I've had crushes, infatuations and turn-ons. But love is something very deep and has a lot of dedication to it(I think). I cant remember the last time I've "loved" someone.

What makes you fall in love ?

A good impression from someone, a lapse in your judgement, the removal of all doubt and fluctuations in hormone levels. All you need to do to fall in love is to think you're in love and taa-daa! You've fallen in love. As long as you believe it's real, it's real enough for your mind.

Kinda like the batman thingy about wearing a mask for so long, you forget your face under it or a lie can become the truth if this and that happen.

Well that's all my opinion anyway.

I think love needs progress, dedication and several years experience.

Am I the only one who checked "a sense of seriousness and safety"?

In any case, I am not stupid enough to say I've been "in love". But I can say what turns me off.

I have to say that one of the things is not deeming someone mature enough to have me open up to them. They have to understand that even though I'm with them, it's not an excuse to deny me of my own life. I hate it when people are quick to judge, or put emphasis on petty behaviours such as not replying to a message. 😔
I feel like as if I'm a company asking for a resume, but in the same style, if they can not empathize - not sympathize - then they wouldn't be letting into a huge, more private part of my life. So I suppose this is where the security section comes in.

Of course, I am not saying that I want a deadpan, psychiatrist as a partner. All the other stuff count. But once I find that someone, I'll be hung on forever. I'm actually in an unconventional relationship where we've never been in the same school, I'm pretty sure in the time we've met in real life I was despised for embarrassing and childish behaviour, and we developed online (but not an "online" relationship, technically, as this was a school mate with a friend I knew in real life). Still can't say it's love, but I enjoy very much.

And for all you hopefuls, if it helps:

"Love in the best of circumstances is a very fragile mixture of self-esteem and self-importance, of both giving and taking, and of trying to keep a decent balance between the two."

Or at least, that's what my psychology book says!

It looks too similar to this thread.

But anyways, I'm not sure we can pinpoint whatever makes us fall in love. =/
Compatibility, I guess.

I have my idea of what's ideal for me.
For me it's someone who is intelligent and humorous - someone I can talk with,
who accepts my flaws and quirks. Not just tolerates them.
Someone towards whom I can feel the same.

It's not like I don't expect other things from my perfect match.
Like long fingers and the ability to play an instrument.
But without acceptance and compatibility, I don't think that "love" is enough.
Since like every emotion, love can fade over time, too.
Especially if you take you being together for granted and don't make any efforts.

I like to believe love is real.
I also think that people, like so many in my family,
marry and just stay together.
They seem to cling to a memory.

How can we tell that we're really in love?

What I'm trying to say is... I don't know.

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Click 'n Play!

If I had a fantasy self, it'd be a tentacle monster.

"clicking" doesn't feel like the right expression, but it is something alike.
With the person I love, I feel like myself. No pressure, no need to be more charming, funnier or cunning. I can just say what I want the other person to know and understand in return.
Before I actually "fell in love" I felt this calmness and safety. From the very first moment.

But love is something that grows out of different feelings. Outer attraction can turn into love as well as liking the humor or the shape of the hands.
After a while, the feelings for the other person are almost too much to take. And then it is love. 😉

I can see that most people (who specify a particular factor that makes them fall in love) pick "clicking" with someone, and that's what I would have chosen, too... A few years ago.

But after a series of attempted relationships in which I placed value on different things (e.g. brains, or common interests, or "clicking") I've seen that what caused a break-up in the end was MORAL incompatibility. Like, not having the same thoughts about certain moral requirements... What I now look for (and find most attractive) is someone with whom I am morally compatible. As in, I know that I can really count on them when the going gets tough, and vice versa... Who will be as loyal as I am loyal, who will weather the storms of life with me, share responsibilities equally, etc. So "a sense of seriousness and safety" is definitely a part of it, but morality is the main thing.

Plus, there's just something seriously hot about someone with the balls to openly state what they believe and stand up for it, and there's something goddamn attractive about someone who will stick to their principles no matter the temptations or troubles. That kind of strength is just sexy, yo. 😎

In a weird way, this is the first time I've felt completely comfortable with myself when meeting/considering people, because when I look at them in this light, I feel... like I'm finally looking for what I really want, rather than just what I thought I wanted. I feel "grown-up", I guess, and no longer uncertain about what my priorities are... Finally, I feel like I actually know what I'm doing. 🙂

Depends on the guy. >//////<

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I think time spent together and the desire to fall in love with someone/anyone are all it takes.

I see so many strange couples these days that this is the only way I can seem to be able to rationalize "love". Seeing some of these couples I am even starting to doubt that physical "attraction" even plays that key of a role.

I am willing to bet that if you spend time with almost anyone and keep your heart open to love it will happen. Such a strange species we humans are...

Anything can make you fall in love IMO...
Also, physical traits (I think) play a more important role than psychical ones...
I once watched something on tv where they had a guy blindfolded and made him talk with/feel/smell a group of girls... it said something about humans choosing their partner based on how different their genes are (the more different they are, the better their offspring would be...)
And I actually believe it!

I've never been in love so I don't know

No one gives a shit what trite garbage you write here.

Asking teens (the majority of mu populace, probably) what makes you fall in love is like asking a rock how to swim. Half the answers are 'never been in love'. Love isn't something you pick up at the store, you can't choose who you love, if you could it would be far easier, but much less magical. Now I’ve looked for love, I've asked girls out, but never has the attachment lasted more than a month. I've only lusted after people and in some cases food... But what I’ve learned in my 17 years of life is that I like a tease, a challenge. Something that is just out of reach, but always in focus. I want the enigma type, that’s my attraction. When I find that maybe I’ll fall in love, all the experiences prior will only be practice so I can win that girl.

An instant or an eternity. Both are the same, in the passing of an instant lies the beauty of eternity.
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Because I am a small man, my heart is moved by what's in front of my eyes, not by what the whole world needs.
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You can be attracted to someone's body, personality and interests without falling in love. In fact I think the term used is infatuation.

I comepletely agree with that.

I think I have already passed the phase of giving a damn about so-called "moral incompatibility" (keep in mind that I am probably way older and have more relationship experience than most of you). Nowadays if I find out that a person doesn't have the similar views and values to mine, I won't even be attracted to them in the first place. There must be attraction first, then love may develop over time.

I think the #1 reason for break-ups is people not making enough efforts to work on their relationships no matter whether you are morally compatible or not. Sounds boring and a lot of work, but that's what real life is like. Yes, I've been there and I was the one who was too lazy to make efforts.

Purely physical stuff.

Well I've never been in love, so I guess having the same interests and hobbies.
Good chemistry, and just getting along well.
But what do I know?

You're not alone. We are partners. If you are a witch, Then I'll become a warlock.- Lelouch Lamperouge (Code Geass)

I'm glad you clarified love, rather than initial attraction.

For me, it's the little things. But in particular, the little things that are still flirtatious and fun. ie. Calling at 5:30 am just to wake me up with a cheerful good morning, and then hang up.

Oh, and if they smile a lot.