Have you been in a long distance relationship before? If you have, did it work out for you? If you haven't, would you ever consider being in one?
If you have, how long did you go without seeing your partner and what do you think is the most important aspect in maintaining a long distance relationship?

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Never tried, never will. No matter how I love the guy, there's always temptations around. And for as long as I remember, cheating is one of the lowest of the low in my book.

So no to long distance where I won't at least notice signs of cheating.

I'm referring to relationships that became long distance, not to relationships that started as long distance.

"Shouldn't be alive but the condom broke."

To be honest, I haven't been in any relationships. I don't think long distance relationships will work out in the long run, but I don't think they'll unavoidably fail. Distance is not a factor in deciding whether or not someone is a potential partner, but if you are in a long distance relationship you'll have to make a decision sooner or later. Will you choose a place to live together, or will you decide it's not worth the trouble?
Of course it also depends on how far apart you are; if you live within half a day's travel of each other, seeing each other won't be that expensive and time consuming, and you could possibly sustain that kind of relationship for an extended, and perhaps even indefinite, period of time. But if you live on opposite ends of the world, you'd have to make a decision about what it is you really want.

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I don't like the last choice being never will, because, for all you know, it could.

There is a great possibility of long distance relationships not working out, because the distance might hinder communication, and that is the key in a relationship. There is also more doubt between the parties, not that there has to be, but just more compared to a relationship where both parties see each other very often. Of course, if they talk on the phone or video chat for hours each day, then there's probably not that much to worry about. In the end, there is always the problem of where to have the relationship go; if both parties cannot reach a compromise on it, then most likely the relationship will end.

I'm not going to say that I won't ever be in one, because love doesn't depend on location, but it has always been a hindrance.

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Have you been in a long distance relationship before?
Yes.

If you have, did it work out for you?
Nope.

If you haven't, would you ever consider being in one?
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If you have, how long did you go without seeing your partner and what do you think is the most important aspect in maintaining a long distance relationship?
I didn't see him at all, haha; the most important aspect is communication, in my opinion.

Long-distance relationships can work well; it just depends on the two in the relationship: how long each individual is willing to wait so see each other, how much you talk to each other, how committed the two are. So many factors are involved into any kind of relationship. Long-distance is definitely one of the more tricky ones.

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I was in one for about a year and a half. We broke up, but I'd still say the relationship was good.

That said, so glad my current one isn't long-distance.

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I've only seen one, fully functioning, long distance relationship. One person lives in Australia, the other in California. They manage it by talking over web-cam every night for an hour or so, and a few times a year one of them visits the other for a month straight.

They've managed that for 3 years now, and are about to move in together.

Other than them, every long distance relationship I've seen has not ended well. There was plenty of drama, temptation, and uncertainty. Even with those absent, it is quite easy for feelings to deteriorate in your partner's absence.

Never tried one.
Probably work out if I do, unless the other ....
yeah.

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It just didn't feel real, so it broke down within the month and i never tried it again.

My previous roommate's relationship went long distance when her boyfriend went to the US to get his Master's. I think certain things make this work for them:

-They are a very close couple and skype at least an hour each day
-They know when they next time they will see each other is (eg. Christmas break)
-Their relationship was already serious when it went long distance
-And they know it is a temporary state and more than that have a fairly good idea of how long they will have to wait until it is no longer long distance

Realistically, it seems to me that people often choose work/school/other things over relationships. For example, a girl goes to her dream university instead of going to the university her boyfriend chose. From what I've heard, this is usually for the best, because if the relationship ends the person who sacrificed is left hanging.

Mind you, for a couple in a committed relationship, I believe long distance can work for a certain period of time, but not indefinitely. As others have said, at some point you have to choose.

Of course, I've never been in a long distance relationship myself, so you can take this all with a pinch of salt...

Tried one briefly, obviously it didn't work, but I suspect its end was more due to the relationship's natural course than the extra difficulties.

Honestly, as an absurdly self-absorbed person, I tend to look for people who can either match my self-absorption or are rigorously independent enough not to need a constant connection with me to begin with. My relationships have admittedly been fewer than most (it's just not a priority), but even when I have them it's just... well, still not a priority. That lends itself to the long-distance thing pretty well. Even when we lived in the same city, we'd see each other about once a week and only talk a couple of times in-between. It was mostly about logistics, too. I'm probably less nervous about fidelity than the average person too, but maybe I'm just desensitized by the commonality of the theme in literary fiction.

All that said, things just ran their course. We would have grown apart even if it wasn't a long distance thing, and neither of us seemed to care enough to keep things going, so it was just an amicable separation.

So, in principle, I think the long distance thing stands a chance of working given the right parameters. However, I think it's probably safe to say that for an average couple, who are neither too attached nor too aloof, it's just an exercise in futility.

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never tried it but so far from what I keep hearing, it simply won't work >.>.

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never tried it, but i think it simply wont work >.<.....

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My previous roommate's relationship went long distance when her boyfriend went to the US to get his Master's. I think certain things make this work for them:

-They are a very close couple and skype at least an hour each day
-They know when they next time they will see each other is (eg. Christmas break)
-Their relationship was already serious when it went long distance
-And they know it is a temporary state and more than that have a fairly good idea of how long they will have to wait until it is no longer long distance

I have never tried one, but I think these are very important factors.

I've never been good when it comes to keeping in touch with someone, especially when they're so far away. Sadly, this was actually the reason for my first break-up as well 🙁

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