Different girls expect different things due to having different attitudes and beliefs. If you try to learn what girls in general want from you, you'll drive yourself crazy because of all the contradictory feedback you'll get. For example, alice00 advises to not tell "perverted" jokes to girls, and for some girls this is good advice because there is an element of society that pushes the idea that sexuality is bad. But, not all girls accept that prejudice, and some of them like "perverted" jokes. Humans are infinitely diverse.

What you can do is pay attention to human nature so that you can recognize what other people are feeling from their body language, facial expression, etc. Observe not just the girls you're interested in, but everyone you meet and even yourself. You can then either use this information to figure out what a specific girl wants and force yourself to behave according to her expectations or you can use it to find a girl that likes the real you and have a happy relationship. I recommend the latter.

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My problem isn't behaving like myself. My problem is that whenever I see - much less talk to - a pretty girl, my brain functions seem to slow down. Like I said, distracting. 🤢

Don't think of this as a disadvantage. If you like a girl, you don't want to your interactions with her to be just like talking to your best friend. It's not that you're "slowing down" or "not working right" in these situations, it's just that you're working differently.

Well don't just get quiet and alone with your thoughts because it'd just make things extremely awkward.
Keep the conversation flowing, but naturally... It's obvious when you're forcing yourself to make conversation. And yes, maintain eye contact but not too much because that can make the girl feel extremely self conscious too.

Well all women are different can you tell us about this specific girl?

I agree that you should be yourself, to a point. If you a jerk, please don't be one and instead become a decent human being.

I can not emphasize enough how important it is to learn to read social cues. It might be hard but it is something that you'll need in life.

Let's see signals that can be misread. *This is only applicable to me and women like me.

Just because I hug you, I am nice to you, I smile at you doesn't mean i want to sleep with you. Let me reiterate this does not necessarily mean anything.

I do not like when male (or female) friends make misogynistic or racist comments. I will reevaluate our relationship with a quickness.

I might enjoy a perverted jokes but I do not like them from my male friends.

Everyone is different, if you have a passive friend (i am passive/shy irl) do not be forceful with her about certain things. Please look at their facial expressions. Is their face tight, did their body become tense.

If you are a natural flirt and are charismatic that's cool but if the women looks uncomfortable put a trap on that okay.

"Don't for the love of pete be Mr. Bad Touch. If she just squirmed over a few inches, it's not because she wants you to close the distance." Because a couple of my male friends I no longer like to be touched by male friends. As I said I'm passive and I couldn't say anything. But I did break down a couple times over it.

I personally do not want to know you want to have sex with me, sorry not my thing. Hide that okay, hide it well.

Politeness isn't overrated okay.

Also, if you ask out someone don't expect for her to pay. Now some women are cool with this, i am not. Now if you are just meeting up it's okay but if not 😔 If you're going to do that, please tell them up front.

Now I know earlier i said be yourself. If you are going to date her/pursue a relationship with her you might need to change. Changing is a part of growing, we all do it. If you never change you have probably become stagnant in your life. Please be aware that some things that might fly for friends might not fly for a bf.

That said remember that there are women that are exactly opposite from me. Innapproriate jokes, touching, rudeness that is their thing.

Lastly I'm going to suggest to you that you read this essay. It's a bit long but I wish more men realized some things she laid out in her rant. If you don't want to read the whole thing at the very least press [ctrl + f] and put in "Here's a few other friendly tips, free of charge from me to you" Hhopefully these don't apply to you but knowledge is power.

anyway best of luck in your new friendships and romantic relationships(?)

While your advice - and the essay - are honestly very helpful, I'll repeat myself and say that there is no particular girl in my mind. I just want to know how to behave with girls so that they don't think I am a jerk - and I'm honestly not a jerk, just inexperienced and "closed off" emotionally, so to say. If its a single girl or a small group of girls in an environment I know - and thus can exert some control over - I'm confident, and can behave well enough. But if the number of girls is more than 3, iin an environment I cannot control, I lose my confidence.

I think I think too much 😛

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

If your texting with a girl, never reply with just 'K'

She will ignore you!!! 🙂

Also don't pick fights, and also don't agree with everything she says, its seriously annoying

Also never point out your faults, cause then you seem kinda lame and inexperienced,

never mention that you have 'lots of friends', she will think your being a big shot
don't mention that you have no friends, she will think your lame.

Don't get overexcited, she will think your younger then her,
oh and never mention if you are younger than her.

Thats my advice..
coming from a girl 🙂
(those are all points i hate about guys)

Oh and edit:
if you are with a group of girls, try not to talk to much, they will do the talking for you.

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I'm going to have to say... just don't do anything you wouldn't around large crowds.

