What It Means to Be You

Description

The refined Princess Violet is set to marry Winter, a nobleman’s illegitimate (and hot-tempered) son, to clear her family’s debt. For her, it’s love at first sight, but the marriage plunges into disaster as her family’s royal status becomes null and void and she’s branded a swindler. Three years into this nightmare, the ex-princess decides to end it all...only to wake up in Winter’s body instead! Puzzled by the sudden body swap and unable to rely on others, will the two finally see eye-to-eye?

Original Webtoon:
KakaoPage, Daum

Official Translations:
English, S.Chinese, T.Chinese, Indonesian, Japanese, Thai

Type

Manhwa

Related Series

What It Means to Be You (Novel) (Adapted From)

Associated Names

Anlamana Yardımcı Olmak İçin

Arti Menjadi Dirimu

Dangsinui Ihaereul Dopgi Wihayeo

Hãy để chúng ta hiểu nhau hơn

Lo que significa ser tú

Sen Olmak Nasıl Bir Şey

To Help You Understand

Vivre dans ta peau

Để ta hiểu nhau hơn

Для того, чтобы помочь тебе понять

เพราะอยากให้คุณเข้าใจ

あなたの心がわかるように

为了明白你的心

為了幫助你理解

당신의 이해를 돕기 위하여

Groups Scanlating

Momo is a Peach

Sunny Side Up Scans

Tapas

Latest Release(s)

c.32-40 by Sunny Side Up Scans 4 years ago

c.27-31 by Sunny Side Up Scans 4 years ago

c.26 by Sunny Side Up Scans 4 years ago

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Status in Country of Origin

165 Chapters (Complete)

S1: 67 Chapters (1~67)
S2: 85 Chapters (68~152)
SS: 10 Chapters (153~162)
SSS: 3 Chapters (163~165)

Completely Scanlated?

Yes

Anime Start/End Chapter

N/A

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User Rating

Average: 7.5 / 10.0 (152 votes)

Bayesian Average: 7.3 / 10.0

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Last Updated

February 10th, 2025 6:00am PST - 3 months ago

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Genre

Drama Fantasy Josei Psychological Romance
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Category Recommendations

What It Means to Be You (Novel)

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Recommendations

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Author(s)

Artist(s)

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Original Publisher

Serialized In (magazine)

Kakaopage (Kakao)

Kakao Webtoon (Daum)

Licensed (in English)

Yes

English Publisher

Radish (Expired)

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Activity Stats (vs. other series)

Weekly Pos #635

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Monthly Pos #1075

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3 Month Pos #1405

(-195)

6 Month Pos #1217

(+412)

Year Pos #847

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On 230 wish lists

On 198 completed lists

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Toxic

by Eluinn
1 year ago

Rating: 6.0 / 10.0

Dropped at chapter 45. Heavy angst and a very toxic relationship. Plus pretty hard on the psychological trauma. Not my cup of tea, but I did think the art was decent. If you're into this type of plot, give it a shot.

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Not for me

by Snoopy219
1 year ago

Rating: 4.0 / 10.0

Surprised at all the positive comments ,,, I was wishing for her to rather die than end up with him.

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At some point, I just wish for a happy ending

by boggleboggle29
3 years ago

Rating: N/A

To be honest, this story can be very frustrating to read when the leads don’t communicate and conclude that if one wasn’t here, the other would be happier. A lot of sensitive themes as well. Normally I would have drop it but I genuinely felt so bad for the fl that sometimes I wished I could comfort her. That was how into the story I was when I read it, I never felt so much emotions when reading a manhwa. Neglect can seriously change a person if its very bad.

The ml on the other hand is kinda ass like how is he not getting it even after so long that what fl wants isn’t Money but for him to be by his side?? He doesn’t get it and he only regrets it after rashly saying hurtful words to the fl. How is this guy even the ml?? At this point, I’m guessing the author will offer us a redemption arc which explains why does he act the way he does and blah blah. The reason why I’m reading this is because I’m rooting for a happy ending the fl deserves

In short, if u hate miscommunication themes and are uncomfortable with sensitive themes, don’t read this. However, if u r ok give it a try. Prepare to shed some tears here and there

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Emotionally draining

by SeesARead
3 years ago

Rating: 10.0 / 10.0

This manga is no doubt very exhausting to read, but it is absolutely a page turner. I found myself crying and just feeling so heartbroken for the FL every chapter for the first half of season 1. I think the author does an amazing job at depicting on how neglect can absolutely shut down such a bright person. Although I can't completely empathize with ML, I understand that he's very much so broken and is fighting with his own demons. So I cant like him but I also don't hate him. I hope the author continues to shed light onto the ML's side of the story, not as a way of redemption but simply because he deserves a chance to be better understood and not just judged upon first impression.

**Thoughts after sifting through comments:
I think those that keep commenting that all these misunderstandings would be resolved of the two leads would just sit down and honestly talk are missing the entire point. Yes, the conversations might help push the relationship forward a bit for a short time period. But the problems between the leads are obviously very deep rooted and entangled that it will take more than a few candid conversations to heal.

