to keep her. Eventually you may even resent her for it because you'll be putting so much into the relationship while she isn't. She shouldn't have to and neither should you.

Third is the opposite of the first rule. You have to be willing to a woman for who she is too. If she's neck deep into fujoshi, you have my deepest sympathy, however, let her indulge in her hobby. If you can't be comfortable with such then she's clearly not the right one for you.

Fourth, and I know this is going to hurt a lot of you guys but, looks aren't everything. Sure we'd all like to have a supermodel calling us baby and, while there is nothing wrong finding someone you're physically attracted to, don't forget to balance that with emotional attraction. Case in point, I'm into Asian and Hispanic women but my present girlfriend is Caucasian. While I'm not swooning over her appearance, she is pretty in her own right and I find her personality akin to an oasis in the desert. While my eyes may wonder, my heart won't budge.

Beyond that, once you have a good woman, be open and honest with each other. The more you hide, the more problems you'll have. Also keep in mind that relationships aren't perpetual things. You both have to work to keep the romance fresh. Don't stop saying Ï love you. Don't stop going on dates, even after marriage. Don't stop writing love letters or buying gifts at ransom. Basically, don't ever stop dating. The puppy love feeling you get at the beginning of a relationship only last about 2 weeks but romance can last forever, if you're willing to take care of it.

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Resemble a Shoujo character.... Considering the site we are on, I think you hit the nail on the head...
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I think common sense should be employed. Treat your partner the way you want your partner to treat you*, and if they don't like that you probably aren't compatible and the relationship will become very stressful.

*Disclaimer: This advice is not always applicable. The person who stated this knows very little about romantic relationships. Do not take with alcohol. 😀

There is no such thing as a "perfect" anything. And people shouldn't delusional themselves into thinking there is. There are going to be things about someone that drives you crazy, annoys the hell out of you, makes you think what were/are they thinking... You're never going to find someone that thinks you're perfect and vice versa. But, they can love and adore all the imperfections that make you, well you. Everyone has those weird things about themselves that some people just don't get. But, when it's the right person, they get you. And yeah, some mornings they might wake up and contemplate putting their pillow over your face because you sometimes drive them crazy (the hubby and I talk about doing this sometimes 🤣 ) but they don't because despite what might annoy the hell out of them, you make them feel things more deeply than anyone else does.

So really, you need to just step back from the whole, trying to be a perfect anything - it doesn't exist. Be yourself. And just work at making not only yourself happy in the relationship but your partner as well. Take the time and effort to deepen your connection. Listen and talk. Have fun. Laugh. There's really not much more a person could want but someone that can and is willing to connect with them on all levels.

Also, not all relationships are smooth sailing. Some are easier than others, but all require an effort put in from both parties.

And I don't even know if this is even relevant to the question. It's late, I'm tired but can't sleep. ⌐ ⌐

If it weren't for the gutter, my mind would be homeless.

love her with all youve got! and then preferably break into song and dance.. 😎

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The sweeter the apple, the higher the branch. The quieter the fart, the nastier the smell.
GUESS WHO??

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8

pretty much a guide to what girls want in guy's

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8

pretty much a guide to what girls want in guy's

The first half is so true...

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

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One piece of advice I can offer - listen to what they say when they think you are not listening. That's what they usually want the most.

WOW, first guy to ever notice.. thumbs up

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As long as you want her to be happy and stay by her side when she needs you, you're a perfect boyfriend.

She needs to feel like she's your most important person; she'll want to come before anyone else.
Listen to her when she speaks!
To avoid her going on an emotional rampage, you need to keep her well fed; hungry women are agitated women.
Whenever you are at a complete loss of words the correct answer is always "you're right dear (or any other pet-name you normally use)".

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You will be never perfect, if ever you would be.. no chick out there would be good enough. You will always F up once or twice. It's the universal law 😀

There is no special formula. I wouldn’t want to strive for the ‘perfect’ guy (if such a being exists) nor would I want to push my ideals on him. Perhaps it’s about finding the right person with flaws you can live with… You don’t have to conform to a certain mould, you don’t have to earn my love - all I ask is for you to appreciate our time together and for your feelings towards me to be sincere so that there’s nothing to be ashamed of when things come to an end.

EDIT: Screw it. I have an endless list of flaws myself and intolerance ranks pretty high. One thing I cannot stand is clinginess.

Personally, I wanted a boyfriend who would be nice to me, very smart, attractive, and who I could share my love for otaku stuff with.

Well, I have someone great in my life now :3
He's truly the best!

All I can say is, be nice, but don't smother your girlfriend. I get the feeling that guys who say "Girls don't want nice guys" don't really understand this, because this is something I've seen a lot with them. This is one of the most important things you can do. It's easy to get carried away and overdo it, but don't isolate her from other things in her life- like her friends, family, etc, because she will probably see this as controlling.

I know I can't spend all my time with anyone in the world, and I need a lot of time by myself ^^;

And be yourself. I don't really see why anyone needs to rush to have an S/O. When you work on making yourself happy, then I think it makes it way easier to make others happy. And confidence is very helpful- find something you're good at and do your best at it, and let it show. Some people think that girls date..."douchebags" because they're mean, but I think it's usually 'cause those guys are very confident in themselves, which is something most people find attractive, but they like to abuse their power and hurt people ><'