Ehhh, I'm a guy and many of my friends just do it for sex and happiness, and the moment they break up with someone, they somehow quickly move on... and next week, they have another girlfriend. I know I'm using my friends as a biased example, but that's the only thing I can refer to from my point of view. I personally hate that approach... though I thought it was laughable when a guy was (and i dont mean this badly by any means) saying when your with with a girl, what you do is you get in bed with her, do them, then leave... and in my opinion this guy was 'ugly', so it was funny for me hearing this from him...

So conclude all this, I guess (and really hope) I'm not like that, but instincts overide thought sometimes, but I do try to make a point to think about someone else other then me... that always goes badly though xD Well, that's my point of view, if some of you can understand it xD

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Rubbish. You exist solely (and so do I) to pass on our genes to the next generation. Survival of the fittest, and only the fittest get to propagate their genes.

kawaiiusaghichan, thank you for being one of few people who understand what survival of the fittest refers to. I am sick and tired whenever I hear that only the strongest will survive.

Thanks, I'm a proud biology major, and loving it. 🙂

Well, just by reading 1 shoujo or yaoi we can already tell...

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All women are not gold-digging beyotches, and all men aren't horny douchebags! Jeezus. 😮

Well I sure as hell am.

Last year I took a seminar on communication and learned a lot about meta-communication.
This is a form of communicating about what your actions are supposed to mean, what it is you want to tell or show or hint at and why you do this.
I often do this with my partner when I am under the impression that he misunderstood me or I might have misunderstood him.
It is very fascinating and scary, how different another person might interpret what you just did or said.

I think, these stereotypes are a product of not talking to each other. Or rather, not explaining what we want and need and mean in a way that the other person understands. This is very difficult sometimes because we people function differently and one has to try to understand the other persons take on life.

At the end, I don't think women and men have very different ideas about a good, long lasting relationship. At least the men I talked to made very clear what they wanted and disliked and I, as a woman, thought the same way.

(yeah, some people like short, hot, shallow relationships and others like to bond for life. but that applies to both men and women and is a taste, not a gender specific atribute. i think.)

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About cheating men DO cheat more than women, why? We are horny bastards, and that's a fact confirmed by science; When a man cheats it is almost never related to loving or not his partner, men cheat because they want to reproduce, and for reproducing any healthy woman will do. So, for men, cheating doesn't mean not loving, if he cheats but stay with the girl he cheated on it means he likes her more than the girl he fucked and forgot about.

Sorry but i had to quote ya! Now i don't think men cheat more than women however i do think younder men cheat more than younger women.
A mans genetical sexual peek is when he reaches the age of 19 and a womens peek is when she reaches the age of 30. You wan't to also hear an interesting statistic aswell. Over 60% of women who cheat don't get caught.
SO i ask you this question! How do you know more "men" cheat? 😀

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Well, just by reading 1 shoujo or yaoi we can already tell...

What about my hentai?
Men aren't the only people who read it, you know.

Ultimately, in any adult relationship, both partners want sex, regardless of whether men want it more or not. Beyond that depends on how serious the couple are about their relationship - some want a good time with no strings attatched, and others want respect, long term happiness, love, and some couples want other things depending on who they are.

I guess it does depend on the person. A lot of guys I know(including my boyfriend) seem to share the same idea of wanting to date exclusively and saving sex for a "special" time with that "special" someone. Granted, all of these guys are virgins and most are currently single/have never had a girlfriend before. You just need to find the right type of guy ;D

Values-wise, my boyfriend & I are basically the same. Take things slow, etc. He was the one to say "I'm not planning on having sex with you for at least 6 months, and even that I feel is too early." Am I lucky? I hope so.

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yes, because of a variety of factors like age, social expectations, family values, etc...

essentially everyone's got a different sense of what a relationship is supposed to be like because of those factors. the standards expected of men in the relationship are well-established to generally be patriarchal and obviously-masculine, regardless of the ethnicity or culture, since the beginning of human civilization. vice versa would be the role of women. these inherent standards define the traditional terms of a relationship as to the role of each partner.

the next facet of the gender perspective depends on the factors aforementioned. those factors serve to truly give the twist to each relationship - younger man and older woman, liberal male and religious female, etc...

hence, yes. men and women DO have different ideas about relationships. and thank cosmo we do. how dull would things be if everything is so agreeable...

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If you were to generalize men and women into their stereotypical roles today then yes. If you are talking about romantic relationships I generally think women want an emotional connection as opposed to a physcial connection which is what the stereotype of men want. However, stereotypes are more guidelines than not, and there are always exceptions to rules/guidelines. There is no definite yes or no, if you wanted that you should asked a specific question for a specific answer. There is definitely different ideas about relationships that men and women have, similar and different. When it comes to relationships between the same sex (sisters, friends, mother/daughter, father/son, brothers, etc. etc.) The line between those ideas are drawn more distinctly, and I think the intimacy in those relationships are created by the sense of similarity a woman and woman or a man and a man share because they don't have to give a part of themselves to the other person for understanding to be met for physical, emotional and sometimes mental issues/feelings. Romantic relationships are different in the approach because the two people in a relationship would want something other than acceptance- perhaps sex, true love, physical and emotion intimacy. Ideas between men and women concerning relationships are different if they were raised in an enviroment where stereotypical ideas about significant others are taught or shown by the parents or just other important people. We are social animals that take social clues from each other. If your parents or such were bad examples, you might follow suit or you might gain ideas from people who are better examples. I think the role models in relationships set the foundation for what a person would expect or have an idea about their future relationships.