i have bad luck when it comes to kissing, i never know the right way to do it. usually it ends up as a dissapointment.
it sorta happened again last night,, and i have that momment stuck in my head, wondering how do i pull it off?!!!
so i make this poll to see what the majority think.

why because i am the president of the student council of course

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I have no idea what to do either. I've never kissed anyone or even been in a situation where I was almost kissed

Tell you the truth, it's hard to read the moments but if you definitely feel the atmosphere I'd say take the initiative and go for it. It's usually whoever strikes first, otherwise your left staring at each other and the moment is lost.

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I have no idea what to do either. I've never kissed anyone or even been in a situation where I was almost kissed

your very young, its nothing to worry about

i just suggest young folks to try to experience kissing and relationships as much as possible while they can, that way when they get a little older they can at least know how to handle a relationship

why because i am the president of the student council of course

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"Moment of heat." LOL 🤣

I suggest going in for a forehead kiss before a kiss on the lips, or any other kind of kiss around the face/neck. It really depends on what you're going for >.> And if you screw up the first time, just kiss them again.

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I tend to get kissed more often. First I usually get cuddled.
If I initiate one, it's normally spontanious and random. Why bother waiting 'for the mood'? 🤣

What does it matter who goes in for the kiss, the girl or the boy? Either party can, and should feel comfortable doing so. (Presuming that they're not both girls or both boys, lol, in which case it doesn't matter anyway. I mean it shouldn't matter anyway.)

I'm usually the kisser... And I've often found that a small physical gesture, such as placing a gentle hand on the arm or waist and then leaning closer, can do the trick and "forewarn" (in a good way lol) the other party that a kiss is forthcoming. 😃 A few long seconds of romantic "looking into his/her eyes" can also serve as a good signal, as can tenderly brushing the other person's hair aside or cupping their chin (this is less usual if you're going in for a first kiss, since it's a more assertive/aggressive gesture to actually hold someone's jaw). You generally want to move slowly the first time you're kissing someone, to give them some room to draw away if they want to, without causing either of you too much awkwardness/offense.

Just don't stick your tongue down someone's throat on your very first kiss with them, at least not if you're even remotely serious about them lol. That's just not on. Save the frenching for later. 😀 Like maybe the second/third kisses at the soonest, or maybe even later if they (or you) are less experienced. Kissing is something in which haste makes waste - trust me. It's better to be "slow and steady" and win the race rather than freaking them out right off the bat with an overly aggressive move. (That's only on a first kiss with them of course - you can go in for aggressive/heated pashing later on.)

Edit: Oh yeah, and don't make the "fish face" if you're waiting to be kissed or are going in for it. Lol it looks ridiculous. Either do it or pull away, but don't just stand there waiting with that silly look on your face! 🤣

Edit #2 @Terpsichore: I agree that "random" kissing can increase a basic kiss-count, but if someone wants high-quality memorable kisses, then atmosphere and approach do count. It's kind of like the difference between a random snack food and a connoisseur's feast... 🙂 Feeling, emotion and care always pay off no matter what you do, esp. in matters of intimacy or with people you actually care about. Establishing the mood means you will have a first kiss with someone that is really memorable and that you will look back on with gladness and sweetness, even after years have passed. <3

Personally I like self-assured guys who would go for it. I hate guys without any guts.

I'll hug your problems away.

I honestly don't know. O_O.
Maybe cuddle or something first to let them know...or at least make them sense what you wanna do. >_____>

I am prolly the only one liking proactive gals. D:

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I am prolly the only one liking proactive gals. D:

No, you're not 🤣

I also like girls who go for it, too bad too few of them are actually like this. Most of them expect the guy to do all the work =P

In fact I'm quite suspicious that 90% of the guys wouldn't mind if the girl took the initiative

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Personally I like self-assured guys who would go for it. I hate guys without any guts.

Yeah, cause it's really easy to approach a girl, initiate conversation, flirt, don't mess up, realize the girl wouldn't slap you or kick you in the nuts when the girl don't give any obvious hint(we're not psychics, we can't read minds, we don't get subtle hints) and then go for it

reaaaaaaaaaally easy -.-

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I honestly don't know. O_O.
Maybe cuddle or something first to let them know...or at least make them sense what you wanna do. >_____>

I'm assuming you're a girl from your post, forgive me if I'm wrong.

as I said above, we don't get hints usually, so the "make them sense" part doesn't usually work if you're trying to be subtle, cuddling on the other hand, unless you've know the person for a few years, is like an open invitation imho

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Personally I like self-assured guys who would go for it. I hate guys without any guts.