Don't pick your ass.
Do not smell what you have picked if you do.
Try not to kill people.
And never jaywalk... ever.
It's the worst thing you can do.

I think those are words to live by.

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and I don't know you. Make sure it doesn't leave the building."[/color]

be normal, and think that the girl is a dude and voila no problem!

"I dont belive an eye for an eye, i belive in two eyes for an eye!"

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Try not to kill people.

This is the one I struggle with the most.

Also this thread is full of indirect sexism. There should be no difference when talking to a girl or a guy. If you think there is a difference then you are over thinking it. Don't alter your way of interacting with a person depending on their sex. You should, however, alter your way of interacting with somebody depending on their personality. There's a few people here saying don't make sex jokes, which is not entirely true. If a girl enjoys sex jokes, tell them. Girls can enjoy sex jokes you know. Just the same as there are guys out there who don't enjoy them.

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Try not to kill people.

This is the one I struggle with the most.

Also this thread is full of indirect sexism. There should be no difference when talking to a girl or a guy. If you think there is a difference then you are over thinking it. Don't alter your way of interacting with a person depending on their sex. You should, however, alter your way of interacting with somebody depending on their personality. There's a few people here saying don't make sex jokes, which is not entirely true. If a girl enjoys sex jokes, tell them. Girls can enjoy sex jokes you know. Just the same as there are guys out there who don't enjoy them.

This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

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While your advice - and the essay - are honestly very helpful, I'll repeat myself and say that there is no particular girl in my mind. I just want to know how to behave with girls so that they don't think I am a jerk - and I'm honestly not a jerk, just inexperienced and "closed off" emotionally, so to say. If its a single girl or a small group of girls in an environment I know - and thus can exert some control over - I'm confident, and can behave well enough. But if the number of girls is more than 3, iin an environment I cannot control, I lose my confidence.

I think I think too much 😛

Okay, well you said specific so i wasn't entirely sure. Maybe read up on confidence and do confidence building exercises? I think you should worry less about controlling the environment and just go with the flow.

I am extremely reserved so people write me off as stuck up sometimes but I'm just shy. So I can understand being misunderstood.

I forgot conversation and your confidence might be more stabilized around people with the same interest. Like you might feel less comfortable in class or a work meeting but if it's something that is your hobby or somewhere you're volunteering you might feel more confident and have an easier time interacting with women.

edit: i don't think it's that strange to lose a bit of confidence around an extremely attractive person. I know it's cliche but fake it til you make it I guess.

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This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

Oh yeah, the thread itself is not sexist, it's just the responses of "girls like/dislike such and such" are generalised and indirectly sexist. Like saying all guys like sports and punching things.

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This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

Oh yeah, the thread itself is not sexist, it's just the responses of "girls like/dislike such and such" are generalised and indirectly sexist. Like saying all guys like sports and punching things.

there are only two comments that say that mine and alice00. I explicity stated that what I said applied to me and women like me. So 🙄

also interesting that those are the statements that bothered you but mangacraze's blatantly sexist comment gets nary a mention from you. I'm just saying.

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This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

Oh yeah, the thread itself is not sexist, it's just the responses of "girls like/dislike such and such" are generalised and indirectly sexist. Like saying all guys like sports and punching things.

but mangacraze's blatantly sexist comment gets nary a mention from you. I'm just saying.

I believe that falls under... "girls like such and such."

[color=green]"Officially, this machine doesn't exist, you didn't get it from me,
and I don't know you. Make sure it doesn't leave the building."[/color]

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[quote=Casey D. Geek]This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

Oh yeah, the thread itself is not sexist, it's just the responses of "girls like/dislike such and such" are generalised and indirectly sexist. Like saying all guys like sports and punching things.

but mangacraze's blatantly sexist comment gets nary a mention from you. I'm just saying.

I believe that falls under... "girls like such and such."[/quote]
oops my mistake but really I'm going to haggar a guess that alice00 is speaking on behalf of people like her.

Also, Turbophoenix says that the thread is full of indirect sexism but the majority of the comments say women are different be yourself. 😕

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This thread is not sexist - it's about helping a guy who just discovered girls can be "pretty". 😀 Edit - and finds that he is uncomfortable around them.

Oh yeah, the thread itself is not sexist, it's just the responses of "girls like/dislike such and such" are generalised and indirectly sexist. Like saying all guys like sports and punching things.

there are only two comments that say that mine and alice00. I explicity stated that what I said applied to me and women like me. So 🙄

also interesting that those are the statements that bothered you but mangacraze's blatantly sexist comment gets nary a mention from you. I'm just saying.

I'm well aware you said it applied to girls like you, and I wasn't singling out anybody.

Rather ironic that I criticised generalisation, then proceeded to generalise the whole thread 🤣

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