I only use lesser(?) ones like damn and very rarely sh*t. I just don't like cuss words, and I'm very annoyed by people who pops one out very 10 seconds. Really, why use it when there is no need to?

when it's necessary to cuss, i'd be glad to cuss anybody off 🙂 but usually i'm freindly...you don't wanna piss me off 🙂

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It doesn't really make much sense to not cuss to not offend people, becuase if nobaody said shit people would be offended by damm. If nobody said damm, people would be offended by heck. If nobody said heck it would be back to the 19th century when using slang was frownd on. Things like " that book was a real smasher".

Swearing can be very fun and releasing. Thats reason enough to use it.

Sofar nobody has ever told be a decent reason to be offended by swear words.

For example. Somebody says fuck. Whats offensiv about that? Its just a different word for sexual intercourse. And there is nothing wrong with sexual intercourse, almost everybody on this planet does it sometime or the other.

i agree with bully_jesus.

to zubz313: i see your point... haha, actually, i learned cussing through internet chatrooms... and the thing was, i wasn't really attracted to it in high school. i would say it a few times out loud... but i would say them more often online to act, y'know: tough.

now, whenever in real life, the time called for it, i did cuss.. and people were shocked... because they've never heard me say it... and on top of that, i sounded quite comfortable saying the words. so, it basically emphasized how angry i was.

in college, i still don't cuss much... and actually, i have quite a few friends who are offended by offensive language. but, i always argue... what's the point in being offended? i understand that there really isn't any gain to cussing, as it will offend others (maybe)... but should i really censor myself just because a few people feel that they are offended by that? i'm looking at it from a different perspective:

what is there to gain by feeling offended each time someone else cusses? isn't that magnifying the effect of cuss words? in the end, you're only hurting yourself... by reacting to those specific words.

then again, there's the argument about how in a debate, if you can't bring up points and just cuss, I agree that that's completely stupid... and shows your inability to reason. But, in any other situation, i don't think that cussing is necessarily bad. ^_^

-Max

You make a pretty good point about magnifying the cuss word. My only contention with such an outlook is that it almost seems that we need to desensitize ourselves to foul language. I don't think that you need to alert the national media every time you hear a cuss word but at the same time you can't ignore it.

I am curious tho, you mentioned that "whenever in real life, the time called for it, i did cuss..." When do you think that cussing is appropriate?

I thought of an example for good use of cuss words.
Movie and Theater.

Very easy situation: Friend of Somebody gets shot. This is an extrem situation and i think its completly insane to alow somebody to be shot on film but then sensor it when he says shit. Where is the comparisson? It's more offending to say shit than kill people on screen?

another one: comedy, stand up comedy without cussing doesn't mean its bad. But swear words can be used in a very funny way.

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another one: comedy, stand up comedy without cussing doesn't mean its bad. But swear words can be used in a very funny way.

Such as the "F word" word history?

http://youtube.com/watch?v=4rX7-R54-Q8&mode=related&search=

THIS LINK USES THE F WORD A LOT. IT IS USED FOR ENTERTAINMENT. Do not take it seriously

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Occasionally. I simply do not cuss unless the situation calls for it or I find nothing else to say. So many times I can go days, or even weeks between them, but sooner or later I do cuss again and thus I can't vote no.

Heck no I don't. All else aside, cussing makes you sound like a moron. (It's not funny, it's annoying.)

There are plenty of other suitable words to use in the english language, and most others for that matter.

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I am curious tho, you mentioned that "whenever in real life, the time called for it, i did cuss..." When do you think that cussing is appropriate?

I think that cussing is appropriate whenever you very much want to emphasize your anger or fears. Although the times for that should be rare, I don't believe anyone can be viewed as an idiot for spewing the worst possible words he can.

Examples:
A person slams his fingers in a car door and cusses out loud. I... wouldn't blame him. I think that it would be on the same level as any other word he could've said, but I would sympathize with him more because I could feel the anger and pain because of his verbalization of a cuss word (or even a string of cuss words)... but I probably wouldn't have such a huge reaction if he were just like, "Ow." I think this is an acceptable situation for cussing out of pain.

Or, if a person were about to be hit by a car... and he realizes it... or in other cases... where he might be out in a mountainous area... where he just realized he's cooking steak in the middle of wolf territory (^_^).. or if for example, you turn around, and you see a tornado heading toward you... and you start freaking out. I think those may be acceptable situations for cussing out of fear.

