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[quote=otakuness]definitely love...
lust will just go away..it will cool down sometime...
but true love will not!! it will last forever!!

This is so not true...If you truly believe this you are in for a world of heartbreak 🙁 I hate this saying a lot, and if it had any truth to it at all then most of human relationships would have no meaning at all. Does that make it any less special, any less true because a relationship didn't last forever? And if it does, is it true love? Certainly not.
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If we're choosing between love that is lustless, and lust that is loveless...is that even possible? If we're talking about relationships, can you be in a "relationship" if you don't lust after them in some way?

Anyway. I think I'd go for love. Because love without lust (a friendship that isn't physical) is the best kind of love, imo. Though that's not easy. When you love someone a lot, it's natural to lust after them. Lust isn't exactly a deviated feeling or something you can separate from love. Hence incestuous relationships and the like.

yess it is true...
do you see old couples...60 yrs and above... bangin'?
definitely no...because they stop having the ability to do so...and after they lose the ability to do so...they will not worrying about it anymore...spending precious moments is the main priority now...and will you do this only because of lust?? definitely not because..as for me i will not tolerate it i will really go for growing old with the one that i love...not the one i am fantasizing about... so the love is the only thing that remains because lust cools down with age...
<--- thats my observation because i live with my grandparents...

If you're with someone for a good period time, why leave them? Why leave the comfortable living, the other person? Who wants to be alone? There are plenty of other reasons why older people stay together, and I know it's not always "love." The idea that just because two people stick together for their entire lives because they have true love is BS. [/quote]
but its not always lust either...
cause you know that the comfortable feeling that you are saying is probably love itself...ya know that feeling that makes you happy and fulfilled inside?? yeah that must be it.... 🤣
and there are only two options right?? be it lust or love...that definitely isnt lust so most likely it is love... 😀

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but its not always lust either...
cause you know that the comfortable feeling that you are saying is probably love itself...ya know that feeling that makes you happy and fulfilled inside?? yeah that must be it.... 🤣
and there are only two options right?? be it lust or love...that definitely isnt lust so most likely it is love... 😀

Now it's getting complicated 😐 You were saying "true love." Your definition of true love is that it lasts forever. Well, love doesn't last forever. Ever. Period. And just because it doesn't, doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that it's any less meaningful.

True love is not defined by how long it lasts, but the fact that it's there in the first place. Then again, your definition of true love is that it lasts forever...and who knows, maybe true love, defined how it actually is, doesn't even exist. We both could be wrong -shrug-

Lust and love are very hard to separate, probably why there are a million in-betweens. They all sort of go together. Some people think admiration shouldn't be confused with love, but in some ways it is. Defining it in the first place is an impossible deed 🤢

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For a relationship to last, and maintain in a positive manner, you need both.

Without love, why would you continue with a relationship? Or want it to last longer than some fun days/weeks. (putting luxories like money and attachments like kids aside).

Without lust, how will you enjoy your partner?
Sex is a big part in long-term relationships. If you don't want to do your partner, a relationship might break by a number of means:
The partner will sense/see the lost of interest and be offended, then suspicious, until either of you commit adoltery (in any order).
What then? Not everyone is forgiving when it comes to scewing on the side.

do you see old couples...60 yrs and above... bangin'?
definitely no...because they stop having the ability to do so...and after they lose the ability to do so...

Maybe not everyone, but they do.
It's not like life suddenly ends at 60. o_O
Also consider that different people have different bodies.

Look at people after having children...
How often do they get to "bang" as you put it?
The wife doesn't feel like it for a period of time, then the baby keeps waking them both up, then they don't feel like doing in next to the baby, but then, they can't live the room for so long and so on and on.
I don't say it's like that for every couple, but they might face a dry period. For a while. 🤣
Then the attachments keep them together. The love too.
The lust for the future as well.

But love is an interesting thing.
It can encourage the lust, too.

Well, right or wrong, this is my intake~

Defining it in the first place is an impossible deed

Probably.
But to make it esaier, you could say that love is lust for the mind, while lust is love for the body. 🤣

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Defining it in the first place is an impossible deed

Probably.
But to make it esaier, you could say that love is lust for the mind, while lust is love for the body. 🤣

What about when you love their body and lust after their mind? 😐

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well...i dont know...
but i really believe in true love and the many other forms of love that doesnt require lust... 🤣

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The sweeter the apple, the higher the branch. The quieter the fart, the nastier the smell.
GUESS WHO??

I think media as in movies I suppose hypes the transition of lust to love and etc but there is also the case of love to lust and love-

anyway, that isnt answering the query, I think I cant differentiate between Love and lust like with love- not the asexual kind- can bring in lust or can derive from lust which is vice versa but lust can not always end in love- and for a healthy love relationship, lust is also essential and a must...so both go hand in hand, and if you have no time, lust might be enough but it is known to make you feel empty after sometime...

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I'm 16, but I'd have to say both XD Since, OK, not to sound harsh-- unless you're blind-- you do look at the other person. It might not be a 50-50 thing, but it affects at least a little, or for some, a lot XD.

Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for You are with me.

Lust is momentary, love lasts. Given time anyone in his right mind should be able to discern what he is feeling.

I think both are necessary. Love is not completely love without lust. Love fades and becomes something boring and a thing of convenience without lust.

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I think both are necessary. Love is not completely love without lust. Love fades and becomes something boring and a thing of convenience without lust.

Hear, hear! Of course you can't base a relationship (one you want to last, anyhow) on pure lust. Yeesh. But at the same time, that image of a quiet, dedicated, yet oh-so-boring partner just doesn't really fit the bill, y'know? Lol. So both are necessary! Nicely said. :]

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Lust is momentary, love lasts. Given time anyone in his right mind should be able to discern what he is feeling.

No, love doesn't necessarily last. I agree with mewnbrite's discussion above. People and circumstances change and people can fall out of love. But that doesn't mean love didn't exist before.

I think you need an equal of both. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you want them sexually. I don't believe in that love at first sight crap, but I do believe in lust at first sight. I tend not to let my body rule me towards direct lust they have to something that's emotionally attractive. Love is wonderful but mixed with a healthy dose of lust it's firecrackin' explosive.

it depends...
some people are ambitious, and look for something with class...
some people are believers, and look for moral values...

personally, im a realist,,, so i dont believe in both...
but im leaning towards lust (sexual attraction)

i read this on a article...
that if both partners admire each other's beauty, then the longer the relationship will be...

also i read money is the prime source of the relationship..
families and relationships must be maintained financially...
i say alot of people still live in a fantasy land, where they think love is eternal, where theres a belief, the guy will fill the bed with roses and make very emotional poetry to read to their women... but everyone who has been in a relationship should know at least half this much that people are just people... sometimes fantasies blind them...

so, in the end money and looks is pretty much everything...
in case if you want a long lasting relationship....
cause if you lack both of them, then eventually the other partner will start to realize they need someone better...
thats reality for you...

Shouldn't it be both?
In order to fully love someone, shouldn't you have lust for them?
O_O. Well, that's just what I think, though. xDDD

Lust is contrary to love and really only pertains to adultery and molestation in a sexual desire.

While you love and make love with your soul mate, you don't necessarily 'lust', that conception is by reason, in err. It is simply more of an intricate way of showing your love and spending that meaningful moment of the relationship. If lust gets in the way then it is not love, only personal sexual gratification.