I'm looking for a realistic yaoi/shounen ai with a good story to it.
Not just full of meaningless sex.

I'd like it if the two main characters has a budding relationship,
and not just falling in love with each other after a few days.

One that I liked is Seven Days - Monday→Thursday.

The Tyrant Falls in Love
Kanjou Spectrum

If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

Fujunna Renai
Sweet Bitter Candy same author

never fr0wn cause you never know whos in love with your sm 🙂 e
Your mind is like a parachute it works best when its open