If a person gets angry to the extent of really... wanting to be left alone... or being frustrated to a certain point, that should be fine. Like, if a bunch of (I hate to say this) kids were harassing a loner kid, if the kid showed his anger instead of acting timid, he probably wouldn't get picked on as much. 😔 Hmm... wait no, maybe this isn't the best situation to cuss in... or to learn to cuss... but, I think that if there were people doing it at this specific time out of anger, I would find it acceptable.

Ahh... don't get me wrong. I do agree with you that maybe we shouldn't develop these bad habits. (Something inside of me looks at that last scenario and finds something terribly wrong with it.) But, I do have the sense that above all else, we shouldn't censor ourselves in the least bit. Even if it's for something as vulgar as these cuss words.

-Max

I'm glad that you agree with me that we don't want to develop those bad habits. But unfortunately for you and me and I'm sure the vast majority of at least Americans have already developed these habits. The question is if you really believe swearing is a problem what can you do to change this. Here check this out let me know what you think:

Words -> Thoughts -> Emotions -> Actions -> Habits -> Character.

If you do a self evaluation of ones character and you find something you don't like. How do you change it? Well as the chart would imply change your habits. How do you change your habits? Change your actions. Then Change your emotions. Change your thoughts. And finally change what kind of words you surround yourself with.

In your scenarios which I think are really tip top examples of where swearing is over looked, I find that the words we use in any situation tells us something about that person. Let's take your example of the guy who slams the car door on his fingers. Justifiably he is angry and in pain. Although he could shout the alphabet of cuss words there are definitely other ways he could have reacted. What if instead he grabed his fingers and said ouch, and said he was just a cluts? Don't get me wrong that is just one way he could of reacted out of many I'm sure. But I would say this situation reveals the character of a person who is so self controlled and disciplined that even in the midst of pain he didn't loose himself and give into his emotions.

I like to cuss. It helps me put across the severity of the situation. I respect that people around me don't like it and if I know that they don't then I will watch my language out of respect but I feel that as my niece says " Sticks and Stones can breack your bones but words can never hurt you." So in short, put up with it.

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I like to cuss. It helps me put across the severity of the situation. I respect that people around me don't like it and if I know that they don't then I will watch my language out of respect but I feel that as my niece says " Sticks and Stones can breack your bones but words can never hurt you." So in short, put up with it.

I find your niece's saying to be quite interesting. How old is she if you don't mind me asking? I find the opposite to be quite true. Our words have a tremendous impact on our lives than I believe your niece realizes. Take for example your father telling you are an incredible disappointment to him. Now imagine that that same Father tells you that day after day. I don't think there would be disagreement when I say that this would have an incredible impact on a kid growing up. Or imagine a boyfriend that you loved for a long time saying that no one could ever love you. Words can hurt at a level that sticks and stones could never reach.

Like I kind of pointed at with my nifty Chart the words we surround ourselves with can make a huge impact on the person we become.

Words -> Thoughts -> Emotions -> Actions -> Habits -> Character.

By the way, you can never judge a stranger from a different cultur by his language. The rules of language etiket vary very strongly from region to region and class and profession.

Take for example your father telling you are an incredible disappointment to him.

this is a perfect example of words hurting that zubz313 stated.

Now interesting is this. There are no swear words. These words hurt not because of their meaning, but because of their meaning. People shouldn't care about what words are used but what they mean.

So for example, telling my brother he is a castrated, shit for brains moron is by far less hurtfull than saying this. I don't want you to come to my party tonight because you embaress me.

Words are there to convey things. Don'r judge the words, but the meaning.
In an extrem scenario: Even if hitler didn't cuss he was still a monster.

P.S. Words -> Thoughts -> Emotions -> Actions -> Habits -> Character.
How about this: every thing else -> then words -> then how other people percieve you
your chart sort of falls apart if you consider that a person that doesn't know a language. Animals that can't speak have different characters.

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"Sticks and Stones can breack your bones but words can never hurt you." So in short, put up with it.

I must say that I utterly hate that phrase 🤣 It is completely inaccurate. More than once, someone has said something to me that has scarred me emotionally and I know that I will never forget it. It's amazing what impact just a simple 9 words had on me. Less for some people, that can utterly shake their world. And the person who said it doesn't even know what they did to me.

Continuing...

Now, I'm all for cussing, but I can't deny the impact words have on people. Alice 19th is a good example of that. But I cuss anyway, sometimes without meaning to.

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