I agree that it is a shame that guys seem to be more pressured about losing their virginity just because it is supposedly uncool to be a virgin. I never saw anything wrong with it, and it wouldn't be an issue with/for me.

I'm sure it has to do with the people that one surrounds himself/herself with as to how much of a stigma or shame someone might feel over still being a virgin. There's pressure from girls on girls too, though I can't say how it compares to pressure from guys on guys. It always seemed to me to be more of a pressure on guys than on girls, but perception doesn't mean it's reality.

I personally never had the problem of pressure concerning my virginity, because I had a very strong sense of self-conviction regarding what I would and would not do. I couldn't have cared one iota what my friends thought about it if they didn't agree, and they knew that about me. (I had the same attitude toward drugs, alcohol, etc.) And to be honest, they respected my convictions and the fact that I didn't let them sway my determination. Not everyone is as self-confident or determined, though.

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

I'll be honest... As a guy, I'll be lying if I say I don't think of sex. However, I find it more important to have sex with someone you truly love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe I'm a sap for the idea of finding your soul mate or whatnot, lol.

For boys it all starts with lust, then wen you know her better it turns into love...... i think.........

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I'm pretty much look for love, almost exclusively. 21, still a virgin and planning on holding on until I'm married. The problem is, most guys don't actually expect me to be able to pull that off and since I've had friends pressured into sex (or outright raped), I'm a little hesitant to date guys who so openly don't believe me...

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....I've done the one-night stand and friends with benefits thing, it wasn't bad, but sex with someone I deeply care about is far more satisfying.

I agree. Unless you have a certain liking for the act in general or are the one who falls in love easily (Hee haw)... the wholeness doesnt fall through...

..Love for me definitely...

..But I never felt the need to actually be hung up on "loss of virginity" or associating it with fireworks or acting as a nun, all this is overrated...romanticising and preserving it is a personal choice but I was not much for it...Rather, some experience saves the goof ups.. 😀 .. But always be careful...

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Lust most definitely, i don't have the patience to wait until i find someone i love to have sex with, who knows how long that would take. Besides, i don't consider sex to be so special that i need someone special to do it with anyway, feels great no matter who you do it with so i see no reason to not do it whenever possible with who ever i feel even the slightest bit attracted to who is willing (carefully of course, STD's and all that stuff is out there).

I will turn your name into a synonym for weakness