Jealousy - What are your thoughts on the subject. (Talking about in relationships, not "oh that person has a great shoes, I'm jealous")

Everyone feels it? It's unnecessary? You would only feel that if you don't trust the person? Time when you felt jealous. (Just some questions to get the ball rolling in your thought process, left it as a sentence instead of points because I'd rather this not be a questionnaire type thing.)

I'll have to give my thoughts at a later time, since I would actually try to word this right to get my views across clearly.

-Sidenote: I couldn't find something talking about this ... maybe my search skills aren't great if there was already a thread on this topic.

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I felt rather often when I was younger. But it tuned down a lot since I started to work for what I want.

Now I am not the type to be jealous anymore. Some ppl have more others have less. And if they worked hard for it I would never be jealous. On the contrary I respect these ppl a lot! But it's true that if I see overpaid ppl like some managers, athlets or somebody along those lines it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

If its not jealousy about a thing but about a person, I think what its rather important. Like very good friends or your lover. It simply shows how much they mean to you. But well it's a fact that some ppl take it too far...

I feel it every once in a while, but I trust my boyfriend (or girlfriend) so I normally ignore it, unless it's blatant flirting in my face (which I have dealt with before). I feel like it's necessary for us, I feel like a little jealousy confirms the feelings we claim to have for said lover/spouse/whatever. Only a little, though. Too much and it's a problem, and either you need to grow up or you need to leave your spouse/partner/whatever.

That's just my view, though. Me and my current lover are very open and honest with each other. We'll look at pictures of hot guys and make our comments (ooh he's hot or wow, nice body) and we'll even talk about past flings and such with each other. He doesn't get all pissed off when I mention something, and I rarely feel jealousy when he shares stories.

Instead of reacting to it and flipping out I remind myself 1 that I can trust him 2 that he's not with them anymore, he's chosen me. We're both adults here, if we have a problem we can talk about it.

The only time I've given into jealousy was with an ex girlfriend of mine, she was a little too close to one of her male friends. It got to the point where she was constantly with him, sitting next to him, talking to him, and I was just the third wheel. I was jealous, yes. But I talk to her about it, let her know how I felt, and she apologized about it and said it wouldn't happen again.

Of course it did continue to happen. That jealousy turned to distrust - I ended up breaking up with her after a while of thinking about it.

Anyway, I think like pretty much everything, a little jealousy can be a good thing. Too much and there's a problem that needs to be fixed. Because if you can't trust your girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever then what's the point of being together?

I have never felt jealousy over a lover, I'm not possessive and I just let them do what what want, given that they'll be back in my arms.. They do own their Own life, so whoever they want to go out with, don't mind..

But, I will surely get pissed if someone is hitting on my lover even if he knew that we're dating,
(not that I experienced this before)..

And I think that I'm starting to know what being jealous over a lover feel(cause of some manga and movies), I think the feeling really sucks, hope I won't actually feel it..

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I get jealous over people who lead meaningful and enjoyable lives. I hate being that way, it's so petty, but I can't stop feeling like human trash when other people are genuinely happy. I don't have a lover, probably never will, so can't really comment on that. Then again, I don't know if I could ever really make another person happy, so I don't really have the will to be in a relationship.

I don't think I've ever been jealous of someone 😕 Not in the romantic context at least. I get jealous of other stuff lol

Other women have flirted/texted guys I've dated, but it has never bothered me. I'm just not possessive, don't have trust issues, and I know how to pick decent partners.

I think that jealousy is a natural feeling, but unnecessary.

Once you reach a certain point in your relationship, feeling jealous is a bad sign. Sure at the beginning of a relationship you could feel a bit jealous over the other people hanging around the one you're dating. Things are still new, and that complete trust level hasn't been reached yet. That's understandable, but after that honeymoon stage of dating has ended and thing start becoming more serious, you shouldn't feel jealous over anyone. If you do I think it just shows you don't trust your partner, and if there's no trust how can you have a stable relationship?
Why do I think feeling jealous over others means you don't trust your partner? What is the reason you are jealous? (Going to use a male as a boyfriend for an example here) Is it because he's giving other female attention? Why would that bother you? Because you think he may cheat? ( Heh there no trust in the guy).
Would you say "I trust him I just don't trust the woman" ? Well if you do trust that he wouldn't do anything, than why would it matter if the woman has bad intentions? There's no way he would cheat just because some random stranger wanted him to.
It's not some random person, but a close friend. Ok, in this case you are thinking either he has feelings for his friend, and is lying to you about his feelings. Or he doesn't realize he has feelings for her, and will "wake up" one day to those feelings. Either way this is showing you don't believe him when he says he you're the only one.

If everything is still fresh yeah sure okay, you can feel jealous, but if you are somewhat committed to each other (or more) it should only be a quick pang that passes by (or nothing at all). To me jealous is a red flag that the relationship isn't as stable as you may think.
If you trust your partner you shouldn't get jealous. (or for a long period of time).

I also don't lump together possessiveness and jealousy. I think it's a good thing to want to desire someone completely. To want to monopolize them. I could see how the two can go hand and hand, but wanting the person all to yourself doesn't mean you'll get jealous if someone else interacts with your partner.

-Sidenote: hmmm I feel like I just said a whole bunch of common knowledge ...

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