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Yeah, cause it's really easy to approach a girl, initiate conversation, flirt, don't mess up, realize the girl wouldn't slap you or kick you in the nuts when the girl don't give any obvious hint(we're not psychics, we can't read minds, we don't get subtle hints) and then go for it

reaaaaaaaaaally easy -.-

So you just don't have the guts. Besides, ITT we are having a situation where it is obvious to both they want to kiss, as stated in the poll.

(To mods: sorry about double posting, I don't know how I managed to do that...)

I'll hug your problems away.

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Personally I like self-assured guys who would go for it. I hate guys without any guts.

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Yeah, cause it's really easy to approach a girl, initiate conversation, flirt, don't mess up, realize the girl wouldn't slap you or kick you in the nuts when the girl don't give any obvious hint(we're not psychics, we can't read minds, we don't get subtle hints) and then go for it

reaaaaaaaaaally easy -.-

So you just don't have the guts. Besides, ITT we are having a situation where it is obvious to both they want to kiss, as stated in the poll.

(To mods: sorry about double posting, I don't know how I managed to do that...)

Truth be told I missed the poll question, just read the topic title and the poll alternatives, so I didn't read the "moment of the heat" part

And yeah, it's as simple as having the guts or not having the guts -.-
You try having the guts sometime to see how fun and easy it is -.-

Seriously, it's because of mindsets like yours that men everywhere suffer in flirting situations, it wouldn't frigging hurt to make the move sometimes!

The girls are usually on the "not interested side" so the most they worry is "damn, I had to diss 6 guys today", which is a bother, but yeah, usually bothersome at most.

Guys on the other hand are on the active side, so while you had to tell a 6 guys to back off, there's some guy out there that was turned down by 6 girls, so tell me? which is worse, turning down 6 persons or getting turn down by 6?

think about it next time you complain about a guy not having the guts -.-

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Personally I like self-assured guys who would go for it. I hate guys without any guts.

Quote from Pedro Boh

Yeah, cause it's really easy to approach a girl, initiate conversation, flirt, don't mess up, realize the girl wouldn't slap you or kick you in the nuts when the girl don't give any obvious hint(we're not psychics, we can't read minds, we don't get subtle hints) and then go for it

reaaaaaaaaaally easy -.-

So you just don't have the guts. Besides, ITT we are having a situation where it is obvious to both they want to kiss, as stated in the poll.

(To mods: sorry about double posting, I don't know how I managed to do that...)

Truth be told I missed the poll question, just read the topic title and the poll alternatives, so I didn't read the "moment of the heat" part

And yeah, it's as simple as having the guts or not having the guts -.-
You try having the guts sometime to see how fun and easy it is -.-

Seriously, it's because of mindsets like yours that men everywhere suffer in flirting situations, it wouldn't frigging hurt to make the move sometimes!

The girls are usually on the "not interested side" so the most they worry is "damn, I had to diss 6 guys today", which is a bother, but yeah, usually bothersome at most.

Guys on the other hand are on the active side, so while you had to tell a 6 guys to back off, there's some guy out there that was turned down by 6 girls, so tell me? which is worse, turning down 6 persons or getting turn down by 6?

think about it next time you complain about a guy not having the guts -.-

No, YOU stop complaining about my personal preferences. I have every right to like the type of men I like. Also I am ready to be the one "with the guts" if necessary, nothing wrong with girls making the moves, but as I said I prefer when guys do it. I didn't say that everything else is wrong, stupid etc. I have merely provided my opinion, I have not complained "why won't any guys take control of the situation". Besides if you get turned down, tough luck, happens to everyone, also to those women who go for it!

I'll hug your problems away.

Anyways... 🤣

I was hanging out with my then friend, now boyfriend one time. He asked if he could kiss me, and before I could answer - he went for it. It was nice and quite memorable.

I don't think it matters who initiates it or when to do it. When it feels right, it just does.