This depends on the phase of life. I am at a stage where I want a serious committed relationship and whatever follows next.
A new relationship of mine has around three stages initially.
Getting out of the intervening bachelorette stage since my last relationship holds me back during 1st part of a relationship. Then I graduate to the clingy stage and I just have to phase it out before i go to the comfortable area where I know my man wont stray if I dont see him for a few days. Its the middle part that is annoying. 😔

I think wanting to meet someone is a matter of personal preference, what stage you are in life, priorities, age and gender too. It does not mean you like the other any less if you meet less times, every relationship is different anyway and this can't be generalised.

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the only guy i ever really loved ,liked my bestfriend.
but honestly i didnt care,it didnt matter if he liked me or not and i didnt feel like i had to see him every day...

and there was this time when a guy asked me out and i said yes...he expected me to agree on going out everyday or atleast every 2 days...i know its normal ,but
i really find this annoying.
i realise i have a very complicated personality...honestly i would rather stay home and read something or watch tv(lifeless)

i think as long as the love is requited, its enough,i hate breaking my routine ,the other person should understand that im selfish and accept not being my top priority(i doubt the existence of such a guy though)

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So seriously, with my current situation and personality, I'm pretty sure I won't be dating for a really long time. knock on wood

this^

im just weird,self absorbed and complicated,so i guess im better off without love

I don't have a life 🙁

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This poll makes a painful statement about this community, even if it should be an obvious one -_-;;

Seriously? I mean, the numbers are at fifty percent. Makes you wonder how people who hang out on this site exist, since half of us are apparently incapable of reproduction.

On topic: I'm pretty easygoing. Less than once a week feels wrong, but I tend to be far less clingy than the other party (spending most evenings holed up in a corner writing hopefully-better-than-awful fiction takes precedence). Sometimes that doesn't go over very well, but what can you do?

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We're all lonely people. ):

I guess you're right; the vast majority seems to have answered "I don't date".
I'm one of them, but I'd be lying if I said I'm really happy being single.

Even though I'm not ugly (I wouldn't go as far as to say I'm beautiful, but I'm at least average or above), I seem to have an air about me that keeps people (men especially) from approaching me, which is nice to keep those annoying people with their questionnaires on the streets from bothering me, but I have no idea how to turn it off 😢 .

I'm already 20 and I've never even had a boyfriend (I've never been in love either for that matter); I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I don't want to die a virgin either (a 20-year-old Dutch virgin, I guess I'm part of a severely endangered species 😉 ); I would be nice if I could get married before I'm 25.

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There are far more singles in this world than people in a relationship.

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Even though I'm not ugly (I wouldn't go as far as to say I'm beautiful, but I'm at least average or above), I seem to have an air about me that keeps people (men especially) from approaching me, which is nice to keep those annoying people with their questionnaires on the streets from bothering me, but I have no idea how to turn it off 😢

It's the same for me. I've developed a cold surface toward every stranger because I have encountered much negativity toward myself when I was younger. It helped me back then, but now it's just a bother (I can't turn it off either). I've had plenty of opportunities to get into a relationship, but I get so freaking nervous and then the cold parade pops up. Geez. 😐

I don't date, and have never had the oppurtunity to date. Never bothered to go looking for it either. But if I did have a significant other, I would want her to be with me all the time - notice I say 'want', it doesn't mean it'll actually happen 🙂 .

