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It makes sense that you don't get it because you've never had to deal with it. That's why you don't understand how it is difficult for those that it is. Everyone is unique.

I wouldn't say unique. More like archetypes.

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My bad. That is something I take as given.
No, no, no.
I have been a teen too, so I am not one to excuse myself.
Not hard for me at all. Never was. A truism.

I fail to see what is so damn difficult about it.

I did say 'most'. I know that some have a natural confidence, but that's just not true of all.

It makes sense that you don't get it because you've never had to deal with it. That's why you don't understand how it is difficult for those that it is. Everyone is unique.

You're forgetting Mams is a ninja and they tend to be courageous...

When it comes to me I have a slight problem...when alcohol starts to work its wonders I tend to interpret pretty much every female's action as flirting.

As expected, more then often I am wrong.

If the sea were made of Whiskey and I was a duck
I'd swim to the bottom and never come up

Alcohol creates a whole different set of problems. It's easier to discuss this topic without getting the alcohol confusion involved. =)

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

Well, alcohol induced confidence is still confidence, kinda... 🤣

If the sea were made of Whiskey and I was a duck
I'd swim to the bottom and never come up

Anyone mentioned the common symptom of laughing at jokes you make that aren't funny? It should be more than "polite" laughter, of course.

Anyway, it's a preetty goood sign of interest.

This signature was recovered from Hades to serve in my rotting armies.

But alcohol-induced interest isn't necessarily interest, was more my point. =)

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

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But alcohol-induced interest isn't necessarily interest, was more my point. =)

I guess I got sidetracked with the lack of self-confidence in youth sub-topic. Thread is about recognizing signs of interests.

If the sea were made of Whiskey and I was a duck
I'd swim to the bottom and never come up

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But alcohol-induced interest isn't necessarily interest, was more my point. =)

I guess I got sidetracked with the lack of self-confidence in youth sub-topic. Thread is about recognizing signs of interests.

To me it's at the same level as teen romances.

Some tries to get attention by showing off or impressing
Some starts by befriending or getting close
Some argues or teases
Some tells straight to the face that "I like you" etc...
Some keeps silence and who the hell knows he/she likes you 😁
...

Well, human beings are complicated, and so are their feelings and ways of expressing. I think you can learn some info from the topic "How to show interests/ feelings in a girl/boy" ( not sure if there is such a topic here 😀 )

わたしはあくまで執事ですから,
Aku made shitsuji desukara

I'm a girl and whenever I have a crush on someone, I would tease, ignore (when I was angry at him), cuddle, and would always be available to hang out with him. ^^;

ask. if they say yes then they are interested. if they say no then they ether dont like you are to scared to ever admit it so you might as well move on with your life and stop worring about it. 😀

Irish+French= Drunken painter?

Personally I am super-oblivious, short of being deliberatley hit on.I don't pick up on the subtle things.
It's hard to tell sometimes because I get treated like the little sister of my group; people play-tease me and show off to me normally. If someone did that to get my attention, it wouldn't work at all (I think I am too old for that sort of thing now)

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Even if a guy is talking to you, isn't he just being nice?

Gah, I've had this problem for a long time as well. I've always had a lot of male friends but was never interested in acquiring a boyfriend. As a result, whenever I would meet a new guy it never occurred to me to think that maybe he was talking to me because he thought I was cute, or somesuch. Eventually he would end up giving me little gifts, and we'd hang out a lot, and before I knew it he would be giving me the "I really like you..." speech and I would always be thinking, "Huh? Where did this come from?". For you see, at some point (around 14 years old) guys and girls can't just be friends anymore, now they have to be friendsfriends. Unless you're me and you just totally skipped that stage because you didn't give a damn.

But anyway, I think gift-giving is the red flag: you can tell when a guy likes you if he starts giving you little things, be it burned CDs ("I remembered that you said you like thus-and-such band, so I thought you would also like these guys and I made these for you...") or snacks ("These were on sale at the grocery store and I knew you liked them...") or whatever. Once you start receiving gifties you should proceed with caution. 'Cause after that he'll probably start asking you if you'd like to hang out with just him.

If some random guy walks up and starts off with the pick-up lines, then he isn't interested in you: he just wants to get in your pants. Kick him in the balls.

lol I love this topic. Easy solution if you're too shy to ask point blank: Ask them out on a non-date (Friends that go out to see a movie for example). If they say no or make up some lame excuse, then you know.

Thing is, never ask point blank (Are ya into me?) You can frighten a person that way.

Signs of possible like -

If the person is always staring.
Do they tend to stand close and invade personal space.
Do they try to touch your hair or arms.
If you speak to the person, do they tend to get suddenly shy or blush.
When they speak, is it a soft tone.
Do they act cautious.

These are all signs someone might be crushing on you. It doesn't matter if they are a man or woman. Both sexes have the same flirting styles. I speak from experience. I've been hit on by enough men and women to know.

Some people seem obvious about it, some don't. Some seem obvious without being interested. Sometimes you just see what you want to see. Just ask!

I'll hug your problems away.