... Last updated 3 years ago

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it’s….

by RayTheBest
3 years ago

Rating: 8.0 / 10.0

Okay, I like this. It’s sad, but that’s also the reason why I temporarily stopped reading this. I’ve no problem with the end of the season (the FL became happy finally), but the next season? No no no no no. FL’s already happy, and now the ML’s sad. GOSH CAN THEY JUST COMMUNICATE? The ML can’t tell the truth, but the FL easily believes the lie even though it’s obvious that it’s a lie. This is so stupid, the first season FL was the one who went through that situation. Now the next season is the ML going through the same situation as the FL in the last season, but the FL doesn’t notice even if it’s that obvious. It’s driving me crazy. So I stopped reading this, hopefully temporarily.

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I liked this at first, but I'm not a fan of where this story is going

by Daedalus679
3 years ago

Rating: N/A

I liked the idea at first and the story was interesting, but Winter is just too much of a dick for me to like. Violet has faults but some of the things that happens to her are just too much. I want these two to divorce and go their separate ways but the story seems to be trying to pair them up. I really don't like this because again, Winter is a dick and just finds different ways to be either apathetic, angry or possessive and doesn't listen to Violet. The body swapping is interesting and tragic but the ideas and promising beginning for me aren't enough for me to keep going.

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TW TW TW TW TW

by SureinDragon
4 years ago

Rating: N/A

Rating: ---
Time of Review: Chapter 56 (Fan TL)
Favorite Aspect: Honestly the pacing is pretty good, surprisingly.

As a heads up, while I know it's plastered on some of the early pages this series should just have a huge suicide / death / abuse warning on like almost every chapter. It is not really a light read and can get pretty upsetting, even though it is pretty dramatized. With that out of the way...

I don't... I don't even know where to start with this webcomic? I can't even give it a rating, it's hard to definitively call it good or bad. The flow and pacing of the story is surprisingly good, even if many of the plot points are over-dramatic and blown up for the point of the story. I have genuine sympathy for the main character, and I feel the reason I keep reading is so that she can hopefully, hopefully, get the happy ending she deserves. Without her absolutely terrible husband, preferably.

Let me tell you, I've read a lot of webcomics with emotionally stunted male lead, but this dude takes the CAKE. His problem from the get go is that he doesn't listen and 56 chapters in, despite the minuscule amount of progress is made he still doesn't listen. I'm genuinely sick of this dude, but I'm not down with what he's attempting at this point in the comic either. Get a therapist, dude! Lord knows you have the money. Actually, instead of swapping bodies for him to understand Violets feelings, more people just need to throw his money back in his face! That's one of the biggest contributors to his actions, and no one in the story except for violet turns down his money, which is unreasonable.

If you want a good body-swap story, don't read this. If you want an okay drama and a woman's struggle to survive abuse and (hopefully) come out on top? Maybe give it a try.

You Might Also Like: I honestly have not read any other webcomics quite like this

... Last updated 4 years ago

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What's this stupidest Manhua

by HyperCaster
4 years ago

Rating: 2.0 / 10.0

Just by reading I got an ulcer.
The Baka couple are invigorating one is money hungry and other one is self pity princess.

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Great idea but terrible execution

by nausicaa70
4 years ago

Rating: 4.0 / 10.0

This had potential but it didn’t live up to my expectations.
The characters are awful, especially the male lead. He’s not the cold/serious type, in fact he’s the complete opposite : so hotheaded, impulsive and inconsiderate of others. I really despise him, and I have no idea how he managed to become so successful in his businesses with such an immature behavior.
The female lead is a bit more lovable, I understand why she became so passive and such a pushover, and how she has interiorized all her pain. However, she seems to be an idiot.

Why didn’t you try to ask for a divorce sooner? And when you understood that killing yourself would only result in a body swap, why not return to the mansion to run away with your own body?? Her actions dont make any sense.

The storytelling is lacking, the characters are either brash or rash, and the miscommunication is level 100000000. All in all it’s quite tiring to read.

It’s a pity though because it really had a lot of potential. The difference in their upbringings, their different perspectives on their realities, and their complementary personalities were setting up a really engaging and interesting story. I would have really enjoyed seeing them grow and change povs, acknowledging each other’s strengths and weaknesses, becoming more understanding of each other (their pain, their pasts, their needs, their values) and slowly becoming partners by helping each other out before falling in love...

Dropped at chapter 12

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Premise

by Baka_Fangirl
4 years ago

Rating: 8.0 / 10.0

The premise of this story is basically that the two main leads are so terrible at communicating with each other that they need to switch bodies in order to understand each other. Now when I say they are bad at communicating I mean this is probably one of the worst couples I’ve read about and I’ve read hundreds of romance manhwa and mangas. This woman literally threatens suicide and attempts it multiple times as well.

Normally I would drop such a story, but the plot is just enough to get me to want to read the entire things haha. So if your heart can take bad communication and literal torture at it’s expense I implore you to check it out haha. I for one am entertained for sure

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