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

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Even though I'm not ugly (I wouldn't go as far as to say I'm beautiful, but I'm at least average or above), I seem to have an air about me that keeps people (men especially) from approaching me, which is nice to keep those annoying people with their questionnaires on the streets from bothering me, but I have no idea how to turn it off 😢

It's the same for me. I've developed a cold surface toward every stranger because I have encountered much negativity toward myself when I was younger. It helped me back then, but now it's just a bother (I can't turn it off either). I've had plenty of opportunities to get into a relationship, but I get so freaking nervous and then the cold parade pops up. Geez. 😐

I know how you feel; I was bullied when I was younger (mainly in primary school, but also in the beginning of secondary school, especially during first year) for being different from my classmates (by different I mean more intelligent; my grades were almost always top of class during the time I was bullied); fortunately for me, the Dutch educational system stratifies students based on acedemic achievement upon entering secondary school, and further after the first year; so, after my first year in secondary school the bullying got a lot less because I was put together with people who were also more intelligent than the others; and after third year it stopped completely because the bullies got held back, but I guess by then the damage had already been done.

I have trouble getting close to people because I can't help thinking they must have some hidden ulterior motive for trying to get close to me; I don't like to let my guard down, because I'm afraid of getting hurt.
I do have some friends, but they're few and all girls

Because of the bullying I've never really gotten along well with people my own age; I get along better with adults, and I'm often told I seem older than I really am (most of the time people meeting me for the first time think I'm at least 23 already). This is probably also the reason that the few men who broke through my protective barrier and dared approach me were all quite a bit older than me (FYI, there were only 2, and one was 7 years older than me, and the other was 11 years older than me; and I was 17 back then, and they too thought I was older).

I also am a quite a nervous person (I was born in the year of the horse; horses are my favourite animals, and I think it suits me), plus I get flustered quite easily, which is embarrassing, and I don't like it when embarrassing things happen to my body that are outside of my control; so, I guess I instinctively try to avoid situations that make that happen.

I think I've also been affected by the tsundere-syndrome 😐 I really don't like admitting things that are conflicting with the image I set for myself (which is: Do whatever you like, I don't care, I'm not going to get too involved with anyone; that way I won't get hurt).

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I have had similar problems. Low self-esteem growing up.

It isn't as much of a problem now, and I'm fairly confident in whom I've become; however, the body remembers what the mind wants to forget. Unconscious bodily reactions like being unable to maintain eye contact, forgetting my words, frequently being unable to initiate physical contact, etc... They are difficult to control.

I'm also bad at expressing emotion naturally. I have a permanently bored look on me. 🙁 Unless I deliberately smile or force myself to laugh, I'd seem very cold. I have to consciously force myself to open up.

If you have similar problems, then you too probably just lack charisma face-to-face. I don't claim to know if this would help you, but I'm basically forced to be very verbally honest. It helps so that people don't misunderstand my misleading visual cues (or lack thereof).

I don't date, it's not that I don't want to, well it is sorta like that. It also has to do with my religion, you know, no one likes the promiscuous girl, so I've never dated and I really am too involved in trying to be the smartest person in school to be concerned in a love interest, reading about love like shoujo or something is fun but dating, right now it's not for me. When guys ask me out I tell them I'd make a horrible girlfriend, you would come second to school, there would be no time to talk 'cause I'm always doing something school related or some new kind of project.

Also there's the stress factor, people always go "Oh you're so lucky, everything just comes to you". When you're takling a shitload of Ap classes everything does not just "come to you". I seriously think I have a problem, when I don't have homework or something to do my brain is so used to being alert its like if I don't have homework, there must be something wrong, I forgot I had it or something, that's how high strung I am, a boyfriend is just added stress, when things slow down, I'll date for now school is kicking my ass.

i knew this girl... she wanted to talk/meet every freaking day... wanted to kill myself lol so yah not too often

Ha, I'm the sort of crazy obsessive person where I want contact EVERYDAY, or an almost daily bases. Me, very clingy. But then again finding the right kind of guy to want to cling to ... You need the right person in your life to want to cling to everyday.

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i'm high maintenance ! .. which is why they never stick around XD

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Never dated ,officially. I've gone on a few dates, but in general, I'm not sure I want to date. When I start to really think about it, I come to the conclusion that I'd be a terrible girlfriend. I like to be by myself, so I don't know how I'd react with a boyfriend to wonder about.